It’s the dream of every girl to one day get married to a man who takes care of her, understands her, and loves her more than anything else in the world. They seek a guy whose primary purpose in life is keeping her happy and everything else is secondary; somebody they can rely on at all times. In short, they want a good husband they can spend the rest of their life within joy and laughter.
It’s not only girls who search for the man of their dreams, but guys also wish to be the man their woman can turn to when the need be and who would do anything to keep her happy and safe. Do you want to be somebody’s prince charming who is everything that she wants? Well, to tell you the truth, it is not as difficult as you may think and if you love her enough, nothing can stop you from becoming that person. Here’s what you should do be a good husband.
#1. Be Faithful And Respect The Vows
Ask anyone and they will tell you that the first thing every woman demands from her man is faithfulness. You took a sacred vow to be loyal when you married her. Keep the promise intact for the rest of your life. Most people want to stay loyal but have difficulty finding a reason to do so and one moment of weakness shatters the sanctity of their marriage. People around you will not get uglier after the day you get married, but it is you who will have to start taking into account the fact that you are married now. One woman can be enough to spend the rest of your life with and all you have to do is stay loyal and keep the love alive. Remember that only a good husband makes a good wife.
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#2. Communication Is The Key So Make Time For Her
The fast-paced concoction of career, marriage, kids, and finances takes our eye off the things that matter the most. We tend to focus our energy on how to make more and more money, at the same time, ignoring the people and relationships that are priceless. If you value people in your life, then understand that communication is the key to every relation, be it friendship, marriage or any other. It is understandable that your hectic life may not allow you to indulge into those candid chats or deep conversations about future, but if you want the marriage to work and your partner to be happy, then you will have to make time for her.
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#3. Keep Showering Her With Love And Affection
One of the most common reasons that marriages do not last long is that people change after tying the knot. The love and affection that was once there in the relationship fade away after a few months or years of getting involved with them. We start to take for granted the person who we would do anything for at one point in our life. If you want to keep the spark alive in your marriage, keep showering her with love and affection. Make her feel special, like the most beautiful woman in the world, and you will be surprised to see how happy she is with you. Sometimes, a simple compliment is enough to make her day.
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#4. Be Her Knight In The Shining Armor
No, we do not ask you to put on a metal suit, just be the man who would take a bullet for her. It’s a cruel world, and every once in a while a woman may need someone to make her feel safe. You do not need to be bulky or ripped to protect her but just take a stand so she can rely on you when she is in trouble. When are you married, you do not merely share a bed with someone, you also share your life and all the problems. If you want to be a good husband, be the stiff shoulder that she can turn to in her sad moments. She will not only like that, but appreciate that.
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#5. Give Her Some Space
Space is important in every relationship. You two may have vowed to spend the rest of your lives together, but every once in a while, all of us need some time to be alone and relax your mind. If you turn into a control freak husband who has to know where his wife is at all times, then you are simply going to drive her away with your foolish antics. Taking some space may sound like your marriage is in the shambles but, in fact, it is among the telltale signs of a healthy relationship. It not only demonstrates trust but also brings to light the interdependency or co-dependency two people have as a couple.
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#6. Make Her Feel Special
Every girl and woman want to feel special, especially around the person she has decided to spend her life with. So be a good husband and make your wife feel like the one-of-a-kind person that she is. You do not need to make grand gestures for that. A small but genuine compliment every once in a while and unexpected affection can do wonders for you. A gift now and then can help you keep the element of surprise alive and keep the relationship fresh.
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#7. Take Care Of Your Responsibilities
Among the basic things that a wife expects from her husband is that he takes care of his duties. We know this is the 21st century where men and women have the equal responsibility that they share for running the household. But as a partner in your household, it is your duty to make sure that you fulfill all your responsibilities and take care of all the things that a wife expects from her husband. Do the dishes, take the trash out, drive your kids to work, and take part in the various other chores as those are not just your wife’s responsibilities.
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#8. Be Supportive Of Her
Like you have ambitions and dreams in your life, your wife does too, and as a responsible husband, it is one of your duties to be supportive of her so she can realize her goals. Being supportive is not that difficult if you ask us; all that you have to do is respect her personal decisions and have faith in her. In many marriages, husbands get threatened by the accomplishments of their wives, which in turn creates problems. Tell her that you are proud of her skills and talents and that she can achieve anything she puts her mind to.
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#9. Lose An Argument; Lose The Battle, Win The War
We understand that letting go of an argument is not that easy but what would you rather choose, losing the argument or losing your partner? Every relationship has troubles, and when you are married to someone, arguments and fights are inevitable. But what is in your hands is how much you let those small issues affect your marriage. The only thing that challenges lead to is bitterness and if you do not want to lose the precious woman you are married to, lose the arguments.
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#10. Keep Her Happy In Bed
Last but certainly not the least, we suggest you keep her happy in bed. In a marriage, you need intimacy to maintain the physical and emotional attraction between the two of you alive. Satisfying intercourse also goes a long way in keeping your partner from cheating on you, and you do not want that to happen in your relationship. You can try to go an extra mile to keep her happy in bed by trying hot new things. Every once in a while, forget about your satisfaction and consider hers. Never let the intercourse become dull and boring.
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So, there you have it, some tips that we thought would help you become a good husband. Even if you are years into your marriage, it is never too late to rekindle the love. Just keep these points in mind, and you are good to go. Tell us what you think about the post through comments below. Also, share with us other tips that you think make a good husband. We would love to hear from you.
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I believe being loyal is the most important thing in a relationship. This is not something that only husbands need to take care of, but a woman as well because if they want to share their bed with somebody else, then they might as well end the marriage and let their partner free from the fake bounds. Being loyal not only entails not getting sexually involved with somebody else but also being emotionally true to your partner. An emotional cheater is a real thing as it affects the intimacy between couples and creates emotional distance.
Also, lying is another way of cheating so avoid involving even the smallest or most trivial of lies in your relationship. When you are caught lying once, you lose the trust of the person which is not easy to gain back. At the time, you may think that your life will never get caught but it only takes one moment. Before you realize it, you will have hurt the person who trusted you the most and lose something priceless. Another quality of a good husband is that he respects his wife and the decisions she makes. Respect is understanding that your wife is a unique person who has an identity of her own. And just like everyone in the world, including you, she is also entitled to her thoughts, opinions, and decisions.
When you marry someone, you become ‘us’ and are no longer ‘me’. The person who you have decided to live with is yours now so there is no space for jealousy and selfishness in the relationship. Though jealousy is not in our control and everyone gets the feeling every now and then but make it a point to not let it affect your wife’s happiness. In addition to that, if you want to be a good husband, learn that compromise is the key. No relationship can run smooth and it is a compromise that ensures that it can last longer.