Nobody gets over their love overnight. It takes time to realize that the relationship has ended and you need to get over them. The reason behind the breakup could be anything and break up is not difficult. You get into an argument with your partner and you decide to break everything in the heat of the moment. Aggression makes a person do things that they will regret doing after they calm down. That is why it is suggested that a person should not lose their calm in difficult situations because the person can take wrong steps with a hot head. Breakups are mostly a result of anger and that is why most of the couples try to get back together but they cannot heal the wounds that were given during the fight. Other times, breakups are important for the person’s growth. Some relationships suppress one partner’s wishes and requirements because of the dominance of the other. But the time that both the partner spent together does not fade away. The memories stay for long. What should you do when you’re still in love with your ex? Should you get back with them?
It would be unfair to take one stance. You do not know if it was the right decision or if you can live without them. What should you do in this situation? You need to consider the reason you broke up. If your relationship ended quite a long time ago and you still feel that you love your ex then you should not try to communicate your feelings with them. Contacting your ex will not yield any positive results. It is possible that they have moved on, so, when you confess your feelings to them, they may not respond well. Their response may hurt you again and therefore; it is suggested that you keep your feelings to yourself. You could not completely move on when you had a breakup, and that is why you still love them. The problem, usually, is not that you love them. The idea of their existence and the sweet memories you created with the person chase you all the time. You think you were happy when you were with them because you feel lonely now or perhaps you are still in their contact and you find them happy in their life, which makes you feel sad. You could be really in love with them and maybe they feel the same for you. Let us see what you should do when you are still in love with your ex:
#1. Maintain Distance From Your Ex
Maintain distance after you have broken up with your partner. At times, you may feel that you can stay friends with them, but this is a false hope you feed yourself. You will not be able to become friends with your ex right after the breakup. Your feelings and memories of each other will be fresh which will not allow you to share a relationship less than what you had with them. From being their love interest to being just a friend will be a difficult journey so one should avoid it completely for quite some time. If you have feelings for your ex then maintaining a distance will be the right choice for you. You will learn whether you loved them or not. If the distance stops affecting you after some time then you will realize that it is not so complicated after all. You just miss their presence. You will realize that you were not so much in love and that you should not depend on other people for the happiness in your life.
#2. Stop Stalking Them
The biggest reason why you can’t get over them is that you stalk them everywhere. You have left your little spies everywhere to keep an eye over the partner. Will that help you in getting over them or getting them back in your life? No, it will never help you. You will harm your self-esteem because when you will find them doing completely fine without you, your confidence will drop down. You will feel that all the time was worthless and the partner did not care about you. They were not in love with you and that is why they moved on. You should stop thinking about what they could be doing in their life because they don’t. Do not stalk them over social media checking who they meet and what is their status. You should be worried about yourself rather than someone who is not at all worried about you at present. Move on and cherish your present. Make complete utilization of your time by learning something new and focusing on your career. Life is about changes and how you manage them.
#3. Do Not Get Nostalgic
There is no doubt that you will get nostalgic every time you see something that belonged to your ex or was gifted by them. The pictures, coffee mug, pillow and everything around you, will remind you of your ex but swimming deep down into those thoughts is useless. Those memories will make you weak and you should avoid thinking about those memories. Keep all the stuff your ex-gifted you at some place where you will not see them. Do not return them to your ex as that will hurt you and your ex’s emotions. Hide them somewhere you do not see them every day. It is not wrong to open the album of your shared memories with your ex once in a while but thinking about them every day is a problem. If they will not get away from your sight you will not forget them. If you want to move on then you should not allow the cheerful or the sorrowful memories in your mind. The break up was for a reason and you should not doubt your decisions once you have made them.
#4. Remind Yourself The Reason For Breakup
You had a breakup with your partner because of some reasons. Think about those reasons and reevaluate your decision. If they cheated on you or lied to you about something that you should have known then there is no point in trying to get them back in your life or to love them. But if you feel that the breakup was a result of the immature decision and irresponsible attitude then you should try to resolve things now. If you broke up because you both were angry or wanted to part ways to focus on your career then there is no harm in loving your ex. If you love them then you can give your relationship a second chance. A lot of relationships end because the aspirations of both the partners are different. They wish to spend time focusing on their career for which they even leave the country. A long distance relationship is very tough one to keep. So, couples decide to separate from each other. If you are settled in your life then you can get back with the ex if they are ready.
#5. Talk About Your Breakup With Your Ex
If you have tried to maintain the distance and if that still doesn’t work then you should talk to your ex about it. Try to connect with your ex once again and start talking with them. Know how their life has been and if they have found someone new. There is no point waiting for them if they have moved on. If they are single then you can confess your feelings to your ex. Tell them that you have been in love with them since you broke up. Ask them what they feel about it. Even if they moved on there are chances that they may be looking for someone in their life. You could be their possible future.
#6. Improve Your Conditions
Whatever the reason was for the breakup you should work on them. If there were trust issues from your side then know the truth and start trusting them again. If time was one reason then start learning to take out time for the people who matter to you. Maybe they have become a better person and so you should become one too. If you want your relationship back then you should get a better version of it. Work on your personality and try to become a better partner.
#7. Try To Begin Again
Stay in touch with your ex. If they are ready to forget everything that happened in the past then you should too. Start the relationship again and become friends again. Spend more time with them and get to know if they are still the same person or they have changed. It is important that you think twice before entering into a relationship with them because they may not have changed at all or they may have developed some bad qualities. Be sure of what you do this time.
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