We have all been there when the exchanged stares confirmed attraction and after much hesitation, you finally took a step. Maybe she was pleased with our courage, or she thought that it was too soon to approach and some more eye contact should have taken place. Girls can often give multiple signs at once perplexing boys about what to do.
A girl you have never seen before is particularly difficult to read, with that said there is only one thing that establishes early certainty in getting her number and that is eye contact. A lot of boys complain of not getting the number after establishing significant eye contact and there are only more who get the number and don’t get the reply they hoped they would. In such a situation boys often feel cheated as they get their hopes high after getting the number. However, it is not as bad as it seems as there can be many reasons for the same.
#1. Don’t Overthink
There were only good vibes between you two and you had a nice time talking to her. She seemed to enjoy herself equally if not more as she was not too keen to join her friends again. You got a few details about her till the time came to depart when you told yourself that the texts you will share will definitely do your bidding. It is very difficult not to make this assumption when you have the number and when you don’t know what her complete schedule is like. In such cases, you often risk over-thinking which sometime or the other will pose questions to you about your behavior and the way you are and you can come down hard on yourself grilling over qualities that must remain unquestioned.
#2. Use Humor To Call Her Out
Girls tend to become introvert quicker than boys and forget you easily if you don’t seek your conclusion. With that said you have used 15 different ways to distract yourself and stop thinking about the text that you sent her. Deleting it was particularly hard so you took a screenshot and then deleted it. All this is not helping, and your pride needs you to have another go to confirm what the result is. It could be that she was busy or preoccupied with some urgent matter that she did not text you back. The best text that you can send is that ‘You were clearly more talkative last evening’ with a laughing emoticon which is sure to get you a response telling you to keep going or back off.
#3. Avoid Sexting
If you have started sexting after the first meeting where you just discussed a little bit about yourself and just exchanged numbers chances are she won’t respond as everybody takes time to open up. Faith and Trust need to see you grinding for a while till they are put to you so avoid sexting early on.
#4. Fish For Her Likes
You have an increased chance of getting the first text from her when you talk about something that is already a big part of her life. Fishing out for something that she holds dear to her heart like an actor she is a die-hard fan of can help you request her company to a movie which involves the actor that she will have trouble saying no to. It could be that she likes a designer bag of a certain kind very much and when you speak about it or something close to the topic, chances are the conversation will go at a faster rate than others.
#5. Accept She Played You
Sometimes it is best to accept that she played you. A lot of times at parties and other social gatherings, girls need to get away from a person they consider worse to a person they just dislike and unfortunately it can be you. She got bored soon at the party and was just waiting for the ones she came with to give her the signal to leave, and you happened to squeeze yourself in that slot. Will you call someone back if you met them on the way home from work and they pitched you a promise? Be honest with yourself you will forget about them and so do girls.
#6. She is Nervous
Have you ever been in a position where you felt terribly nervous and lost control of both your body and mind in that moment of excitement? It could be that the girl you have texted turned extremely self-conscious and started thinking about her shortcomings, forgetting her strengths that confirmed the idea that you like her. This is totally common and means that she just needs some time to compose herself so that she gets out of her self-inflicted panic and begins to trust you as friend.
#7. She Doesn’t Need A Man Right Now
It is so often the case with everyone when they realize that they are surplus to the relationship demands of a person whether they are looking to be their friend or a romantic interest. Whatever place you are vying for is not available right now as she already has a friend in her life and after her last romance is not looking for love at the moment. If you persist after learning about this then your persistence can set her off and become hostile towards you, the best thing is to just get some information on her from time to time and stay just around the corner.
#8. Give Her Some Leeway
Sometimes you can get so involved in the conversation especially if they have been taking place regularly that you cannot help but become possessive about her. She may have mentioned at the starting of the conversation that she is near her college, and when she has sent you this text, it must be understood that the texts will stop coming when she has entered the premises. So, you should not become too obsessed over the conversation suddenly going off as you wouldn’t have stopped texting if the replies kept coming.
#9. She Finds You Annoying
A sure way of not getting any responses is to bombard her chat window with 'what are you doing?'. 'where are you?', 'I just saw that you were online on facebook so why are you not replying me here?'. All these texts convey a cry for help and paint you as a very needy person. Be it the beginning of a relationship or an end; you need to hold your own and only act in this fashion when some seriously wrong thing has happened. If you don’t bring maturity to the table or inspire confidence in her with your attitude, the chances are she finds you too annoying and will rather keep her distance than getting involved.
#10. Speak To Your Friend
You have played this thing in your head more than a few times and every time you make the same deductions from the material that you hold in your head, so why not narrate this to your friend who can give you some input that you are clearly missing? At times it becomes necessary for us to get the cold verdict from a friend when we have a soft spot for someone and cannot wrestle it out of our thinking all by ourselves.
#11. Don’t Play Cool Instead Be Genuine
Honesty brings its own charm, and this is truer than not. If you are the guy, who pretends and plays smooth to hide out the things you would rather tell your friends or people you are close to, the chances are that she will spot this sham. When we don’t get a response immediately, it is because we have come across as something which the girl thinks cannot deal with the reality of life. The best way to cast away all doubts is by starting with one of your shortcomings and then talk about your strengths which will create positive body language.
#12. Be Honest
Tell her exactly what plans you have in mind. Show her that you are fully capable of respecting her personal and professional space and won’t cost her the things she dearly cares about. One of the most difficult tasks is to keep up the good vibe throughout the conversation that becomes essential when it comes to replies, and you can do that by both taking control of the conversation and then yielding to her when she takes control of the same. Lies can often catch you in a trap where you have to keep spawning things to hide the truth and become catalysts in not getting a reply to texts.
#13. Be Clever
Once you have spoken to her a few times, you will be able to read her moods and know when she is upset or tired and when she is happy. Use this to your advantage by mentioning her in a status or a post when she is not interested in having a conversation or is spooked to discuss the future.
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I was at a party last night and my friends kept teasing me about the way I got awkward around
girls which was not true as I had dated in the past but who can stop them when they are in a
mood to mock and need someone to make the target of their bashing. I was happy to essay that
role but only for a little while till the girl I was covertly looking at for a while came closer to the
counter. I signaled my friend to quiet down and met with disobedience as they were not in the mood of quieting down so I moved way over to the other side where she previously was and to
my surprise after she separated from other girls and came down my way. We exchanged a few
words and I asked her about some of her personal information with her love for dogs being
something that she talked at length about. We exchanged numbers just when she was going to
leave and bonded a lot over how silly and over the top our friends are as she too was getting a
little sick by their company. My first text praised her photo and she replied positively to it and I
sensed that something was on here we talked about everything under the earth to her favorite
shows and to my cycling expeditions. We had really hit it off when I asked her out for a concert
and she did not reply. I waited patiently for a few hours after which I just could not control my
overthinking and typed a big explanation why I asked her out and that I think it is too soon as
well but I won’t make it more than a friendly outing. I was destined to be attracted to those better
than me but the way I was acting was the behavior of a man who lacked self-confidence. I kept
checking her online profile to make myself feel better. The problem with this approach was that
although some attention was flattering or nice, too much attention got creepy and annoying very
quickly and I could not argue but admit to myself that I may have given her the impression that I
was pushy and controlling which meant that she was likely to stay away. She just texted back
that she will go with me after two days and told me that I worry too much to which I calmly texted
what happened to you and she said that she was asked by her superior to visit a camp as
medical attention was required there. She was a veterinarian that’s why she talked about dogs a
lot.