How to make your Ex Want you Back?

Breaking up with someone you love can prove to be very difficult. When we are in a relationship with someone, we tend to spend a considerable amount of time with each other and get used to each other's presence. It is crucial to understand that emotional attachment is something that is most difficult to deal with. You can get over the routine that you both followed together and all the things that were an integral part of your lives but, the kind of emotional connection you have with someone you love is tough to let go of.

It is challenging to get over the person who chose to leave in the cases when the break up is not mutual, and one of the partners tend to continue to harbor feelings for the other. In such cases, all you wish to do is to get that person back and hope that all things will return to the state they used to be. It is natural that your heart continues to crave the kind of love, attention and the intimacy that you had with your partner. That is one thing no one else can immediately replace.

If you have gone through something of this sort and are not being able to make peace with it? If you find it impossible to get over your previous partner and want them back? Here are the things that you can try to do to make sure that your ex wants you back after the break-up.

How To Make Your Ex Want You Back

#1. Make Use Of Reverse Psychology

The best thing to do in case you want your ex to want you back is to use reverse psychology to make them feel how much they need you and make them want you back. What this means is that for the longest time you have been the person who would chase your partner to make sure that you get to have a word with them and to have them interact with you. Up until now, you have been the one who took the initiative when it comes to all the significant things that took place in the relationship. They are also aware of the fact that you are the one who wants them back and they made the decision to get out of the relationship.

The only way to make sure that you can change this belief of theirs is when you choose to do the exact opposite of what you have been doing so far. Change your habits and make sure that you are not the one who is chasing them. Do not initiate any conversations with them, ignore them and just leave them alone. If you meet them or happen to bump into them, then make sure that you greet them, only if they do so first. Do not be the one to do it first, at all and do not initiate any conversation. Don’t overdo things and ignore them too much; just don’t be the first one to strike the conversation.

This will for sure work, and make them wonder what exactly is wrong with you and why you are behaving in such a strange way.

#2. Be Busy At All Times

You will need to make it a point to appear busy at all times. When you happen to bump into him or her make sure that you appear to be busy and not the one who needs someone’s attention. Just pretend to talk to the friend who is by your side, start reading a book or do some work. Just make sure you seem to be occupied with a lot of work or things in your life.

The point is to make sure that they know the fact that there is no void in your life and you can move on and have enough things to keep you occupied and happy. You will need to make sure that they understand the idea that you do not need them anymore or at least that you are not craving to get their attention back.

#3. Do Not Be Or Look Jealous

It is true that you will feel jealous and find it hard to accept that someone you loved dearly moved on and is now living happily without you and here you are not able to move on or make peace with the situation. The thing that will be great for you is actually to stop being jealous, but in case you are not able to do so, please keep the fact in mind that you will have to stop appearing to be so. Do not compulsively text and keep calling them at all times. In case you bump into them or find them dating someone else, just ignore them and show that it does not matter to you.

Do make sure that you are not doing it in such a way that it looks like you are deliberately trying to avoid them. Just make sure that it looks like it does no matter to you at all, and they can continue to do what they are doing. The more you come across as ignorant, the higher are the chances of making sure that your ex will retain an interest in you and all the things that you do.

#4. Be Carefree At All Times

Make sure you are enjoying at all times, and you are making the most of all the fun things you get to do with your friends and other people in your life. You may have gone through a difficult break-up and are not being able to get over your ex, but that does not mean you neglect all the happiness and the opportunities that you are getting in this moment. It is essential to keep in mind the fact that what you have today will not come back tomorrow. 

At the same time when you are carefree and happy at all times, your ex will be able to understand the fact that although they were a source of happiness in your life, your life does not end if they choose to leave. You have a bunch of other things that you enjoy doing, you have friends who light up your world, and you are ready to live to the fullest even without your ex.

When you are happy and carefree, you will be able to catch the attention of your partner. This is exactly what will make them get interested in what it is that is making you happy all over again. It is hard to do so but once you do this you will be able to attract the attention of your ex back.

#5. Time To Say 'No'

Please make it clear that you are not available for doing all those things and favors that you did for them previously. It is essential to make it a point that you learn to say no to them. You may want to get back to them and have the same kind of relationship again. But, until that happens you will have to refrain yourself from all the things that you did for them. You are simply not available anymore and have moved on. This is exactly what you will need to convey to them.

Make sure you have plans of hanging out with your friends and the people who are a part of your life. You may continue to remain friends with your ex and interact with them when you meet or bump into each other, but please make it a point to say no to all those things that you think are not necessary for you to do or be a part of anymore.

By doing so, they will feel that you have moved on and are doing all those things that are essential for you. When you were in the relationship, you gave importance to all those things that were important for them neglecting your desires and needs. But, now that it is all over you should do all that you can do to make your life happy and eventful. There is no more time for those things that you did for them before.

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