How to get your Man to Open to you?

People have formed the notion that men do not have feelings but that is far from the truth. They just feel differently than women do. That does not mean that they are devoid of emotions. We as women often feel frustrated at why our guys do not express their feelings like we do. But when they do, most times we act in a very unempathetic way which makes them not share things with us in the future.

Men feel things the same way as women and maybe more than them but the society has defined their role as the pillars of strength. So how can they be the fragile ones? They cannot take on two different opposing characters. So they choose to be the strong, emotionless and reserved category to fit in the picture that is created by the world for them. It is judgments that you understand why your man might be hiding those emotions from you. Here are some of the common reasons we have noticed that make men put on a mask on their feelings.

Why Men Hide Their Emotions?

From the time boys grow up, they are taught by parents that tough boys do not cry. They grow up believing the same thing. They still have the same emotions as they always did but they become experts at hiding them well over the time. Even when they try to share their inner sentiments, they do get disapproving responses due to which they stop doing it. They consider having the emotional side as some sort of flaw in them. They become scared of being judged for being open about how they feel. In order to fit into the norms formed by the society, they show their fake sides to the society. They start believing that being emotional is not part of their masculinity and hence, they should not reveal it to everybody.

Men grow up hiding their sensitive side, and they never learn the proper way of expressing feelings. Being told to hold back tears when they are sad, it triggers a cycle in which they cannot recognize their own feelings and find it very difficult to express it in the right way. This world has often defined being a man as being strong through all the ups and downs. So men do not show their emotional side for fear of appearing weak. They feel low self-complex if they are unable to live up to the expectations of being a strong gender. Even in a relationship, men have to be the protector which means they have to hold back their fears to appear good enough to protect their lady. This creates a disbalance in the relationship as one person is doing all the work. Both of them should be taking equal responsibilities irrespective of the genders. Let us discuss some further ways you can make your other half talk to you about his emotions.

How To Get Your Man To Open To You?

#1. Make Him Feel Comfortable

It is not so difficult to make your man open up to you. You just have to make sure that they feel comfortable enough with you that they do not hesitate to be themselves. They should not fear being judged if they are scared or emotional about things. Let him know that you understand that he also feels a lot like every other human and you are okay with him being that way. Have a comfort zone created between you so that he can share his sentiments with you.

#2. Keep Your Reaction In Check

Often women say that they want to know how their man feels but when they are actually told, they are unable to handle that. They react in aggressive ways as they are unable to digest the fact that men can have such feelings. So if you want your man to feel safe in sharing things with you, you should keep a check on your own reaction. Do not make him regret when he shares his feelings with you by being a judgemental person. Instead, make him feel comfortable by telling that it will be okay.

#3. Accept Him

If you want your partner to open up to you, you have to make him feel that you accept his emotions. He should know that sharing his emotional side will not make him any less manly. Create an environment of faith so that he can comfortably confide in his feelings with you. Make him feel that you are there to understand his situation and see the world from his point of view. Keep all the judgements aside if you want him to speak up his heart.

#4. Do Not Mother Him

Be a friend to your partner, not a parent who would always tell them how to do things properly. He will never be able to share things with you which he has done wrong and feels bad about them. He will think that you would be disappointed with him. He will not expect you to be understanding in such situations as you have shown yourself as someone who wants to improve them. You should stop criticizing him on every small thing he does wrong. Otherwise, he will not feel safe to share his feelings with you.

#5. Understand Him

The worst that can happen is if your man feels that nobody understands him including you. He will never be able to open up in front of you that ways because he does not expect you to know what he is going through. He will rather choose to be alone instead of telling you about it. Let him know that you understand him if you want him to share his emotions with you. Tell him if you have faced a similar situation so that he knows you can feel what he is going through.

#6. Avoid Pressurising Him

This is the last thing that you will want to do if you want your guy to open up in front of you. Guys are really stubborn when it comes to sharing personal stuff. You forcing things out will only make them annoyed with your company. You forcing them continuously will only spoil the bonds of your relationship. He has to be the one who decides whether he wants to share something with you or not. You cannot be the one to do that. Let him be for some time and let him know that he can come to you when he wants to share.

#7. Listen When He Speaks

The people who are not good listeners are the worst at relationships as they always want to interrupt when the other is sharing something of their own. When your man is sharing his feelings with you, you should never try to add something from your end until he asks you to. Try to be a good listener and make him feel heard and understood. If you do not let him finish, he will not be interested in sharing things with you the next time. If you listen, he will walk up to you the next time as well when he needs an open ear to pour out his heart.

#8. Share Your Feelings Too

In order to make him okay with sharing feelings, you should have a good conversation about your feelings as well with him. He will be more likely to want to open up with you once he knows your emotions and secrets. He will consider it as a normal practice seeing you being vulnerable too. He will automatically want to share his emotions with you if you make this as a healthy practice in your relationship.

#9. Remain Calm

Whenever you are having a conversation, try not to have a bad temper or reaction to things. Be calm even if you are having a disagreement. Do not burst out at small things that go wrong between the two of you because it will only make him feel distant from you. He will be unwilling to share if he feels that you cannot keep your patience while having a deep conversation. So you should have a control on your temper. It will make your relationship strong and will encourage your man to share his feelings with you without much thought.

#10. Ask Why He Is Hiding

If you have tried everything according to you, but nothing seems to convince that him that it is okay to share his feelings with you, you should directly ask him about it. Ask him what you are doing wrong and how you change to make him feel accepted. This way he will be able to share if there is anything that he wants to be changed between you two. Once he does tell you, you will have to put in some extra effort to let him know that he will be changing your behavior towards him.

We hope that we are able to help you with our advice. Let us know in the comment section if you have any suggestions for us.

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