Sometimes we tend to get into a relationship, and it takes us some time to figure out what exactly it is going to be like to be with this person who is our current romantic interest. At times it is really not possible for us to judge beforehand what exactly things are going to turn out to be like. But, it is extremely crucial to understand the fact that in case you are dating someone and you are making an effort to build a relationship that is going to be long-lasting and is going to make it possible for you to be the best version of yourself and yet have a peaceful relationship with the other person.
You will need to keep the fact in mind that along with making an effort to build a long-lasting relationship with this person, you will also have to keep your wishes in mind; you will have to make sure that it does not become a co-dependent relationship where most things are one-sided. One thing about co-dependence is the fact that it also depends on the person who is allowing codependency. When the relationship becomes such that one of the partners becomes too dependent on the other and there is absolutely no space for the other person to continue to be their true self, it is essential to be able to speak up your mind and let the other person know the fact that you are not completely happy with the kind of relationship that the two of you have created.
If this kind of conversation fails to restore your independent space in the relationship and your partner continues to be dependent on you, then it will be essential for you to make it a point to take some drastic decision and to make it possible for your partner to understand the need to change the approach in the relationship. If that does not seem possible, then you will have to make it a point to let go of this relationship. Deciding to get out of a relationship is a really difficult one, and it may be impossible for you think of it in the very beginning, but you will have to make a choice keeping in mind the fact that you do not have to give up your choices to accommodate that of others.
If you are not able to keep your relationship balanced and wish to end a relationship that you feel is taking a major toll on you; if you are thinking of ending a codependent relationship and do not know the best possible way to go about doing it; Here are the things that you will have to keep in mind in order to make it possible.
#1. Recognize The Truth
Sometimes things are right in front of our eye, and yet it is so very difficult for us to accept it. We tend to know what is going on in a relationship and also the fact that we need to get rid of some negative behavior that we are putting up with on a regular basis. We tend to be in denial regarding a lot of things that are going on in our relationship. There are times when we are so involved with someone that it becomes impossible for us to see the negative they are bringing into our lives and what they are doing to us is making us compromise on the kind of person we really are.
Denial is something that can make it impossible for us to get out of a relationship that is making it impossible for us to live the truest version of our self. When we are too attached to someone or something, it becomes impossible for us to acknowledge all those negative aspects of that person and more so we also ignore the fact that they are negatively affecting us and making it impossible for us to live a healthy life.
#2. Acknowledge Your Own Feelings
You will have to make it a point to acknowledge all that is going on in your mind and all that you are feeling. Please understand the fact that it is not just about being in a relationship and having one in your life for the heck of it. If you feel burdened in the relationship and if you are the only one who is making all the efforts to make things work out in the relationship then you will have to make sure that you are strong enough to take a decision that will help you to get rid of the burden that you are experiencing in the current relationship.
This is the reason you will need to be able to take charge of your life, and at the same time, you will have to make it a point to accept the kind of feelings that you are having about the kind of situation you are in. Most of us are living such fast lives that we tend to forget that we need to take some time off and take a deep look at what exactly we are experiencing at the moment. Sometimes we need to mindfully take a look at the kind of feelings we are actually experiencing. And then we need to make it a point to get rid of all those things that are adding negative emotions to our life. Being aware of your own emotions is really crucial.
#3. Creating A Good Amount Of Distance
You will need to make sure that you are creating as much distance with this person as possible and letting them know the fact that you are not comfortable with codependence. What is very essential is to make it a point that you create a good amount of emotional distance with this person. It is because of emotional attachment that it becomes impossible for us to get out of a relationship no matter how negative it is and no matter how adversely it is affecting us. That is the reason why it is most essential to creating all the distance you can with the person you wish to end the relationship with.
Only emotional distance may not prove to be all helpful and you will have to make it a point to maintain physical distance with this person. Maintaining distance may seem to be the most difficult thing to do, especially when it is with someone who you have been close to for a long period of time. You may get over all the challenge and make peace with the fact that you will have to let go of someone. But, some things become such an integral part of our life that we are not able to get rid of our habit of the company of that person. We really need o make sure that we do not let these habits restrict us.
#4. Spend Some Quality Me Time
It is really very essential to spend some quality me time and do all those things that are crucial for you to feel happy. Often when we closely share our life with others, we are not able to make sure that we do all those things that we love doing. When you make the decision to get out of the relationship because it is not healthy, you need to spend time doing all of those things that make you feel happy. The moment you begin to do so you will realize the importance of being able to do things that make your soul happy.
This will make it easy for you to make decisions that are going to be for yourself and not based on attachment to someone else who is not making it possible for you to live a healthy life. When we do such things, we are able to make sure that we give our self all the care and attention we need to make it possible for our self to live a happy and fulfilling life.
It is essential to understand the fact that it becomes difficult sometimes to make it possible for us to make time for our self and all those things that we intend to do but never end up doing. When we begin to devote time to all such things, we understand how important it is for us to make time for all things that we personally prefer to do. This is the reason why it is all the more essential for us to free our self from a relationship that is based on codependence as it is impossible for us to live a life where we feel caged because of the burden others tend to throw on us.
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