How to deal with a Stalker on Social Media?

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How to deal with a Stalker on Social Media?

When you hear the term stalker the general idea that you get is someone annoying who persistently wants to be around. The term is often used lightly by all of us to refer to a friend who just can’t leave us alone but the reality is way grimmer. A stalker can be someone obnoxious who is obsessed with you and wants to know of your every move and it can also be someone of a bad frame of mind who can have some really sinister motives. Social media is one place where stalkers can find all the information about you and then use it against you in a harmful way. A stalker can be someone obnoxious who is obsessed with you and wants to know of your every move and it can also be someone of a bad frame of mind who can have some really sinister motives. Social media is one place where stalkers can find all the information about you and then use it against you.

It is important that you deal with a stalker on social media as what just sounds like a small problem, in the beginning, can take a really ugly turn very soon. It is important to nip the problem in the bud and for that, it is essential to recognize the issue at hand. If you are being stalked and you feel that the person is dangerous and a threat to your safety then you must take every measure to protect yourself. This also applies for dealing with a stalker at work or in some cases dealing with a stalker friend.

Dealing With A Stalker 

If you are being stalked and feel that your life is threatened then it is something that needs immediate attention. The first step in dealing with any stalker whether dangerous or not is to let them know that you do not wish for any further contact with them. The stalker can be a man or even a woman and to overlook the problem just on the basis of the gender can have bad consequences. It is also essential to give it in writing that you don’t want any further contact with the said person as the paper trail will be useful in the future for a legal case. The message that is sent should be crystal clear that you do not want any contact with that person and any further contact on their part will result in the police becoming involved. This way the stalker knows that you are ready to take serious actions. If the stalker has a history of stalking, violence, criminal background, and substance abuse then it is important that you immediately go to the police and file a complaint instead of issuing a notice

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Dealing With An Online Stalker 

The entire world is one or the other social media platform and there is no way that you can escape the lure of social media sites. Unfortunately, people like to share everything on such sites and end up giving away a lot more details then they should be. The result is that it provides a fertile ground for a stalker. Cyber stalking just like cyber bullying takes a toll on the mental health of the victim. Most often those who partake in cyber stalking are just people who have too much time on their hand and no better way of using it. They enjoy pissing the other person off and no matter what you post on your social media account they would be the first one to find out. It is always a good idea to never befriend strangers on social media sites. If random people are sending you requests on social media then it is best to never accept them. You don’t want complete strangers to get a glimpse of your personal world. Just trust your instinct and if a person looks shady then just say no to their request and if they continue to bother than just block them. Also, delete inappropriate comments instead of commenting back. Don’t feed the trolls! Then they should be.The result is that it provides a fertile ground for a stalker. Cyber stalking just like cyber bullying takes a toll on the mental health of the victim.

Most often those who partake in cyber stalking are just people who have too much time on their hand and no better way of using it. They enjoy pissing the other person off and no matter what you post on your social media account they would be the first one to find out. It is always a good idea to never befriend strangers on social media sites. If random people are sending you requests on social media then it is best to never accept them. You don’t want complete strangers to get a glimpse of your personal world. Just trust your instinct and if a person looks shady then just say no to their request and if they continue to bother than just block them. Also, delete inappropriate comments instead of commenting back. Don’t feed the trolls!

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Dealing With A Stalker Ex 

Your relationship is long over and you have moved on but that poor guy or girl is still stuck in their make believe the world where you guys are together. More or less this is just a sad situation and you need to talk to them and explain that you are done with each other or even better just ignore them. Though what happens if that ex does not accept reality and continues to stalk you everywhere.The best thing to do in that situation is that if you know your ex is not a reasonable person then block him or her. It is advisable to cut all contacts with such an ex on social media and to not let them know what are you doing with your life and who are you seeing now. As such stalkerish behavior by a person known to you can soon seep out of the cyber world into your real life. Your ex would anyway know a lot about you and with the help of social media he or she can turn up wherever you are. When your stalker is your past lover than the situation can become dangerous if the person does not acknowledge the breakup. In such inform your family and if needed take legal help.

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Dealing With A Stalker At Work 

Sadly, we all have that one weird person at work who displays behavior which is close to creepy. Sometimes such behavior can be passed off as a stand alone incident but if it keeps repeating persistently then it is time to take notice and be aware of the person. Firstly understand whether the person in question was genuinely stalking you, keep a note of the time and location and tell the person verbally that you do not like this sort of nuisance and it best that they don’t repeat it in the future. Further on put an end to all contact with such a person as stalkers mostly labor under the delusion that they are in a relationship or friendship with the victim. Make sure that the colleague in question does not meet you or have access to you outside of work. If the problem continues then it becomes important that you speak to a higher management about it. This would help in bringing the problem to the notice of the authority and every office has certain rules against this type of harassment which would be implemented in the situation. Make sure that you have ample amount of proof and evidence to back up your case.

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Dealing With A Stalker Friend 

Perhaps the most difficult to handle of all is a stalker friend. All of is know of a friend who has really good stalking skills and can take out information about anyone in a matter of minutes. What is those tendencies are applied on you and they take a turn for the disastrous? A friend knows more about your whereabouts and what you do in life more than anyone else. They are the closest people to you and for everything, you generally turn towards your friends for help and guidance. Though if the same person who has information on everything that you do turns stalker than it is no laughing matter. They might not be dangerous but they would know where to find you and they become so emotionally attached to you that you just can't get rid of them. They are always dependent on you to give them company and to listen to them to them and be a part of everything that they do that it becomes claustrophobic just being with them. Every Time you try to escape such a friend the result would be bad and a lot of melodrama. Moreover, such a friend would always turn up just where you are and know how to find you, they would wiggle out all the important details of your life and feel that they are entitled to you more than anyone. A stalker of this sort is more harmful to your mental health than your physical health. So, the best thing to do in this situation is to actually cut all contacts with that certain friend and if that's not possible than draw certain boundaries that the person is not allowed to cross. Tell them their place in your life and ask them not to expect anything more.

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Be it a regular Joe or a celebrity, everyone has had their brush with stalkers and mostly it has been a light incident but often enough things escalated too quickly. In case you have someone stalking you or stalking a friend or coworker that you know it is best to make yourself aware of the problem and look at what could be the best approach to deal with the issue. Stalking on social media is not something that can be passed off as harmless fun, it is instead a major problem that needs to be addressed as it can take a turn for the worst. Often enough stalking can cause a lot of mental problems to the victim and take a toll on their emotional well being.

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A stalker is someone who keeps on poking your privacy all the time and tracks every move that you make. This is definitely annoying. In my view, this is an intolerable behavior and suspicious at the same time. One should report this to someone elderly or to the police. There are times when these things turn out to be something really harmful to the individual who is being stalked. You must change all the passwords of the social website that you use and try not to put things on privacy; also you must be careful with your surroundings.

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