Many would agree that the worst part of the dating game is when you go out on a perfect first date and do not get the call back from him asking for a second date. In your mind, you believe that everything went like it was supposed to and you have already contemplating your future together a few months down the line, but the reality is exactly the opposite. While you thought you had met your prince charming who was about to sweep you off your feet, it was just another date after which he did not even bother to call you to schedule a second date.
Do you want to leave that time of your life behind? Do you want the guy who you think is the perfect match for you always to want more of you after the first date? Forget that special guy, do you want every guy to hit you up after the first date? You would be surprised that this is a lot easier than you think. You do not have to lose your dignity throwing yourself on the guy or lower your standards. A few simple tips! That is all you need, and every guy will come crawling back to you after a date.
#1. Give Him The Perfect Kiss
A kiss says it all. And if this is your first kiss with the guy, you want to make it special. Believe it or not, but a kiss is enough to tell if two people have any sexual chemistry between them and that is what almost every other guy is looking for. When they go out with a new girl, the list of things they are looking for starts with sexual intimacy like they have never had before with any other girl. So even if you and the guy do not have any common interests and are not perfect for each other on paper, you can still get him to ask you out on the second date by giving him one simple thing, that perfect kiss.
#2. Make Him Laugh
Every guy you meet will list a unique list of qualities that he is looking for in a girl, but every single one of these lists will have one thing in common, humor. Every girl loves a guy who can make her laugh, and this works both ways. Guys also love a girl who can crack a few decent ones. That way, they do not have to try to impress the girl all the time. Instead, they can focus on having a good time together and share a few chuckles.
#3. Flirt Like A Pro
Guys love it when a girl flirts with them. But you have to be careful when you are flirting with him. Flirt a little extra, and he will start to believe that you are too easy and he will take a few steps back and flirt just a little less, and he will think that you are not really interested in him. Therefore, you have to find the perfect amount of flirting. Also, do not give him the idea that you are going to be one of those clingy girlfriends who never leave a guy alone they go out on a date with. Be cool and make him want you.
#4. Never Ask For A Second Date
We understand that this is the 21st century and there is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out on a date. But you can come across as a little desperate if you do so. Your move can blow up in your face and shoo him away. He might even be looking to go out on a second date with you, but just might because you made a move. You have to make him think that you are a catch and he should be working hard to get you.
#5. Be Interested In Him
It is an instant confidence boost for a guy when a girl shows that she is interested in him. It could be a reason why the guy you have gone out in the past did not ask you for the second date. Maybe they did not think that you were interested in them, so they thought that rather than getting humiliated by a ‘no,' it was better not to ask you out again. Girls like to talk, and guys are mostly okay with that, but they love it when you give them the chance to talk. Don’t just stop there, act like you are really interested in listening to what he has to say.
#6. Wait For Him To Call
The simplest way to make a guy miss you is giving him the space and time for it. How will he miss being around you if you are constantly in his inbox, texting him every 10 minutes or so? We suggest you to back off. After you have made him believe that you are interested in going out with him on the first date, give him time to think of you, miss you and want to go out with you another time.
#7. ‘Forget’ Something Of Yours With Him
An earring, ring, lipstick, whatever you do not mind having with you for a few days. We understand that this is a sneaky way of getting the guy to call you, but this works most of the time. You can think of it as an excuse for him to get in touch. He will think that meeting you to return your stuff is another chance for him to make an impression.
#8. Treat Him Right
You generally say it to guys to treat the woman they are going out with, in a decent manner, but this also works both ways. Guys also love a girl who treats him the way a guy is supposed to be treated. Do not treat him like a friend, or your boyfriend already, this is your first date and that is how you should treat him like.
#9. Be Yourself
You can be real, or you can be pretentious. This is a choice that you will have to make. But we suggest you to keep things real. Guys do not like pretentious girls who are always trying to play somebody they are not. The easiest way to make a guy like you and stand out from the lot of girls he goes out with is being real. Genuinely be the person who you really are, and he will like you. We promise you that.
These simple steps are all you need and no guy, and we mean no guy, will be able to resist the urge to pick up the phone and ask you out on the second date.
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10 Opinions
Not sure if many of you will agree with me or not but I think it is not too difficult to impress a guy. Maybe it is because most guys do not think too much before getting into a relationship or some other reason, but if you play your cards right, you can easily have a guy drooling over you in no time. And if making a guy fall in love with you is that easy, imagine how trouble-free it would be for you to get a guy just to ask you out on a second date. I believe all you need to do is follow the below mentioned three mantras. The biggest problem with girls going on dates these days is that they bring their partner on a date. No, I am not talking about a boyfriend in the literal sense. I mean that tiny little smartphone that nobody seems to bear staying away from. Yes, your simple smartphone has been ruining your dates and it is high time that you kept it in your purse while on dates. If you wanted to take selfies every few minutes or text with your BFFs, then why did you even put so much effort in getting ready and coming out on a date? You should have come out alone and did this by yourself. So, do yourself and the guy with you a small favor and put that phone where it belongs. The second biggest issue that first dates do not go so well for guys as well as girls is that they hide their true self on first dates and pretend to be somebody else. Well, if you want a guy to like you, then just be yourself. Otherwise, he will only be falling for the girl you are pretending to be and the façade that you are creating with become a ruin soon. So, the simplest way you can get a second date out of meeting a guy only once is being yourself. Have fun like you do when you go out with your friends. Guys like girls who are not afraid to be self and let their hair down. If he enjoys your company, why will he not call you back for another time? The third and final thing that I would like to suggest is that you show a little interest in the guy you are going on a date with. I mean, the guy dressed his best and is doing everything in his power to impress you. The least you can do is show that you are interested in him and appreciate all the efforts that he has put into this date. Most guys do not call girls back for the second date because they think that the girl is not interested in them. Maybe it was because the girl was too busy playing hard to get or showing a little attitude during the date. But whatever the reason may be, when a girl does not show that she is interested in the guy or going out on another date with him, the guy tends to believe that she is not interested and does not ask back in order to save himself from any sort of embarrassment in the future. So, this is what I think girls can do to make sure that they get asked out for another date. I hope this will help you in the pursuit of your guy.