Have you made enough compromises in your relationship? Were they good or bad? Well, there are a plenty of things that should never be compromised for a relationship, whereas there are some which can be easily compromised. Compromising can be a good or bad thing for you, depending on your relationship.
Though, every couple and people, in general, are different and should not be compared. However, there are a few things which are actually common in every relationship. Let us briefly discuss what all things you should and should never compromise in a relationship.
#1. The Place You Live In
The time when you get into a relationship and get serious for each other, there is a point when you want to move in together or take the decision to get married. Here's when the decision to live together and the place you wish to live in becomes the most problematic decision. If your partner wants to live a little far from where you used to live, it should be totally acceptable. Establishing a new place is good for both of you.
#2. Holidays You Spend
Now, that's a big one. Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship will agree to the fact that planning holidays are the toughest struggle. You want to plan a trip with friends but, their family has already planned a trip with you. You need a plenty of negotiation in this case with your partner to sort this out. It is a give and take relationship, and this is something you can compromise for the one you love.
#3. Ways You Spend Your Free Time
The mutual time that you guys get together is extremely important and more important is to spend it efficiently. In order to spend it productively, you both need to agree on one thing which again is not an easy task. If your partner wants to go to their favorite band and you want to have dinner together at a peaceful place, in order to get it going smoothly, you need to compromise on these little things. You can go to your favorite place on the next date.
#4. Things You Spend Your Money On
If you are heading towards a permanent commitment or even if you are in a new relationship, if you are spending money on your partner then it is of their concern. The utilization of money and some of the financial decisions are to be made together in order to have a transparent and healthy relationship, especially in a long-term relationship. Financial difficulty actually can break or make a relationship.
#5. Scheduling Your Day
In order to schedule your day, you need to include a lot of things in your day like investing time in work, friends, family and of course your partner. Therefore, this is also a thing which can be compromised if your partner is willing to have more time of yours for a day. This is not even a compromise in most of the cases as you are getting some quality time with your partner.
#6. Your Expectation From Your Partner
The hardest thing is to not expect from your partner on anything. Regardless of the kind of person you are, you will always expect things from your partner. If they are making a mistake, you might won’t accept the apology as you expected a lot from them. However, you need to realize the fact that they are as much human as you are and they can also make mistakes as you can. Therefore, you can compromise on some of the mistakes they are making as not making a mistake is not even humanly possible.
#7. How Often You Have Sex
This is also certainly a huge one. Compromising at the time of sex becomes a little difficult in both the cases though. At times you are not interested, but you still have to show that you are equally interested. This is a big lie to yourself though, but if you love someone, these compromises seem to be very tiny ones in front of the whole relationship.
#1. Not Admitting Or Expressing On Something
When you are feeling something and you are saying the ‘same thing’; This is a golden rule in a relationship which shouldn’t be broken. If you or your partner is leaving you confused and wondering, this is not something that should be accepted by you or even by your partner for that matter. You can’t be hanging around and having romantic dinners for months and years and not say anything to each other.
#2. Waiting For Hours For A Call Or A Reply
Make sure the person you are being in a relationship with is responsive and appreciates your efforts. If your partner is not giving you responses and you had to wait for a single response for hours, that is not worth it, trust us. People can be busy, yes! However, the person who wanted to take out time for you will ultimately will. Do not buy such excuses from them and let them know your importance.
#3. Having Sex When You Are Uncertain
If you are in a relationship and you don’t want to make it a casual one with hooking up with them just for casual sex, then say no. It is as simple as that, do not have sex until and unless you are completely certain about what you want to do. Whether you are a guy or a girl, a no is a no for all genders. If you don’t want to have sex, “NO” is the word for you.
#4. Not Saying How You Feel
It is not fair at all to hold yourself back if you feel something for your partner. Similarly, if your partner is not sharing things with you, this shouldn’t be acceptable. If you are with someone you love, there is no reason to hide something, otherwise what is the point of being with that person. Life is too short not to love enough and live a secretive life. If you have some feelings, go ahead and share.
#5. Your Personality, Values, Friend And /Most Importantly Family
You should never change yourself because someone else wants. You are perfect the way you are. Your friends, family, values, your idea of having fun, your sex drive and your self-esteem should never be changed or affected by someone else as these things can’t make a relationship better. These things define you and are a part of you. If someone can’t love you the way you are, it is not worth it.
#6. Tolerating Disrespect And Violence
One of the biggest mistakes you are doing (if you are) is tolerating disrespect from your partner. Mutual respect is the foundation of a long-term and healthy relationship. If your relationship is lacking the part of mutual respect, you should give this relationship a second thought. Also, if violence is the part of your relationship too, regardless of a guy’s or girl’s side. This can be a crucial weakness of your relationship.
#7. Your Personal And Professional Goals
If you are letting your partner come between you and your professional or personal goals, you are probably making the biggest, mistake of your life. A partner who is truly loving and supporting will never let you give up your dreams. If you want to accomplish something that is your personal choice, your partner should never make you stop achieving that. This is something that is not worth compromising for a lover.
These are a few things that should and should never be compromised in a relationship, no matter it is a long or short-term relationship. Comment down below if you have something to add or different perspective. We would love to hear from you.
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