The first date is always a special memory in the hearts of the love birds. Not because it was their firsts of many, but the anxiety and excitement that they experienced before the date is an emotion worth cherishing for life. The sudden butterflies in the stomach, flying up and down till the focus suddenly shifts to the heart that seems like it's pounding out of the body, is a beautiful way for the body to tell us the effects of anxiety!
It is justified to be anxious before your first date. However, you must learn ways to control the anxiety to ensure that you do not make any blooper in a state of innocence that leave a wrong impression on the one you fancy.
Here are some to begin with:
#1. Try To Control Your Anxious Thoughts!
Who doesn’t experience a chill before their first date? However, one must master the art of maneuvering the thoughts to ensure that there is no room for negative emotions. If you are witnessing some random thoughts blooming in your mind, you must discourage them by remembering the pleasant moments of the date and remain calm.
#2. Be Patient And Attentive
There’s nothing wrong is getting nervous before the first date. But you must not let that hamper your attention and listening skills during the period. Nobody likes to be on a date with someone whose attention is divided, and listening skills are weak. Hence, put your fears and nervousness behind after the initial moments and indulge in a healthy conversation to make most memories out of date.
#3. Do Not Jump To Conclusions!
Nobody likes to be judged by their date. It's natural, neither would you! But till there is no assurance from the other side, do not jump to conclusions about how the date is going, whether they are falling for you, will they call you back, are you acting too dumb and more. Let it go with the flow and hold your thoughts for bedtime. Enjoy the moment without any worry about the outcome. Probably what you thought was a mistake from your end, actually attracted the person you are interested in, and compelled them to know you more. You never know!
#4. Play In The Real Time
It’s important to note where you are and what does the date mean to you. Do not attach any fanciful hopes from the interaction that would shatter your dreams at a later stage. Be realistic and understand that it’s your first date. There’s no surety that the person will respond post the date. Hence, come out of the bubble and see what the reality holds for you! Once you recognize this fact, things will get easy for you.
#5. Your Anxiety Is An Inner Feeling
If you think that the person sitting in front of you will identify the signs of stress that you are experiencing, then you are living in a delusional world. Anxiety is an inner feeling that may not be reflected by your actions during the date. Thus, you may feel that your partner is noticing your anxious gestures such as playing with the fingers, setting your hair at regular intervals, or rubbing the nails against each other, but that may not be the case. Even though you are anxious, you are in control of your actions. Thus, the chances of the person identifying the signs of being anxious are meager. So be careful on that front!
So how did you feel when you went on your first date? Did anxiety ruin your time? Tell us about your first date! Comment on the box below to share your opinions and views!
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