Most of the people have faced a heartbreak in their life. Isn’t it? However, if you get dumped, moving on isn’t easy for most people. Nightmare can be less frightening than getting dumped. Healing emotionally is actually harder than healing physically.
Getting dumped is probably the worst pain in the whole world. No wonder everyone at one point in time felt that they will never be able to get over it. However, time heals everything. Also, more than the time, you have the ability to recover yourself from any situation. Let us consider some potential steps that can surely help you to get over the dumping phase pretty soon.
#1. Abandon Contacting Them, Immediately!
You will get so many pieces of advice after you are dumped. But don‘t listen to the modest bits of advice saying “you should not give up on someone.” Understand the fact that they have given up on you. It is high time that you discard them as well. Though, saying this and doing this are two very different things. You will have to make up your mind about not contacting them at all. The moment you listen to the words “I can't do this anymore” from them, just take this pledge to never look back. That exactly means that you have to make no calls, no message or no status regarding them for that matter. Of course, we understand this is the most difficult part of the breakup phase. Understand this simplest thing that if someone is dumping you that is because they don’t want to be with you anymore. They must have offered you many reasons, but the reason is simple as we discussed earlier. Even if you made a mistake, if they have to be with you they will work it out. Dumping only takes place when they have given up on you. Therefore, sending them the sad emoticons will not change their mind. Your responsibility is to collect yourself back and move on. Finishing contact is the first step that you got to do after getting dumped.
#2. No Stalking On Social Media
This is also an essential step that people usually forget and continue doing it with curiosity. But believe us on this, if you will stop stalking them on social media, it will change your life for the good. As they say “Out of life, out of mind”, if you will stay away from their social handles, you will have an easier time after your break up. You don’t want to cry upon following their stories of enjoying at the bar with other people. Why on Earth would you want to torture yourself by following their life which is apparently better after you? Instead of focusing on their life, it is so much better if you will invest this time in making yourself better after them. It will suck if you will keep sticking on them. The longer you will keep an eye on them, the longer you will take to get over that dumping phase. People usually follow the trend of blocking. However, we would advice you to develop self-control so that you don’t take the initiative to look at their page yourself. Even blocking will give them an idea that you are getting affected because of their life.
#3. Give Up The Ghost Of Your Ex
In order to make the process of moving on easier and quicker, make sure you get out of the assumptions zone first of all. You will actually hinder this process yourself if you will be stuck on the ghost of your own imaginations. Accept the fact that they are gone and gone for the good. You must be having a place for them in your heart somewhere and for the time being, you are actually allowed to do that. But do not let yourself crushed into the same state for too long. Don’t make the hope of them coming back to your heart for long. Your heart has been already damaged by them. In order to save your self-esteem, you really got to become strong. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that “they are gone and you are strong enough to do everything all by yourself”. Don’t yearn for reconciliation and put all your hopes in the positive things rather than digging your nose into the past. Adjust your mind to the new change of your life. The faster you accept that change, the faster you will get over that person who dumped you.
#4. Observe Your Feelings
When a doctor heals your physical illness, they need to figure out first what exactly is going inside your body. Similarly, in order to heal yourself from the mental depression of dumping, you need to figure out what exactly are you thinking. In order to fix your life and to get it back on the right track, first of all, understand what’s happening inside your mind. You are your doctor and totally capable of handling yourself on your own. You need to consider the reasons which are still keeping you so involved with them. The reasons can be only two, either you are hurt because you loved them and they dumped you or the dumping made a bad impression to your self-esteem. You are probably just stuck with them because they hurt your ego or heart. Therefore, observing what you feel becomes important as the solutions to both the cases will be different. If you are hurt because you loved them, then you will have to get time to collect. However, if your ego is hurt, it can be fixed by gaining confidence through others ways.
#5. Understand That They Are Not The One
Believe in this fact that universe always tries to help you. Even after getting dumped if you still believe that “he/she is the one”, you are probably not taking the signals that the universe is giving you. It is just your hurt soul talking, not the real you. Take the signals of the universe which is clearly suggesting that he/she does not deserve you and trying to part your ways. If the relationship had to work, it would have worked. If it is not working and the other person has dumped you, that means you’re unnecessarily idolizing that relationship. To accept this is extremely painful, yes it is. However, sticking to that will be even more painful. Past is called past for a reason. Therefore, let the past rest where it belongs. Instead, focus on a better future. Remind yourself constantly that they were not worth your time so that you can stop crying after them in the present. You can definitely get over this phase and you certainly will. You cannot continue to idolizing them even after they have dumped you. Reminding yourself time and again that you’re far better will make you way happier and gradually you will even stop talking about them. Believe in the game of the universe and wait for the good times to follow.
#6. Consider Facing Them In Public Meetings
Now the question about this situation is that what if you run into them somewhere around? But we seriously will suggest not to run into them intentionally. It will break you even more. If you bump into them suddenly, remember, you shouldn’t be the one to take an initiative to talk to them. By any chance, if they take that initiative to say “hi, how are you?”, just reply normally “great thanks!” and get out of that place as soon as possible. If you will take the courage out to talk to them initially, you will make an absolute fool out of you at the end. Of course, you are hurt and have thousands of things to blabber. However, the true story is that talking to the one who dumped you becomes embarrassing, horrifying and a complete waste of time. Therefore, it is so much better to avoid such situations. It is certainly a challenge to drag yourself out of that zone, but trust yourself that you will win eventually.
#7. Believe You Are Amazing
Recently after you get dumped, it becomes very difficult to believe in yourself. You may know from within that you are amazing and that person did not deserve you. But just after the breakup it becomes tough to feel motivated and powerful about yourself. The most difficult or should we say the worst human experiences is undoubtedly getting dumped. It makes you forget your self-worth. However, realize that painful experience will come and go, but you are the only person you got to live with for the whole life. Learn to love yourself as much as you can. Getting dumped is exhausting and makes you feel extremely lonely. People can leave you at many points in time, but what matters is will you stand for yourself? You are completely capable of filling all the voids of your life by your own. The roller coaster of human life will never end. You should also never end up feeling bad about yourself. Believe only in one thing “You got this. Hold on tight to the bad times,for good days shall follow very soon.”
Being dumped is nothing if you believe in yourself. You can get through this if you are willing to. Let us know your thoughts about this in the comments section below.
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