The truth is that dating is a game and every player is in it for fun and excitement. However, sometimes this game of love can get a tad bit frustrating, especially for the guys, when the chick they are trying to woo plays hard to get. One minute she is clearly showing that she is into you and the very next she gives you the cold shoulder, turning down all your advances on her.
What many guys do when the girl they are interested in plays hard to get is they give up too easily and move on to another fish in the sea. Well, there may not be any scarcity of potential mates for you but the girl playing hard to get is perhaps worth your efforts. Don’t you think so?
Maybe she is giving mixed signals to make sure that you are worthy of her. Or perhaps she is just doing it to ensure that you are really into her and willing to put in some extra effort. But whatever it is, it shows that she has a lot of self-confidence, and that is something you want in your partner.
So, the next time a girl plays hard to get, we suggest that you take it as a challenge, a hard climb on the mountain with a treasure chest at the summit. Keep on trying to move forward; past her hard exterior until she finally gives up her games.
The answer here is simple. Because you never buy a car without taking a test drive! You might find the comparison between buying a car and dating somewhat silly, but the two are surprisingly very much alike. Purchasing a car is an investment, and when you date someone, you invest in a lot of time, effort, emotions. She playing hard to get is a sign that she is measuring you and checking if you are up to the task before she lets her guard down. Also, they have a lot of options, a luxury that not many guys enjoy. So, they are just using a privilege that is bestowed upon them by nature.
Getting the girl you desire isn’t actually that difficult of a task if you are willing to do what it takes. Just play your cards right, and soon your status will change from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship.' Here is what you need to do when the girl you adore is playing hard to get.
As you may already know, most of the burden of dating falls on the shoulder of the guys, since evolution has given women a significant advantage that they don’t have much trouble finding partners. So, being the man that you are, it falls upon you to impress her, ask her out and turn your acquaintance into a relationship. And a girl playing hard to get is simply an indication that she wants you to give it a little more of your time and efforts; so give it to her.
We are not asking you to make a grand gesture and claim to the world that you adore her; simple things would suffice. It could be anything from making her laugh and showing interest in the things that she likes to making time for her whenever she needs you. The goal is to exude genuine interest in her. You would be surprised how effective just being there and listening to her problem when she is distressed can be. Show her that you are sincere. Make her feel that her presence makes your life a wee bit beautiful even if she met you a short while back.
It may come as a surprise to you, but girls play hard to get on different levels. While some might at times be shy and other times give hints about their feelings, some tend to get straight up abrasive and dismissive. The women of the latter kind do this to check if you can be easily intimidated. When the girl you like is playing hard to get, then the primary thing on your mind should be to come off as a confident guy who does not crack up under pressure.
Small things like your body language and mannerisms can be used to your advantage. But while you do want to show off your confidence and belief in yourself, what you do not want is going overboard and coming on a little too strong. Also, going overboard may make you appear like a pretender, who is all talk and no action. The key is to find just the right amount of confidence that does not throw you off your game.
If she’s playing hard to get then so can you. More times than not, a girl playing the game is a sign that she is interested. So, you can beat the girl in her own game just by indulging a little. If she has become habitual of your attention, then let her work for it now and then. Remember that she may be testing you now, by inside she likes being around you and is only one step away from going out with you.
Perhaps after a few weeks of uninterrupted attention through calls, amusing messages, and like and comments, it is time for you to back off a little. Skipping just a call or two may throw her into the dating symptoms. Planting cues that she may be losing you can make her paranoid or desperate. This may just be the thing that you need to throw her off her game. You may miss her but give her the chance to drop her guard and reach you once. It’s time to make her feel that life is better when you are with her.
When all else fail, the only thing you can do is confront her. But we suggest you approach the topic in a subtle, candid manner. Like bluntly asking her about where you guys are headed or what is the future of this. This may surprise her but this will also tell her that you are out to get her.
At this point, timing is everything, and you do not want to catch her in a bad mood or when she is going through something else at the moment. You can pop the question after a dinner or some other moment that you two have enjoyed together. This could be a gamble, so let’s hope your girl is among the ones who appreciate honesty.
There’s another piece of advice that we have for you regarding your situation. While the steps mentioned above will make it easy for you to get the girl playing hard to get, there are some other things that you need to remember before you make your move on her.
The first thing is that you should know if the girl is really playing hard to get or is she just busy. The simple reason as to why she isn’t quick to reply to your calls and messages could be lack of time. What do you expect from her if she has a 10-hour job and volunteers at the end of the day? Do not jump the gun to ascertain that she is playing hard to get. Just give her time to show you her emotions.
The second scenario is where when she isn’t interested but is just enjoying your misery. There’s no stronger high in the world than the feeling you get when you are being pursued by someone, whether you are a guy or a girl. The problem is that some guys believe that they will get the girl in the end, no matter how long it takes and that could be a major mistake. If she still isn’t clear about her emotions after having gone on several dates with you, then it is a cue for you that she is just misleading you and it’s time for you to move on.
So, now that you know what to do when the stubborn girl is playing hard to get, what are you waiting for? Embark on the journey of turning her from a girl to your girl. But before you go, spare a few seconds to tell us what you think about the article. Did we have some good points? How do you suggest one should go about getting the girl who is playing this game? Share your thoughts and opinions with us through comments below.
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Very well said. Dating is a game and hard to get is one of its most frustrating moves a player can make. However, it is not at all frustrating for the one making it, so girls often make this move. I suppose playing hard to get make them feel like they are in charge when it is up to them to turn down or to reciprocate the advances of the person trying to woo them. I suppose this is a power game and it boosts their ego when a guy makes them feel like they are worth fighting for and worth going an extra mile. This is an instant gratification that perhaps turns into an addiction after a while.
I believe that getting a girl who is playing hard to get should not be that difficult since your job is already half done. If she is indeed playing hard to get, then it means that she is already into you and is aware of the fact that you are out to woo her. But it is just that she wants to make you work a little harder for her. It is just a source of amusement for her, and it is already in the back of her mind to eventually let go of her hard outer shell and let you inside.
The most important thing for a guy to do when a girl is playing hard to get is to have patience. Giving up when you are this close to what you want is not something that you want. As I have said above, if a girl is playing hard to get, she is already half yours. All you need to do now is carefully take the next few steps and make her yours. Just keep doing that you think made her like you in the first place.
Another important thing for you to take immense care of is popping the question. You want to ask her out at a point when you are sure that she wouldn't be able to say No. If you ask too soon, you may lose a catch that could have been yours and if you wait too long, you might just be prolonging your agony. Just make the right moves and once you think that you have done enough, bombard her with the question. Cannot wait to see what others have to say on this topic.