Can’t stop dreaming about someone, even if you try to do it? Well, you may think that it is something normal. However, burst your bubble as soon as we tell you for a fact that it is not something healthy. If you think that your obsession over someone can make your way to marry them and have babies, you should break it to yourself that it is certainly not loving.
It is probably attraction or lust that turned into obsession soon. If you are stuck to get a reply from them or probably changing all your priorities because of them, your tension describes what you feel. Before you lose all your sleep and get extremely anxious, you should stop your obsession right now. Here's how to do it.
#1. Accept That You Are Obsessing
Before you even think and plan out to get over him or stop obsessing about it, you really need to admit the fact that you are obsessing. Accept this that obsessing over someone is not a very healthy behavior and in order to change it, you need to take some efforts. You will never be able to move on from someone until and unless you do not know how badly you are trapped in this web of obsession.
#2. Get Off Your Social Networks And Start Going Out
Accept it or not, this is actually the worst part. If you want to get over the obsession part, you really need to get off all the social networking sites for some time. If you will continue seeing them on social networking sites, you will never be able to get over them. Remember, you need this for your mental health. Moreover, after stopping cyberstalking, you need to really go out to know that you have a life apart from them. Becoming the hermit and sitting at home will make your situation worse.
#3. Stop Doing Things Which Reminds You Of Them
If they loved swimming or clubbing, stop those things for some time. You will remember them the moment you will step into the zone which belonged to them. You do not need to get indulged into this. Come on, realize the fact that you are better off than obsessing. Probably you were just doing those things because they liked it and don’t really enjoyed that time. Moreover, if you will continue doing those things, there are chances that you might witness them in front of you sometimes. And guess what, that is the last thing you will ever want in this stage.
#4. Limit Your Obsessiveness
In order to limit your obsessiveness, you will have to limit yourself as well at some level. However, the efforts and limitations of that time will surely make your life better. So don’t hesitate to take this step and start limiting your obsessiveness. Also, when you will start limiting yourself, you will automatically realize how much it was affecting you and the people around you. There is always the momentary time when you are extremely obsessing. If you can limit and control yourself at that moment, you will be fine.
#5. Try To Know What They Really Are
When you showcase someone on the pedestal, just realize the fact that how they really are. The things like how hot and friendly they are can’t decide whether they are really worth your attention and that too, so much. Try and take off that pedestal for some time and think about the reality for a moment. Things will be better and clearer after you will calculate all the perspectives. Maybe slowly but surely you will realize that what they really are.
#6. Take Help Of Your Friends
This is for sure that whoever you are obsessing about, your close friends must be hating them. Enlist those friend and take their advice. Sometimes, the third person can judge your situation better than even you can. They will always know whether the person is really worth it or they are just taking mere advantage of you. Partly, they must be irritated because you keep talking about them, but party they really don’t like them. They don’t like them for your safety and for a reason, of course. Look into those reasons and you will get to know.
#7. Divert Yourself
Since you know that you are obsessing over someone, you will realize when you actually do it. Therefore, whenever you start to obsess over them, just distract yourself from them. This might sound like irrelevant, but trust us on that, you will actually observe a transformation in yourself. Tell yourself to do something productive with yourself rather than obsessing over someone who is not even bothered with it. Soon, you will find a number of reasons to not obsess and do something else instead.
#8. Try And Limit The Conversation
The most important thing which makes you keep thinking about them is communication. In order to stop obsessing over them, you really need to either limit or stop all modes of communication, if not for long, at least for some time. This will not only help you to preserve your ego but also you will stop obsessing over them very soon. In order to possess that control again, you need to limit the conversation for sure and in worst cases, even stopping conversations will do.
#9. Don’t Let Him Validate You
When you usually obsess over someone, you usually prefer their perspective than yours. You hold their opinions higher than yours. However, this is the worst thing that you can do to yourself. That can probably give you that momentary satisfaction because you think they are the best in everything. But this old emotional roller coaster will make you tired soon, and you will realize that you shouldn't have given them so much right to validate you at the end.
#10. Disconnect Yourself
In the old times, disconnecting yourself from someone was so easy. All you had to do was restrict yourself to call them. However, nowadays it has become so tough. You have to actually abandon your cellphone for quite a long time. These days even signing up on a social networking site can cost you a lot as far as stopping yourself from obsessing is concerned. But disconnecting yourself from them will become easier when you will not have to check their Insta stories while having breakfast. Avoid meeting them, disconnect yourself completely, and you will be good to go.
#11. Remember The Bad Times
By remembering just the good time together, you will make your situation even worse. In order to get rid of the obsession, you will have to remember the bad times as well. Don’t just focus on them when they have made you feel great about yourself. Know and acknowledge the times when they have actually ignored you in a way that you lead yourself to such circumstances. Remember, the times you needed them the most, they were not there. This will give you the motivation to get over them easily.
#12. Invest Time On Worthy People
You must be having people in your life who must be making you feel so much good about yourself. It does not have to be necessarily someone you are romantically involved in, e.ven your friends and family, who genuinely care for you makes you feel so blessed and happy. Therefore, at the time when you are obsessing about them, let your time be invested into someone who is worthy of your time more than them. The more you will invest your time in those people, you will be remembered more than how you must be treated.
#13. Don’t Serve Yourself To Them
It is very important for you to know that you don’t have to serve yourself according to their plans. Don’t make yourself available whenever they want. Don’t ever cancel your plans because they want you to. If you are trying to accommodate their whims, you will be trapped in their obsession forever. Set your priority according to your wish and let them know that. The time they will realize your worth, they will get back to you ‘without’ your obsession.
#14. Find The Reason Behind The Obsession And Fix It
You are probably having some reasons to obsess over them. You should make a list of them and try to fix them. Try and dig into yourself a little bit more and find out the exact reasons to get over that obsession. There must be a certain behavior or some habits of that person that will get you out of it. You might assume them to be your ‘special someone,' however, deep down you must realize the fact that obsession can never take you to the ‘happily ever after’.
#15. Take Professional Help If Needed
Sometimes it is better to take professional help if you can not take care of your obsession alone. A helping hand never harms. Therefore, if you think you need some professional help to take care of your obsession, go for it. Remember, it's never too late to get help from someone. Visiting a therapist will make you feel lighter mentally and emotionally.
We hope to help you to get your obsession calmed down. Let us know how you can overcome your obsession in the comment section below.
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