Wouldn’t it be amazing if you just meet someone, like them, they like you and it is happily ever after? As satisfying as that may sound, the scenarios in real life are hardly anything like this.
More times than not, the person you like does not reciprocate the same feelings, and even more so, they already have a boyfriend. While there are many simple ways you can impress your crush like the ones mentioned in this article, the latter seems to be a more difficult talk.
When the girl you like already has a boyfriend, you have two choices. You can either drop the idea of pursuing her, or you can do your best to sweep her off of her feet. This may not seem like the noblest thing to do, but you have to remember two things; life isn’t fair because if it was, then she wouldn’t already have a boyfriend, and the heart wants what it wants, which in this case is the girl.
If it makes you feel any better, then trying to get the girl who is already involved with someone doesn’t make you a player or a bad person, it just proves that you are a determined, hard-working individual who has high ambitions in life. For all we know, this is the dumb cupid’s fault who stuck an arrow in your butt.
So, if you have finally made up your mind about getting the girl, this is how you do it.
#1. Ask Her Out…But Don’t Really Go Out With Her
Confused? Don’t be. All we are asking you is that you ask her out, which of course you will have to do, given that you want to date her. But we do not want you actually to go out with her. When you are talking to her about something, casually mention a new movie that is coming out and that you have two tickets for it and would like her to join you. Ask her out but do not pursue the matter any further. She might say no, hesitating to go out with you since she already has a boyfriend, but you do not want a no for an answer. What you want is her to wish that she had gone out with you. Girls like to play hard to get and this is the perfect opportunity for this girl to have fun with the game, and you do not want to give her that chance. It is to make her keep wondering if you really want to go out with her and you will the one playing hard to get.
#2. Flirt Like Your Life Depends On It
Flirt, Flirt, Flirt! What more can we say? The only way you can get a girl who is already going out with someone is by flirting. Flirting is not only about letting the other person know that you are interested in them, this is also about making her understand that her presence makes you happy and this can also be the other way around. Give her a smile that makes her day whenever you bump into her. Illuminate her world with your smile. Let her that you feel good when she is around. Girls like attention and what better way to give her that than constantly showering her with compliments.
One last piece of advice; do not do this when her partner is around as this might freak her out.
Don’t know how to flirt the right way? Here are some tips that will make you a pro!
#3. Become The Other Guy
No, not the backup guy or the one she goes to if things do not work out well with her current partner. You do not want to end up being a guy she is just using to pass weekends when her boyfriend is busy. Be the guy she wants to be with all the time. And for that, you want her to respect you and want you. You will never achieve that if you go trailing her at every chance you get. If you really want to steal her from under her boyfriend’s nose, then you need to take it a little slow. Give her the chance to miss you. Basically, make her feel like the most important thing to you in the world when you are with her and let her miss that feeling when you are not around.
#4. Give Her What She’s Missing
We have evolved in such a way that what we want the most is the only thing we don’t or can’t have. And since no relationship is perfect, you need to know what exactly it is missing. If it is attention that she desires, then give her all the attention in the world and if it is compliments that she is seeking, then shower her with compliments. It does not matter that her boyfriend can be with her through the day while you only get to spend about an hour with her. Believe it, your 60 minutes with her can do more damage than anything else. Do whatever you think you need to make her feel more special than her partner is.
#5. Never Badmouth Her Guy
Badmouthing a boyfriend when you are trying to steal his girlfriend so as to prove that you are better than him might seem like an effective tool. But it is more likely to blow up in your face than work to your advantage. This can even sabotage all the good work you have put in, in making the girl like you and become a friend. Till now, you are her friend, but if you badmouth her boyfriend, you will turn into a rival. Also, maybe she still likes or loves her partner as there is a reason why she is still in a relationship with her. Insulting her boyfriend is almost like insulting her which she definitely will not like. In fact, you do not want this to seem like a competition between you and her boyfriend; you want to make it seem like you are an upgrade and you know it.
#6. Don’t Try Too Hard
When you try too hard, you become a part of the long list of guys trying to woo her and give her all the control. You want to make her feel like it is an even playing field and it’s not only to your advantage if you two start going out together. While you to want to flatter her, there is still a line that you do not want to cross. Flirting is good but too much of that and nothing else can be annoying for her. She needs a chance to know you as a person before she rejects you as just another flirtatious guy who is trying to steal her away.
#7. Be Patient
It is never easy to steal a girl away from her boyfriend, and it takes time. You cannot expect a girl to leave her boyfriend and start going out with you just like that. She may like you and enjoy spending time with you, but you need to give her time to realize on her own that she can be happier with you than she can be with her current boyfriend. And you do not want to rush her into picking one of the two of you. It is something that she has to contemplate by herself.
#8. Never Propose
After spending a lot of time trying to woo her, it may seem like a good idea to ask her to choose between her boyfriend and you, but take it from us, refrain from it. A blunt proposal can put her into the spotlight and make her feel uneasy around you. In addition to that, it puts out that you want to a romantic relationship, which can come in your way of being friends like you used to. Instead of a proposal, give her subtle signs that you want to be involved with her.
So, this is how you get a girl who already has a boyfriend. We are not saying that this is going to be easy, and whether you will be able to get this girl depends on the bond that the couple shares. Just keep on trying with patience and determination and you will know.
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already going out with another guy since then, you do not only have to prove that you are worth going
out with, but you have to prove that you are better than the guy she is dating. You have to persuade that
she will have more fun and be happier if she ditches the guy she is with and comes to you. And believe
me, it is possible but it is never easy.
So, how do you get a girl who is already dating someone? Well, I think that the first step should be to
becoming the most important person in her life. You may think that she is already going out with a guy,
he has to be the most significant person for her after family. But that is not always the case. No matter
how great we feel being with a person, there is always a need for friends in life. Ups and downs come in
the relationship and friends are the ones that we turn to when we are going through a bad phase. So, I
would suggest that you commence on your journey to her heart by becoming her best friend. In how
many movies or novels have you seen the best friend swooping the girl away from under the nose of the
boyfriend?
Trust me, it does not only happens in movies. Be the friend that she tells all her secrets to and sooner
than you can imagine, her boyfriend will start to get jealous of you and the girl will start of get irritated
of his antics. But you have to remember that no matter what happens, you have to maintain your
integrity and never come off as someone who wants their relationship to end or hurt any. Never
badmouth the boyfriend or even suggest that she can do better. Just be the best friend you can and give
her the time to develop the idea that she can be happier going out with you than with her current
boyfriend. Never make it a competition between you and that guy.
Another thing you have to make sure is that you avoid the friend zone because if you do not, then you
are going to end up being the guy who is not her brother, but is almost like it. Be the charming guy that
no girl wants to be in a platonic relationship with.
The last thing that I would like to suggest you is that not to waste too much on a girl if you do not really
like her that much. She should be worth the efforts and time.