Physical abuse is only one form of abusive behavior. An abusive relationship can go on to take various forms including verbal, mental, emotional or sexual.
While it is tough to survive in an abusive relationship, it is even more arduous to move out of an abusive relationship. Most people tend to take too much time even to realize that they are in an abusive relationship.
Here are 11 ways in which you can come out of an abusive relationship:-
#1. Be Clear With Yourself
The first step of coming out of an abusive relationship is to clear your head of all the things which are holding you back. You need to analyze your situation and determine the kind of abuse you are being subjected to. Let go of all the excuses that you have been making to stay in a relationship.
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#2. Stop Self-Blaming
A common tendency of the abused is to presume that they are at fault. Besides assuming that they must have done something wrong, they may even begin to blame themselves to have entered into the relationship. To step out of an abusive relationship, putting an end to self-blaming is indispensable.
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#3. Don’t Keep Waiting
Waiting for things to get better on their own is a highly erroneous habit of people in an abusive relationship. The option of moving out of the relationship never occurs to them. It depends upon their level of dependency on the abusing partner.
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#4. Take A Firm Stand For Yourself
You need to maintain a firm and unshaken voice against the abuser. Letting your partner know that you are not going to take the abuse is something that can distance you from the abuse.
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#5. Financial Foundation
It is of vital importance that you have money of your own while in an abusive relationship. Having your own money efficiently facilitates your moving out. Try to single out all the joint accounts that you may be having with your partners.
#6. Step Back Without Declarations
Announcing in front of your partner that you are moving out of the relationship will do you no good. You will find yourself stuck in the never-ending spiral of arguments and you might even be convinced back into the relationship. It is wise to step out quietly.
#7. Have Your Support System Ready
Informing your friends and family about your situation and having a support system available can be of great help in coming out of a relationship. Besides getting a place to go back to, you will find yourself protected with emotional support.
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#8. No Compromises
Giving into a settlement or letting your feelings for your partner may drive you back to the relationship. This is another common error that the abused partner tends to commit.
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#9. Have Your Documents Under Your Control
Keeping your records under your partner’s control is not a wise idea as you might need them in case you are preparing yourself to move out of the house. It might become impossible to get your documents back once you leave.
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#10. Break All Sorts Of Ties
Besides getting your bank account separated, it is important to break every connection that you possibly have with your partner. This also includes blocking your partner from all your social media accounts.
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#11. Therapy
You can get all the emotional support you want from your friends and family. However, if you still feel unable to cope up with the emotional trauma, you may seek advice from a professional therapist.
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