Breakups are really difficult to deal with, especially when you have to take the initiative and do the dirty work. Over the years, people have been advising on how you can adjust and save the relationship, how you two can mutually separate but not much has been talked about how to make a man break up with you, or for that matter, make him dump you without you getting into the dynamics. No one tells you how you can give him a reason to not brag about you in front of other people or bring your favorite butterscotch cookies or think that you are "the one" he can ever be with.
So, here is how you can break up with your boyfriend and make him dump you. Just make sure that you practice these with a slow burn effect to the relationship. And what may ever be your reason to break up with your boyfriend, if you want him to do the honors, slide out of embracing the bond and get awesome yet dramatic.
#1. Start Behaving In A Strange Manner
If you want to break up with your boyfriend and also want yourself to not take up this initiative, start acting weird with him. This is one way he will be compelled to make the breakup decision himself. Do not call back when you miss his calls. You can also start avoiding his texts. Let him understand that you do not have the time to spend with him. Give him the hints that you are not interested. Do not make the attempts to have deep and meaningful conversations like you would usually be doing. Act like you are bored with his company. Avoid giving him justifications for your actions. But yes, I will suggest you go about this approach eventually. Just don't start throwing such a behavior all of a sudden. At times, it just backfires in a very bad manner. So, you just need to avoid critical conflicts and gradually start cutting off on him. And also appear like a genuine girlfriend who is busy with her career in life and he is the one to give up on the relationship!
#2. Start Picking Up Fights With Him
Talking from my personal experience, meaningless conflicts do not let the relationship sustain for a longer period of time. So, start turning the things he says about him. Keep fussing about anything and in fact just everything. Turn even the stupid matter into an argument. Your aim should be to frustrate your partner, so he takes the decision that you are not able to! Do not go over the board but day by day, start blaming him for the things he does and portray yourself as a victim. This will definitely make him dump you. Tell him how he keeps repeating the same mistakes time and again. Tell him what a fool he is and turn just any situation into a frustrating act and letting lose kind of a circumstance so he is the one to make the critical decision.
#3. Get Straight About Future Planning
Start making with him the plans for your future. Write your name along with his last name on everything that he sees. Or in case he is pretty sure about the future, you get into the most uncertain direction. Give him hints that you are least interested. Let him know that you do not assume the two of you can be together. And just keep doing that. Just don't ever sound sure. Let the situation remain to be somewhere in the middle so he knows that you are not thinking where he wants you to. Even small things make a difference. When you are not able to commit to a weekend off or a pre-planned outing, he will know that you are not even able to commit to a better future. Even if you feel like talking or discussing your future plans, do not include him anywhere in those talks. Tell him that you want to go out for a vacation with friends, or look out for a job outside the city/ country and display that you are actually not thinking of him in any way. It might sound rude, but then you don't have to start bragging about your plans. Start slow and gradually make him feel that you are forgetting to include him. Simply do the opposite if he is the one too involved in thinking about your future together.
#4. Intimacy Needs To Stay At Bay
Avoid saying "I Love You" so often. When he asks you if you love him the way he does, say something non-committal. Just in case you cannot adopt this approach, do not sound sincere to him. Let him realize that your answer was not that convincing. He may get angry with you, he may pass rude comments but that is the key, you don't have to respond to any of those. Just stay chill and relaxed to let him know that you don't really care. Let alone caring words, stop being intimate as well. Avoid kissing him time and again. Set some amount of boundaries to let him know that you have buried a red flag. Start backing off from the intimacy that the two of you maintain in the relationship. No matter to what extent you are at, tell him that you do not enjoy it now. Or simply mention that you are not in the mood right now. Just find reasons to start pulling back from any kind of physical contact that he maintains. When he asks you for a justification, just step back and do not list any reasons.
#5. Get Manipulative
You may want to constrain your man, but let me tell you, girl, what may ever be your reason, do not start controlling your guy. After all, there is a level of respect and integrity that you need to maintain. Just wanting to make him dump you doesn’t mean that you get the right to behave in whatever way you want. Instead of taking over his life or mothering him over the things he does, get manipulative. You don't have to get so direct with your approach that you become less elegant and get violent. It is better to get manipulative, maintain decency and skillfully influence his decisions. Are you getting the difference? There is a thin line between controlling and manipulating, and that is what even you have to maintain. Both the approaches end in letting the other person know about what you have in mind. But opt for a more sophisticated and subtle approach, after all, the two of you are still in a relationship and you are not gutsy enough to dump him straight away. So, take that sweet time, give him indications that you two are entirely different beings and this is why he needs to take a decision because you seem least bothered by any of the consequences.
#6. Flirt With Other Men In Front Of Him
Even if changing your behavior and being manipulative does not work in your case, start flirting with other men. You may not want to but that is the key. Keep your personal intentions clear and accordingly choose a person to be comfortable with. Go for harmless flirting. And this will surely make him dump you. Do not appear like a school slut, no matter what shadow you cast, there should not be a mark on your reputation just because of a person you don't want to be with anymore.
#7. Criticize His Friends/ Family
How to make a man break up with you? Talk bad about his friends or the members of his family. Complain about them. Complain the way they act or about their habits. Contradict him whenever he talks about his friends or family. Men are ideally very close to their friends, so you know where to target. But girl, just do not get too personal. Remember that your ultimate motive is to simply break up with your boyfriend. You don't have to hurt him with your words to a level that gets beyond repair. For instance, when he says that Mike (his best friend) is so amazing at the game and he literally trashed the other team. Tell him how Mike was just ordinary. He did not do anything special as the other team is just full of losers. And Mike has gotten better as he too was one of those losers at one time. Oops! I bet it is time for the relationship to end. He gets his teddy bear out to get a comforting hug. And you are the culprit. Time to celebrate!
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