How to be a good Boyfriend?

They say “Being in love is the simplest thing to do”. However, dating is hard. This is ironic of course, as no woman has the time to invest their time in the men who have bad perspective and bad shoes. Jokes apart, while women have the privilege to simply show up dressing up well and land like a mermaid, boys have to do a lot of stuff to be categorized as a ‘Good Boyfriend.' Being in a relationship with a guy is like working in a minefield, he has to literally dig up in the broken little hearts and incomplete dreams. Being a ‘Good Boyfriend’ is more than just showing up on time and bringing flowers and chocolates.

The romance novels and chick flicks have changed our lives. It has changed the opinions on love and relationship. The bar of being a standard good boyfriend is pretty high currently, so many guys think it is very hard to achieve. Girls are extremely sensitive when it comes to being in a relationship. They desire to have everything perfect in a relationship but reality has the capability to complicate the relationship sometimes. Guys these days are far different from what we read and see in the novels and movies. All the girls had their fair share to read and see the stories about high school romance and best friends meeting at the end. Also, it is pretty obvious that all the girls who have seen that classic chick-flick once wished to have the same love life. Girls love to fantasize their love life and in order to fit in that fantasy love story is not a piece of cake for boys. Women are forlorn romantics.

A lot of guys are struggling to become a good boyfriend in the eyes of their beloved. It might be hard but don’t lose hope yet. Giving up will not make you best boyfriend either. So if you aren’t really that douche bag who is going to be insensitive for his relationship then work on it. If you have chased her enough and now you are tired as you already have her, don’t give up as if there is nothing more left to do in a relationship. Be the guy with whom she is the best of herself, be that boyfriend who still takes her breath away when you guys are together and be that partner who always looks for a solution when there is a potential fight. These things will certainly make her fall in love with you even more. So take some time and get ready to pen down some notes that you will require to become the best boyfriend:

#1. Surprise Her, Cliche But Effective

Guys, don’t think girls will only be surprised when you will decorate her entire room with candles or balloons. Women like small gestures full of love. More than liking, they appreciate it. Just get her favorite candies sometime or surprise her with delivering a pizza at her doorsteps. Leave flowers or a simple handmade card when you leave her place. Bring her ice-cream for the midnight craving or make a collage of all your memories. These are the examples of few little efforts that will cheer her up instantly. You might not know it but girls love to get pretty little surprises and that can make their day. It will not only surprise her but also remind her that you remember the smallest things she likes. You can give these cute little surprises to your girlfriend once in awhile to make her feel that she has got the best boyfriend ever.

#2. Choose Kindness Rather Winning The Argument

Being the right one in the argument feels awesome, we realize that. However, if an argument is causing damage to your relationship then you should rather use the approach of being polite and kind. If you will always focus on winning an argument and that is what your priority is, then the only thing you will be sharing your night with is going to be the radiant glow of being a righteous man. You might also have her anger messages as the cherry on the top. No matter how intellectually superior and wise you think of yourself, hurting your girl or letting her go because of that is not going to help you in the long run. If you still think the rightness should be prioritized over your love than your true place is in Civil War. You will serve as a General so much more better than a boyfriend. Therefore, focus on being polite and think about the relationship and the beautiful girl you have because battles are not going to change anyone’s mind. It will just lead to bitterness.

#3. Let Her Know How Much You Think About Her

Yes, you heard me right. Girls want to be on your mind all the time, and they love to know it from you. She will the happiest creature on the planet once they know how much you think about her the whole day. Maybe texting her after some gaps or if you are occupied the whole time let her know at the end of the day that you missed her and you can not wait to see her soon. You may not see her inside the phone when she is reading that text but trust me she is on cloud nine at that particular time. Even when you are together and you will express your feelings for her, you will realize the moment is euphoric. Girls are obviously deep and emotional beings and love to be loved. They crave for such feelings where they know they are the most desirable women for you. Girls just want to be reminded that how much you love her and they will be charged for a couple of days. It is nice for them to know that they are invading someone’s thought for most of the time in a day, especially when that’s the person they love.

#4. Buy Her The Things She Likes

Okay, we are just not talking about chocolates and teddy bears here (of course you can buy them if you girl likes them). But apart from that be thoughtful and unique in this case. Like a shirt she is maybe looking for since some time, her favorite Starbucks drink with chocolate waffle maybe or probably a visit to her favorite undies shop will make her day. These things and gifts will be unique and meaningful. A girl like the stuff they can use. So invest a little time before you buy her something that becomes useless for her after a while.

#5. Be The Most Adventurous Boyfriend

Be her playful and adventurous spirit. Climb up and sneak out the middle of the night or do something crazy when you are with her. This will not only make her love you even more but also keeps the relationship more new and fresh. You will never face a problem of being in the relationship which is monotonous and boring. She might sometimes hesitate to take risks and being adventurous, but deep down she loves it. You should be playful to keep the spark going. The chase should never end from both the sides. Try experimenting something new every time you go out. Try going out on trips which involve trekking or probably bungee jumping. This will refresh your bond and also the fights will automatically decrease with time.

#6. Be Her Best Friend Forever

The most important thing a girl needs is the support of her best friend in every single situation. So make sure you gain that position in her life so that she has the trust to share everything with you. This can also sound cliche, but once you become her best friend, you will ultimately realize that how important it is for a girl to share things with her best friend. Since you are her BFF, you will have the privilege to know every single thing about her life. As long as she has a best friend in you, someone whom she can trust, the person who will never judge her or never get mad at her, who respects her and her decisions, stand by her side no matter what and deeply in love with her, she is not going anywhere leaving you. The list can go on all day long, but you need to realize that for becoming the best boyfriend you will have to become her best friend gradually.

Girls are those caring and loving people in the world who will change your entire world once they come in your life. So why not try and make an effort to make her happy and satisfied with the fact that she has someone who deserves her. The list of being the best boyfriend is endless, but most importantly, be someone who can accept her for her beautiful soul and also for her worst flaws. Love the way she is and the rest will follow.

We hope to enlighten you with this piece of the list we created to solve the massive problem almost every boyfriend's faces. What worked best for you, do let us know in the comment section below.

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