Ladies, raise your hand if you have come across a guy who has just given you mixed signals. Most of the girls have been through this stage, and we totally understand, it is not the best feeling in the world.
If a guy is sending you all those classic signs that can confuse you and you are not able to get those mixed signals, stay with us. Let us first figure out what can those signs mean and then we'll jump on to the advice on how you can deal with a guy who is sending you mixed signals.
#1. He’s Holding Out His Feelings: Let’s try to be wise and honest here, he is probably just holding his feelings back from you, and he is insanely good at it. He can hold his feelings back probably because he is saving it for the right person. Let’s be practical; he might be just killing your time.
#2. He’s Seeking Attention: The guys who throw mix feelings are mostly behind attention. He can be that kind of a guy who is just striving for the attention of women and when he is finally getting it, he’s taking the most out of it. He might be entertaining himself by being hot and cold with you.
#3. He’s Just Testing The Waters: There are many possibilities that he is just dipping his one toe in the water to test it. Probably he is just terrified that you might not have the same feelings and therefore, he is hiding it. He is just afraid to take a leap of faith and is, thus, trying to confirm things first.
#4. He’s Extremely Dramatic: Some people are very dramatic in general, yes men too. Enough of stereotyping ladies. Men can be equally dramatic and if he is intentionally complicating the things, he is probably very dramatic and loves when there is something new to watch and experience.
#5. He’s Probably After Sex: There can be a very strong reason for him not committing and not getting into a named relationship because he is just after physical intimacy. All they are doing can be just for bedroom benefits. He is clearly running away from any emotional connection.
#6. It’s Too Soon For Him: Probably he actually thinks that it is too soon for a relationship. He is not ready to commit, or he thinks you both should take more time to be clearly sure about being with each other. He is giving those mixed signal as he is being selfish and does not want to lose you by not showing interest at all.
#7. He’s Confused: His mixed signals can be a surprise for him as well. He is probably is not even aware that he is giving any mixed signals. He could be struggling with his own feelings. In this state, you can make him comfortable by letting him know your feelings.
#8. He Wants To Be The Cool Guy: And like every other guy, he is just trying to be cool and hard to get. It is really important for some guys to puff their chest if a girl is paying attention to them. They act uninterested in public usually and then show affection towards you in private.
#1. Verify Your Emotions First Of All
Before you start investing your time and emotions into someone, you need to figure out how you actually feel for them. First of all, clear your mind about what exactly do you want. He will keep giving signals because you have no control over him. However, you have full control of yourself and your feelings. Consider them and verify what emotions you have for him.
#2. Don’t Jump To Conclusions
Most of the people start judging right after they get mixed signals from people. This, however, is not the right thing to do. Jumping on to conclusion can get you into a very bad situation. Take your time to know the situation better to get a conclusion from your side. Give yourself a little time.
#3. Try And Collect Information About Him
Collecting the background information about him is a very good idea. Before you start getting into conclusions about his strange behavior and mixed signals, do some homework to get a better perspective on the situation. You don’t know their situation until you ask him or get information about it.
#4. Provide Them Space To Fix Their Issues
Instead of having a whiplash because of their behavior, you should back off for a couple of days. It is very important for you to give them enough space for their own issues. If they are giving you mixed signals, there must be some problem with it as we discussed earlier as well. They should have their own space and time to fix their own issues.
#5. Avoid Questing Them Repeatedly
If you really think something is genuinely wrong from their side, go ahead and ask them what it is? However, if they are not willing to answer any of your questions and trying to keep it to himself, just leave him to it. Some guys don’t like to talk about their problems to anyone. Therefore, give him enough time to trust you completely, so that he can tell you his problems himself without you asking repeatedly.
#6. Stay Confident
The mixed feelings from a guy can easily shake your confidence in yourself. However, don’t let that happen to yourself. You can get insecure about yourself and unsure about your own decisions because of the lack of confidence. Therefore, the worse you can do to yourself is losing your confidence because of a guy’s uncertainty.
#7. Skip Overthinking And Overanalyzing
Though it is very easy to say and hard to do, the best advice for you at this particular situation will be not to overthink. Don’t get wrapped up in your own assumptions because they are acting weird. It is not your mistake that they are hiding something that you deserve to know. Overthinking will lead you to more anxiety and depression.
#8. Determine Your Status If You Haven’t Already
A possible thing that he might be thinking can be regarding your own status. He might be confused because of your past or behavior that you are not ready to take things seriously. Thus, if you feel that they are confused with your status, let them know how you feel and what your status is regarding them.
#9. Take Control Of The Game
Since now you have played according to their rules, but as we discovered it is not actually working. Therefore, it is probably your time to take control. Try something which is beyond his imagination, ignore him. If he flirts with you, play the ‘hard to get’ game. Let them know how is it actually played. He will understand the situation that you were in, once you will put them in the same shoe.
#10. Use Your Sexual Attraction
Learn to use your sexual power to get him on track. Try to understand how far he wishes to go and then use his willingness to your advantage. You could probably get into his mind by attracting him sexually. If he has something for you emotionally, he will tell once he will get in touch with you physically.
#11. Don’t Rush Into Relationship
Since you don’t know his exact feelings, try not to rush into the relationship. By handling his games and mixed feeling, it will become very difficult for you to handle a relationship with him. Don’t become so easy to get for him. After all, you never want to get into a relationship with someone you don’t deserve.
#12. Talk It Out
If this drama is getting too much for you to handle, then talk it out. Talk to a friend or a sibling, but talk. It will take your confidence and charm from you if you will keep getting involved in that mess alone. Friends are there to help you in such situations, therefore, take the shoulder of a friend to get out of this mess.
#13. Prepare Yourself For The Outcomes
If you are aware he is giving you mixed signal which you can’t judge, then don’t play in the dark for too long. At least makes yourself realize that you can get an unknown outcome. Be prepared for anything that comes next as you may get something you have never imagined. Be it good or bad, but the outcome is still unpredictable from his side.
#14. Know When To Walk Away
Sometimes mixed signals are actually a sign of the fact that he is not right for you. You need to understand the time when you need to give up on him. There can be various reasons that can be behind his mixed signals. Therefore, understand the situation before it’s too late and walk away when you had enough.
This was our guide on how to deal with a guy who is giving you mixed signals. Share your thoughts as well with us in the comment section below.
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