Being in a relationship brings along the feelings of affection that makes you want to show your partner or loved one that how much you care for them. Some people, however, do not believe in spending big bucks just to show their partner how much they care. Not that they don’t have the dollars to spend on, but they just don’t believe in such notion. Some people are the total opposite of these. They think that you can control your partner’s loyalty by flooding them with gifts and expensive stuff on a regular basis. But then, there comes the clan of people who staunchly believe in getting showered by these gifts.
Not to generalize but this kind of behavior is most evident amongst women. A common modern day slang refers to them as ‘gold diggers.' But the idea of high maintenance not always involves materialistic demands but also emotional needs that sometimes involve one of the partners who just doesn't seem to get enough of each other! Some people require a more than normal amount of attention from their partners, generally referred to being clingy and can be very emotionally demanding. Such a relationship can only survive if both the partners are equally clingy to each other otherwise the relationship is bound to strive. Before getting into a serious relationship, start dating the person and look for signs of unreasonable expectations and whether you can take it or not.
Some people (mostly guys) define high-maintenance as a strong issue that can be a deal breaker. Some people usually prefer to live a simple life rather than clinging on to their other half or letting them know each and every detail of their lives before undergoing it and expecting the same in return. These kinds of people are generally known as the low-maintenance people. They are self-sufficient and enjoy their own company and doesn’t seem to feel lost if their partner cancels on them. A survey suggests that more than 75% of men and women would prefer being in a low-maintenance relationship!
It doesn’t matter who pays the bill but they just can’t keep calm when it’s time for a date. They want or expect you to take them somewhere fancy, always, and if you suggest an alternative, they might even get on your nerves talking about how her dear friend at the office was treated at an expensive restaurant for their anniversary by her boyfriend. They always tend to compare and be the best when it comes to being treated right, the definition of which they think is defined by how much is being spent on them.
If you’ve always been a person who believes in keeping their love life low key and private, then this might come as a newsflash for you as high-maintenance people tend to be the exact opposite of this notion. They just can’t have enough of you and even in public, they will insist on holding hands, while walking or even watching a movie! They seem to be way too emotionally dependent and clingy for some reason which only they have the answer to.
Some high-maintenance people even find it offensive to split the bill and will always expect you to pay the bill when you guys head out. They are not just emotionally dependant but financially dependent too. Talk to them if this habit tends to get on your nerves as this can get really annoying and even unbearable after a point of time.
From the time they wake up in the morning to the time they crash at night and everything in between, they let you know about their every single detail and even expect you to live that way. They might get upset if you do not regularly talk to them over chat or phone all day every day and are unaware of the fact that maybe other people have a life. They tend to put all their energies into giving themselves to their partner and are least focussed on their personal goals in life.
If they are always consumed by their sharp and good looks and believe in striking a lasting impression by their suave persona, then they might be what you call a ‘self- obsessed’ person. They consider themselves flamboyant and live life kingsize and expect you to keep sustain their luxurious lifestyle by feeding them, splurging on them. In return, they furthermore expect you to give all your attention and energy on them.
If you are being bombarded with lovestruck at every other selfie and if you happen to begin every morning with hearts and kiss emoji text, habits that doesn’t make them look cute but gets on your nerves, then your partner might be high-maintenance as they expect you to shower your love even through texts starting right from the morning. Usually, this habit is reciprocated well but if you find yourself getting annoyed by this action or think that you guys are not there yet, then talking about it seems to be the best option.
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Which can be emotional as well as materialistic. If you have plans with your friends to go out on a Friday night and grab a few drinks, they ask to come along. They force friendship on all your friends and don't understand the meaning of space and a life besides your love life. They might get over-possessive at times and doubt your every move which does not involve their presence. They just cannot be okay with the idea of you hanging out with a friend belonging to the opposite sex as well.
They want to cherish each and every wake-up ritual with you and are not open to understanding why you want to hang out with the other guys over the weekend. It is absolutely okay to give time to the other people in your life besides your love interest or your better half and if your partner fails to understand this, then it’s your job to talk and make them understand if it all matters!
High-Maintenance partner generally love premium and luxe brands and expect you to spend dollars on them as this seems to be their definition of ‘feeling loved’. They want you to flower your allowance or earned money and are just never satisfied with the things you do for them. They always crave for more!
#1. Realize If It Is Real
If you are reading this article because you think your partner might be a bit high-maintenance, then chances are that you aren’t. If you guys have met over a dating or hookup app where you just went out to have fun and later your better half starts to cling to you, then maybe this might not be what you were looking for in the first place and realize this before it ends in flames as one-sided emotions can get pretty ugly.
#2. Avoid Unrealistic Expectations
If your partner seems to be making unreasonable demands besides you telling them how you are not okay with it or feel the same, then maybe this relationship just doesn’t deserve to survive. Any relationship based on one-sided feelings or materialistic/ financial dependency will not survive for long. Get to know the person before settling into a full-fledged relationship with them and avoid people with unnecessary expectations and demands, no matter how good looking they might be!
#3. Talk To Them
Let your high-maintenance partner know how unreasonable they can get at times! Let them know how you believe in space in a relationship and how sometimes they get too demanding and unreasonable emotionally.
#4. Focus On The Better Things
If you think your partner needs you more than you need them or vice versa, then focus on the better things in your relationship and get over petty issues and understand for a fact that no relationship is perfect and is made worthwhile by the attempts of the people involved.
#5. Suggest Other Possibilities
If you are running low on cash and your partner keeps on making unreasonable expensive demands, suggest other possibilities that you guys can opt for. Relationships are based on what you feel for each other rather than how much you spend on each other.
#6. Ask Yourself, Is It Worth It?
If you think your partner is high-maintenance and you just cannot convince yourself or have the time to pamper their emotional needs and financial affections, then rethink your decision. Talk to your partner or take a break to figure things out. If you think your partner’s unrealistic expectations are not worth it and you guys have no future, then maybe it’s time to end things for the good!
There are all kinds of people in this world with high-maintenance people being the most draining ones of them, especially in a relationship. Here’s a list of how to know if you or your partner might be high-maintenance and some ways to deal with the situation!
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