Relationships are an integral part of one's life. They add meaning to your life and can have a deep impact on your life. Often people invest a lot of time and energy in their relationships. They are important to keep a person grounded and provide the requisite emotional and moral support that one needs to fight the battles of life. On the other hand, breaking up with a person can bring almost the opposite feeling in a person. You may feel shattered and completely lost in life. It can also affect your productivity, and you may feel distracted. Despite the fact, we all know that human beings are social animals. It is nearly impossible for them to survive alone. They always need to bond with others in order to sustain in life.
Sometimes people face situations in which they are compelled to end a relationship because of a difference of opinions, different goals in life, changing behavior and more. At other times, they may not feel the same for a person that they used to and therefore do not find any good in carrying forward a forced relationship. It is always better to part ways when people aren't in agreement and feel a lot of differences in opinions. In such situations, if people keep on being in the relationship, then it may have fatal consequences on the mental health of both the parties involved.
Such relationships only bring dejection, stress and a feeling of being neglected at every step in their lives. One should realize the impact a bad relationship can have on one's life. It can drain a person of his energy and bring a lot of negativity in his or her life. These situations arise because people do not realize the significance of parting ways healthily. They do not handle the process of breaking up like two matured adults.
Breakups are real, and they can make you feel really depressed depending on the fact whether you are the one who is being 'left' or the one who is 'leaving.' In both the situations, you can feel bad as if you are the one who has left someone then it may leave you with a feeling of guilt and unhappiness in your life. On the other hand, if you are the one who is being left, then you may feel a sense of rejection and low self-esteem. In both the situations, the feeling is never a good one. Post break up, one is doomed to handle that baggage of memories and shattered dreams. However, what if you had ended that relationship in a graceful manner? Things might have been different, and the pain may not have been alleviated. This can be adopted only when one realizes that breaking up properly is as important a process as nurturing that relationship timely by investing a good amount of time, energy and efforts.
Tips To End A Relationship Gracefully
#1. Confront Your Feelings
If you have realized lately, that you do not feel the same about your beloved and believe that it is better to end the relationship finally then the best way to do so is always to confront your feelings. Once you are sure of breaking up, then you should directly confront the person and tell him or her what you feel about them. Instead of just beating around the bush and keeping them hanging in the middle, it is always better to convey your feeling directly to them in a matured way. Remember that once you had feelings for that person and they were there with you through thick and thin.
Though things have changed now, you always owe a detailed explanation to the other person. You can always start by telling them what you like about them, how good a person they are and tell them you appreciate them for who they are. It's just that you do not feel the same for them anymore and it has less to do with them but more about the changed feelings. This can save both of you from a lot of mud-slinging and blame-games after the breakup.
#2. Pen A Letter
In this digital age of Facebook and WhatsApp, people have forgotten the art of hand-written letters. Those words on the paper can create a lot of magic and alleviate the pain to a great extent. If you feel that you are not comfortable in expressing your feelings about lost feeling verbally then writing a letter to the person could be a great solution. Not only will this be a very honest gesture but it will also help you to express whatever you feel in a better way. You can write the letter in a very honest, concerned tone that would convey the idea that you care for the other person. The only problem is that you do not feel the same about the person anymore. A letter will make the person feel that you are actually making an effort to end it on a good note instead of just fleeing away from the situation.
#3. Accept Your Partner's Reaction
It would be really mean of you to over-react if your partner cries or shows anger after getting the news. It is extremely normal to feel sad and hopeless when your partner tells you that he or she wants to break up with you. You have spent time together and that period must have been filled with love, affection, late-night talks, endless conversations, sharing things, going out among others. Then one day suddenly you get to know that your partner wants to break up with you, the feeling of anger and hopelessness is more than acceptable in such cases. In fact, you should be concerned about his or her feelings and try to normalize the situation by consoling them. The initial phase of break up might be a little difficult for the one who is being left. You should try to understand their feelings and pacify them and tell the reasons for your actions. You should think about their feelings and imagine the situation in which you would have been in their place. Imagine the kind of pain it could have brought in your life. Be compassionate towards your partner and handle the situation like a matured adult.
#4. Express Your Reasons Clearly
If you want to end a relationship with someone because they acted like a total jerk with you and made you feel terrible, then it is always good to tell them all the reasons of break up clearly but in a polite manner. If you have already decided to break up with that person, then there is no point wasting your energy in playing the blame-games. What had to be done is done. Now, it is the time of action. However, it is important to tell them the way you felt and suffered explicitly. It will help you to vent out all the feelings and get over them easily. It is equally important to let them express their opinion if they wish to say something and listen to them. There is no point in engaging in fighting. You both loved each other at one point of time, and it was your choice to get into a relationship with that person. Accept it and then forgive the person once you have stated your reasons clearly.
#5. Be Honest
Being honest is as much important while breaking up as it is during the relationship. If you are breaking up with your partner because you have fallen in love with someone else, then you should as well tell this to your partner and be honest about your feelings. One should never be scared of telling the exact reasons of breaking up clearly. Also, it is always good, to be honest with someone you loved at one point in time in your life. If you will be vocal about your feelings, then there is a higher probability that your partner might understand your situation and appreciate your honesty towards them.
Another thing to be taken into consideration is that sooner or later they will get to know the truth. It is always good for them and you to get to hear that truth from you instead of getting to hear about it from someone else. You might also not want to completely ruin the relationship with them by telling them all sort of white lies. If you tell them honestly that you have fallen for someone else, then they will also be escaped from the trauma of not knowing the exact reason as to why you left them. In such a case, they might have kept on thinking, blaming themselves and analyzing as in where they went wrong. Therefore, in order to save them from this feeling, you should be kind enough to tell them the exact reason of leaving very clearly.
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