How to Get Over a Crush?

We all have friends and people we like to address as our tribe. We love hanging out with these people and the reason they are our tribe is that most often they have similar likes and dislikes and we all tend to get along really well. In spite of the fact that we have such people who we enjoy sharing our lives with, we almost always wish to have a relationship which is close to our heart and a person we can create a romantic bond with. It is absolutely acceptable that there are times when we develop a liking for a particular person. When these feelings seem to persist for a long period of time, we find it hard to stop thinking about this person; we begin to acknowledge it as having a crush on that person. A crush is that stage where you wish to take your relationship from just being friends to being in a romantic relationship, but are not sure about it. Or, in most cases, the person you have a crush over is not aware of your feelings for them.

What is crucial to keep in mind is the fact that when you have a crush on any person, it is not necessary that the other person will have the same feelings. Having a crush is very different from the phase where both the individuals involved in the relationship are aware of the feelings they harbor for each other. This is the initial stage where you just begin to develop the feelings of having a romantic relationship with the other person; you may not continue to feel the same way for a long period, that can be called a brief crush. Please understand the idea that although a crush is nothing serious when it comes to assessing the seriousness of the feelings, if it tends to remain the same and become stronger over a period, then there is a possibility that it might become impossible for you to get over the person.

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There are times when we face situations where we just cannot seem to get over the wish to be with some specific person. We know very well that the person is not interested, or maybe the person is already in a relationship. Yet, we cannot seem to get rid of the wish to be with this person. This is not unusual and is a common thing faced by most people. Sometimes we cannot control some feelings, and it is not in our hand to make sure we keep them in check. Feelings are not always deliberate, sometimes they just take a road of their own, and we cannot do much about it. What we can control is how we react to the situation we are facing. When your crush does not harbor the same feelings as you do for them, when the two of you are not on the same page, it is important to be able to make peace with this reality and move on in life. There is no point being stubborn and stuck up with the same thing, which we are very well aware of, is not going to work out for us.

Have you been finding it impossible to get over your crush, in spite of the fact that you know you cannot be together? Is it impossible for you to get over your crush even though you know they are not the right person for you? Do you find it hard to get your crush out of your mind, even though you know the relationship is not going to go anywhere? Here are a few things you can do to get over your crush and move on in life.

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How To Get Over A Crush?

#1. The first thing you will need to do is make peace with the idea that you cannot have a relationship with your crush. The reason for this can be anything, but the essential point is, you will need to make peace with it. What this means is you need to stop thinking about immediately and possibilities of making the relationship work, any plans of the things you both could have done together and what you both could have been together. It will be a little difficult to get these thoughts out of your mind, but, this is the essential step that is going to make the difference. The moment you stop resisting the change you will be able to see the difference in your approach towards this matter. When we are able to get it out of mind, other things like an encounter with this person or mentioning his/her name while a discussion is going on, will not make you feel worse. This is because you have chosen to accept the way this situation has panned out and also not wanting to make the impossible happen anymore.

#2. Irrespective of how brief the period of emotional attraction was, the idea that it is not going to pan out the way you wish for it to, can make you unhappy and lead to the accumulation of a lot of negative emotions in you. The best way to completely let go of this situation and forget all about it is by letting all the negative emotions and the regret out. What this means is you need to share these feelings with someone or find a way to let them out. The best possible way of getting all of this out is by having a word with your close friend, your parent or any person you are close to, who will understand your feelings and help you heal. Getting things that are negative out of the system is the best thing any person can choose to do when they wish to get over any negative situation or incident in their life.

When you keep accumulating these negative feelings within you, you will never be able to be free of the baggage of the past; this will block all the good that you are sure to experience in the future. Thus, getting it out of your mind is the best way to get the baggage off your back.

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#3. There are surely some reasons because of which your relationship with this person is not possible or is not going to work out. These reasons are very crucial because they will constantly remind you why it is essential to get over your crush. What makes it difficult to let go of the wish to be with a person, are all the good things we see in them, all the things we could see happening with this person as a part of our future.

When we focus on all those things that make it impossible for all our wishes to come true, we constantly remind ourselves of the reason why we need to make peace with what is happening and not keep resisting this consequence.

#4. Please continue to be optimistic and always know the fact that there are good things waiting to take place in the future. This is just a temporary setback. Just because you had a strong feeling for someone and it did not work out the way you wished for it to, does not mean that it will never work out again. There is a time when things work out the way we wish for it to, and we need to trust in the fact that things are going to work out fine. If you continue to be negative, you will not be able to make the most of all the good that is taking place in your life in the now.

Being negative is only going to make things worse, it is not going to make it possible for you to be with your crush and undo what is taking place.

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#5. What happened is not in your hand, but making the most of this solo time you have is a good way to move on. Please keep in mind the fact that you are not going to be single for all your life, but at this moment you are not involved with any person, and you have all the time for yourself. Why not make the most of this time? You will not be able to do many things when you are in a relationship; you will have to at that point make time for the things you both wish to do together. At this moment you can do things that make you happy, take care of your fitness, take care of your health, make time to improve the skills you have, make time for your hobbies and all those things you always wanted to do and experience.

Are you at this point in your life where you are making an effort to get over your crush you know you cannot be with and are finding it impossible to do so? Do you think the above article is going to be helpful for making the required changes? Please comment in the box below and let us know what your opinion is about the above article.

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