Have you ever been confused between love and infatuation? Has it ever happened to you that you are confused whether you are in love with the person or is it a mere infatuation? It can be very confusing! You think you love that person, but you don’t really feel like this is what love should be like, or you are worried that you are just making it all up in your mind.
There is the difference between love and infatuated. Essentially infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone whereas love is a deep affection for someone that lasts the test of time. The problem is that infatuation is a powerful feeling that can make you think you are in love. Still, you are not sure if it is infatuation or love? Following are some signs that will definitely help you to know the differences between love and infatuation.
What is true love all about? Everyone wants to know what true love is, and many folks think they can feel it happen, but do they? Are you experiencing true love? Love is a sweet, powerful prescription. When you feel it, you really feel it. It can overhang time, making the whole world seem tranquil except for you two. It nourishes you more than any nourishment; you feel full in the presence of love.
#1. Nothing Is Hidden
Does your partner share everything with you? If yes, then it is true love. People who are in true love don’t hide anything from each other. They openly share everything because they want to share their lives with that person. That is a part of being in a loving long-term relationship with someone. You don’t want to hide anything from them because you want them to share in your life – the good and the bad – and cognize what you experience.
#2. You Don’t Play Games
If your partner plays with your feelings, is it called a true love? If he/she is hiding something, always lying, never inform you where they are, cancel your plans, is it true love? Off course not, people who are living in a state of lust, a false sense of admiration for someone, or a total sense of selfishness, will play games. When you are thinking more about yourself and your needs and pleasure than someone else, you are not in a state of true love, and you will do ridiculous things with a lack of seriousness and respect for the other person.
#3. There Is Complete Respect
If you have established true love, then you will give and receive respect. You will respect them for who they are and what they do in the world, counting with you. You will see the good in them. You will treat them as a human being and view them as your equal, not your loftier or someone who is lower than you. And, they will treat you with the same level of respect.
#4. Caring About Each Other’s Welfare
Do you care? If you are in true love, you absolutely care about this, you care about each other’s happiness and health. This means that you don’t try to hurt their contentment or wellbeing in any way. For instance, you don’t abuse them, physically or mentally. You don’t put them down, stress them out, or make them feel bad about what they do. As an alternative, you care for them, support them and make them feel good about themselves and what they do. You hearten them to do things that make them feel happy and healthy.
#5. Not Focusing On Their Flaws
This is not what a lot of folks believe it to be. We have seen many people (many in my direct life) who say that their offensive relationship is what true love is all about since they are aware of their partner’s past and acknowledge and accept them for who they are. Therefore, they are willing to take the physical and mental abuse, but it shows their partner just how much they care. That’s not true love, that’s being a victim. Accepting someone’s flaws means accepting that they are not perfect. A flaw is something that they have not perfected yet, such as a weakness in putting their laundry away or a lack of commitment to things that could really benefit their lives. It is not something that they do to you to make you feel bad or hurt you.
#6. Are You Kind?
When you sense true love with someone, you are thoughtful, generous, and friendly with them. You don’t try to hurt them; in fact, you don’t ever want to hurt them. You are worried about them and show concern. You think about their needs. You are demonstrative and enduring towards them. You don’t speak harshly or use mean words towards them.
#7. Do You Keep Your Promises?
Before you go out on your first date, the only promise you and your partner make to have a good time and give this relation a shot. At the back of your head, you’re not even sure that you’ll stick to this promise. After all, you’re anxious and you’ve never even met the guy, so what does it really matter if you break a promise? Therefore a promise to someone you actually love has a lot of weight. Promises are an allowance of trust. The one you love the most and that person breaks your promises; then they are breaking your trust as well. This is why someone who truly loves you will enlighten you of the times they can’t make their promises instead of just leaving you hanging in the dust, and vice-versa.
#8. You See Things From Their Viewpoint
When the relationship is about you, then your standpoint is all that you see. But, when you are in a relationship with someone you truly love, you value that person enough to see things from their perspective. For instance, you can see their true intents, instead of tagging what you think their intentions are. You can also see where they are coming from and why they need or want what they do in their life, instead of judging them for needing or wanting something different than you.
So how do we get to know if our feelings for another person are just infatuation and not love? Here, we discuss what infatuation really is, how it’s different from love, and how you know if you’re really infatuated with someone or if it could be something more.
#1. They Seem High Above You
It’s common to put someone we are infatuated with on a platform so high above ourselves that feel we are lucky that they can even see us. In short, we make them to be something they are not. We see their strengths, their excellence, their positive attributes, but we are blind to see their weaknesses, imperfections, and negative attributes, while we can clearly see ours. Do you feel the same? If all you can see is perfection in them, then it’s infatuation and not love. Nobody is perfect, no matter how much it seems that way. Every one of us has faults and makes mistakes and can get a bit aggravating to other human beings. When you truly love someone, you can see them for who they are – the good and the bad – and love them anyway.
#2. You Feel Like You Know Everything About Them
Do you know everything about your partner? When you are in a state where you feel like you know the whole thing about them (but you actually don’t), you are in a state of infatuation. If you think you know what sort of person they are, and what they want out of their life, but you haven’t truly sat down and talked to them on all of those things or really had experience with them that imparted you those things, then you are infatuated, not in love.
#3. Feeling Jealous
Suppose if he/she talk to some other person or hang out a whole night with another person. So, will you feel jealous? Though they are just friends, your heart and mind is not ready to accept, does this happen to you? However, if someone talks to the person you are with, you become suddenly jealous. You want to show everyone, including them, that they are yours. That jealousy is a sign of infatuation and not love. Love is not about being dismayed with the person for the reason that they are attractive, friendly, or popular. It is about feeling associated with them in a way that doesn’t make you feel like you are in a state of losing them to someone else. It is a self-assured feeling that you are bound to them in a superior way and that they are so fond of you that they view you inversely than other people.
#4. You Can’t Wait To Take The Next Step
Infatuation is all about making things happen NOW. You want them to love you and pledge to you and be your one and only because you are frightened that you are going to lose them if you don’t. But love doesn’t work that way. Love acquires time to shape, and if you are in love with someone, you enjoy the method of getting to know them and edifying your relationship with them one step at a time.
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