We all know the thrill of a new relationship right? The butterflies that we feel, when everything seems to be perfect and exciting? Laughing at lame jokes, fighting for no reasons, giving each other sweet surprises, trying new things, getting all pumped up for experiments; this all makes up for a fun relationship. But where does all of it vanish when you have been in a steady relationship for quite a while? No more excitement and the same old routines make the relationship monotonous and stale.
Any relationship can suffer from pangs of boredom after a certain time. It is up to you to add that spark back in your relationship, and you can do so by putting in some efforts and vesting your energy to reap the desired results. Here are some super easy and effective tips by which you can reignite the fire in your relationship. Get fiery!!
#1. Work On Your Dopamine
The first thing that you felt when you met your partner was the chemical cocktail mixing in your bodies. The chemical blast in your brain that flooded your heart with so much love is slowly diluting. Do not let that happen. Recreate those moments by going out to a new restaurant or taking a class together or anything that excites the both of you.
#2. Kiss And Tell
At the beginning of every relationship, couples often enjoy deep kissing, which tends to stop over time. Kissing, hugging, and cuddling is important components of a healthy relationship. Plant an unexpected kiss on her forehead or give him a tight hug after he comes back from work. These will work wonders for your relationship.
#3. Remember The First Time You Met
Reminisce about the fun moments that you both shared when you started dating each other. Just thinking about them will surely make you both laugh. Try to recreate few of those moments if possible.
#4. Get Dressed Up For Your Partner
It is natural for couples to dress up well when they start dating. They always make an effort to look attractive and desirable. But where do all those efforts go once it’s been long enough in the relationship? You tend not to pay any attention to your looks. Get dressed up for him, even if it’s just another day, and surprise your beau.
#5. Flirting
Flirting is one of the best ways to rekindle your relationship. Healthy flirting once in a while will bring the spark back in your relationship. Pass her a naughty compliment when she dresses up differently or tells him that he looks sexy with his hair drenched and slick back. You know that your partner craves for your attention, so why not give it to them? Who does not like compliments after all?
#6. Experiment In The Bedroom
Browse through sex magazines to get new ideas. What better than making a list of all the naughty and exotic things that both of you wish to do together. Don’t think about whether you want to try it or not, just list all your dirty fantasies down. It is sure to turn on your partner. To make it sexier, you can also rate the activities on a scale of 1-5, which will help you, in shortlisting your favorite ones together.
#7. Laugh Until It Hurts
Yes, laughing is the best therapy. Crack her up like never before. Remember the times when she used to enjoy your jokes and laugh her heart out; bring that old version of yourself back. Laughing together will surely bring back the excitement in your relationship.
#8. Try Something Together You’ve Never Done Before
Enroll yourself in some fun couple activities together. Dancing, cooking or even working out together will help you spend some quality time together. Just make the most of it. Help each other and have fun together.
#9. Buy Them Unexpected Gifts
Everyone loves gifts. Just surprise your partner with an unexpected gift. Maybe it’s the day that you met for the first time or the day you had your first kiss. Gift them a thoughtful gift to remind them of your love.
#10. Bring Back The Excitement
If you feel too bored in the relationship, find ways to get back the excitement. Read erotic novels or watch some adult movies together. Think about the moments or ways by which your partner gets super excited. Let Christian Grey be your guiding light, get all ‘kinky’ in the bedroom.
#11. Sexting
Sounds like a teenager thing right? Well, it used to be childish back in days when adults were not aware of it. Sexting is for those who want to get goofy with their partners. Get creative, get witty. Send him the naughtiest message you can think of in the middle of the day, and see him running back to home. Sexting will not only bring back the spark, but you’ll feel the volcanoes of love erupting back in your relationship. And they’ll be so hot that even the oceans will set on fire.
#12. Send Them A Card
Technology might have made us forget the sweet old days of love letters, but you can always look back into the past. Cards are a great way to express yourself. Depending on the kind of relationship that you two share, send your partner a handwritten note or card expressing your true feelings. It could be a romantic message or a sassy one, which will set up the stage for the latter part of the night.
#13. Exotic Spa Time
Sounds cheesy? It is not, or maybe it is. Massages are a great way to help your partner relax and enjoy their time. What better can you gift him after a hard day at work? Use essential oils, keep the lights dim, and fill the room with scented candles to set the mood right. A relaxing massage is sure to arouse your partner.
#14. Say “I love You” More Often
Three words, eight letters and she’s all yours. That’s the magic of saying I Love You. Just because your relationship is a long one does not mean you don’t love your partner anymore. Just tell them that you are still crazy about them and their cute little smile still drives you crazy. Tell him that you love him for everything he has done for you and will keep doing to make you happy. Love is the core of your relationship, and it is important that you keep reminding that to each other.
#15. Consult A Sex Coach
If nothing from the above helps you much, then consult a sex coach. There are times when a couple needs someone from the outside to help them get over their sexual problems. A sex coach will guide you through the do’s and don’ts of experimenting with sex. Bringing some changes in your sexual script is no harm until it does something great for your relationship.
A long-term relationship is bound to suffer from boredom and monotony after a while due to the lack of excitement. You need to step out of your comfort zone and get back in the game to get your relationship back on the track. Do not let dullness take over your love.
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