Traditionally, our society has been patriarchal in nature barring a few exceptions. Since ages, men have been going out to work and the women have been homemakers.
Times have changed, and the ideology of gender equality is more prominent than. Women are not just competing with men in the workplace, they’re even at the helm of affairs in some companies. Considered a traditional bastion of men, the workplace is brimming with talent now that women are also part of the game.
But do women, in a relationship, working and at times even earning more than their male counterparts alter personal relations between them? If so, how does a woman handle such situations?
It is not entirely inaccurate, that men are affected by a better-earning woman in their life. But this isn’t exactly an accurate scientific law. Some men can deal with it and are pretty comfortable with it. It is up to you to figure out in which category your better-half belongs. If your man is unfazed by your success and respects your ambitions, you’re in a healthy relationship.
I feel this is the most important aspect of dealing with a situation wherein your better-half earns less than you. Open up and figure out if you earning more money is causing any discomfort to your better-half. In case you have any issues, be sure to bring it up in a mature manner.
Talk it out. Determine your financial needs as a couple. Prepare a budget for those needs. Also, jointly decide who gets to contribute, how much to that budget. Again, for all this to happen, you need an open and mature level of communication.
Given how most men feel, it does pinch them every once in while, when they’re unable to match up to their counterpart financially. Have a healthy discussion and come up with a system of give-and-take, Where your better-half lacks financially, he may choose to make up for it in other ways, be it those little gestures and sweet nothings.
Isn’t love the essence of your relationship? Or is financial really that important? As a couple, you need to figure out your priorities and talk it out. If you genuinely like each, finances can always be discussed and planned.
If your better-half truly respects you and is nonchalant about the financial inequality in the relationship, you’re in safe hands. If your earnings affect his feelings for you, it’s time for you to get real. Your relationship isn’t going to go the distance unless you choose to settle for lower pay or stop working only to satisfy your better half's male ego.
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