Have you ever broke up with someone and later wanted to take that decision back? Yes! It happens with most of us. As the old saying quotes “you don't know until it’s done.” Sometimes you do not realize that the things that happened has a reason to happen that way and they leave particular regrets in your life. Regrets make you doubt your own decision if you did the right thing or not? When you are in the midst of the end of a relationship, these are the basic questions that you encounter for sure. After a break when you regret, it is very natural to analyse things from a different angle altogether. However, you don’t need to really regret about what’s done.
The question of “what if I haven’t” comes in almost everyone’s mind. However, regretting over a breakup will not let you undo that decision. You need to get over that agonizing and nagging feeling of regret that you might take the wrong decision by separating your ways. Believe the fact that those bargaining of arguments and sleepless nights were not something that you deserved. Stop worrying about the wrong or the right decision. It is better to focus on how to get out of this situation of regret by taking the wrong decision. The obsessiveness on regrets can chew up all the happiness of your life. But how do you leave all the regrets behind and move on with your life? Here are some tips with which you can deal with the regret of breaking up with someone.
One of the best things you can do when you have had a breakup is taking your ‘Me Time.' Everyone needs their own time to think whether they want to get back or they are better like that. If you will try and escape from the situation, you will never be able to find a solution. Give yourself enough time to at least decide what is best for you. In the meantime, you might get over them, or you might realize that you want them back. To see the situation objectively so that you can be firm in a decision, you need to face yourself for some time.
The most regretting thing is that you don’t have them in your life anymore. People regret breaking up with someone because they miss them being around. That is the time when you regret breakup the most as you probably are still in love with them. Either you are lonely or you genuinely miss them. The sure reason is not that you love them, instead you are alone and alienated which can also be the reason to not get over your breakup. You might not have anyone to fulfill your emotional and physical needs. You need to ask yourself all of these reasons, in order to get to the conclusion.
If you have a history of breaking up with people and regret then probably you are bad at making decisions. Also, if you get over a regret easily, you need to be sure of the fact that you will be over this breakup easily as well. Maybe you do not have a struggle with your partner and with yourself. There can be ego issues too if you delve deeper into the matter. As they say “the grass is greener on the other side”. In most of the cases, the reason of these regrets is not the one related to the partner but with your own self.
While we go through a breakup, we usually aren’t focused on anything else. However, in order to stop regretting about a breakup, all you need to do is to be focused towards resolving your problems. If you will keep thinking about the tragic things, you will slowly become the fallen hero. People never get over the lost people they love. However, if you will allow your damaged soul to improve, you will realize there is so much more to life than a breakup. Humans are those stoic creatures who endure pain and do not want to lose people they love. But you can heal from the romantic transgression. If you are stuck in your past, you are probably killing the chances of finding someone better.
A relationship never gets over till you get a closure from it. Allow yourself to have that closure. If you will not get a closure, how will you get your happy life back? Nobody wants to be sad in their life for long. In order to get that better life easily, you should find a closure for yourself after you are done with a relationship. To start a life with no regrets, find a way to get a closure. The best way to not regret and move on in your life is to close the chapter which is lagging behind in your life. Explain yourself the importance of a closure.
Once you go through a break, you really need to accept the fact that grief and regrets are very natural. You will face grief and pain after a person is going from your life. If you are very strongly feeling regrets about taking the decision of separation, this does not mean that you should go back together. There must be reasons that you must have to take the decision of breaking up with them. So do not go against yourself by thinking that you should get back and just because of a regret. Instead of thinking about the losses that you are facing because of the breakup, think about the matter in a positive light.
In order to feel positive and encouraged in life, you should better focus on the successes of your life rather than the pathetic experiences. What you have lost will never get back to you, but you can embrace the things you have. For you, it is the time to dive into the positivities and think about the successful things that you have achieved throughout your life. The most powerful transformative effects that will be provided to you at such crucial times will be the achievements and successes of your life. It is time to have a rebirth after a breakup. You can not ignore the most important phase of your life that is the phase of achievements.
The pain and happiness comes and goes. That is how the life works. The wave of happiness and pain is a part of life. The plan of action to prepare yourself to hit the griefs of your life will be the most positive affirmations of your life. Keep your positive affirmations in hand for all those dark and pathetic times. You can undo, or erase what has already happened. Whatever is meant to be, will find a way to happen. There will be no sense of adopting a regret because of that. Believe in the fact that if the relationship meant to be, it would have still worked well.
Sometimes all you can do is accept the things the way they are and let that be. Rather than thinking about the past, it is better to make a plan for your future. Prepare a plan for future and see that it is working out well. Time is what handles everything. You can not blame yourself for everything. The decisions you took was for the best and focus on sticking to that and getting better from them. Every option is worth trying if you think objectively about it. Therefore, once something bad is done, think about having a better future.
Alright, last but certainly not the least, everything that happens in your life id for your best. As people say that if you get something of your wish, that’s good, however, if you don’t get what you want it’s better as you will get better than what you ever wanted. Therefore, believe in yourself and have faith in fate. Whatever happens, it happens for your good. You might not realize it too soon but it happens for the best of you. All you really need to do is to open the doors for the positive things to happen. Once you will start believing in the positive things, everything else will follow.
People come and go but life does not stop. But consider yourself truly and then go forward with your decisions as living with regrets can eat up your life. In order to not make your life a void, you really need to give up regrets and move on with it. If you have some more suggestions regarding this share with us in the comment section below.
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