How to tell Someone that you are In Love with Them?

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Telling someone you are in love with them can be quite a hassle if you are misunderstood time and again. Thus, when you deliver this sincere expression, the complete attention of the person you love should be mandatory. Speaking about the intensity of your feelings need to happen at an opportune time so that the person who listens to them is actively involved.

There are only two possible outcomes when you tell someone you love them; either they feel the same for you and tell you they love you or they tell you that the feelings are not mutual and you get disappointment. It takes two to tango is a phrase that confirms that intimacy occurs between only those two people who are attracted to each other. Love strengthens all the other things you share with a person as both your hearts stay in the right place.

Tips On How To Tell Someone You Are In Love With Them

#1. Positive Action

One good deed erases the effect of 1000 beautiful words; this is the truth when it comes to any person having feelings in their heart for you. Buying them something which needs saving or taking them to the restaurant they fancy a lot after a tiring day at work will convey that you deeply care and earn you their gratitude. From giving them a flower you found in a park to buying a good gift for them, it will all be seen as things to win them and things that tell them you love them. A lot of partners appreciate their partner initially and then lose the love which was between them. This can seriously sabotage the love in any relationship.

#2. Compliments

Love is a deep emotion, one which goes right to your heart and reciprocates the good vibes you get from a person. Compliments are often the key to making or breaking a love story. Every person knows this about them: how good they really are and whether they can rock your world or just color it a little bit. Unnecessary flattering won’t win you the love of anyone as it is not even love in your heart but just a method of influencing this person to get your ulterior motive.

#3. Give In To Gender Stereotypes

It is important to give in to gender stereotypes when it comes to telling the person you are attracted to. Most boys will want to be treated as conventional boys and most girls will want to be treated as conventional girls; with boyish gifts appealing to boys and girlish gifts appealing to girls. Trust all things blue for boys and all things pink for girls while choosing a present for them before baring your heart so that there are no shocks. When it comes to romance, girls fall slowly whereas boys fall faster but both of them need continued care to stay in love. So, now that you know at what rate does what gender fall in love, this can help you plan the way in which you approach.

#4. More Giving In

When people of the opposite gender form a relationship, it is more difficult than a homosexual relationship as some behavioral patterns are beyond the comprehension and imagination of their partner. All of us act a little irrationally at times, but there are certain only-women and only-men quirks that can please the member of the opposite sex and just annoy them as much. It is very important that you don’t make a big deal about any of these mannerisms when you are about to tell them you love them because believe it or not, the same peculiarities have pulled you towards them. In love, you need to surrender if you are to rule because unless you don’t submit, you won’t earn the absolute loyalty of that person, so you need to give all of yourself to get all from the person you love.

#5. Build The Anticipation

If you directly tell someone that you love them in a middle of a business conversation or tell them this on a random phone call chances are your statement won’t make much of an impact especially if you are not saying it for the first time. However on the other hand, if you write them a few letters weekly which tell the person you like a lot about your feelings or how badly you miss seeing their face, it will tell them that you are regularly experiencing these things and this has the promise of making it permanent.

Feelings form easily but for them to deepen and build roots takes a lot of time and patience otherwise they perish just as fast. When you are trying to court your partner, taking it slow before you are sure of your feelings is always the right way as it dismisses chances of infatuation, which helps one anticipates and almost wish for a strong statement like ‘I Love You.' To know more about dismissing infatuation and to really tell the signs if you are in love or not you, can read this article.

#6. Be Honest

At times people don’t take their ‘I love you’ sincerely and this is sure to have an adverse effect on them as when we lie, we are not being in agreement with our nature and strive to create something that does not sit well with our personality. Chances of your relationship blowing up are more if it is based on lies. So, you should really think over a few times and check the integrity of your feelings before you say those three magical words to the person you like.

#7. Don’t Be Afraid

A lot of people shrink from saying ‘I Love You’ just because they are afraid of being heartbroken and the fear that it will even spoil the current relationship they have. One must assess their relationship coldly before saying it and consider the picture of their relationship after saying ‘I love you.' It’s totally normal that the person you fancy is even intimate with you and still doesn’t love you owing to conforming to their own view of love and commitment. The reason we ask you to express your feelings is that you need to know what the person you fancy will say otherwise you will keep obsessing over your own feeling which will start disturbing you after a while if you don’t let it out.

#8. Make The Moment Private

Do your best to change their day to one which is not their regular day, as this will already create the atmosphere of anticipation which is needed to make your ‘ I Love You’ more than successful. You can present them with outstations tickets to see if they want to go with you or not, which will be seen as a strong gesture. Other than this, you can make a moment private by start nudging them till you cuddle and feel very close to each other. The awareness that the moment is private plays a huge psychological role in getting the love back for your ‘I Love You’.

#9. Rope Them In

Tell them that you have really appreciated having them in your life by sending them a box of chocolates in the first week then a greeting card then something they wanted to buy all along, and finally I love you which makes them smile and blush at the same time. A set up before the big confession always works, and it will also cast away your doubts about whether they will accept it or not. If you are asked to stop, then this could be a sign that you both are not on the same page and you can pull back your action that may tell them you love them.

#10. Show Them That You Have A Connection

This is one of the most important things that can make your 'I love you' as genuine as it gets. Taking the example of the person you really like and love and their relationships with other people will surely point out that they behave differently with you than they do with them. The simple reason for behaving this way with you is that they have different feelings for you than they have for them. You can just sit next to them and talk all day and never get bored because you get a certain warmth from you that makes you open up and not feel like you are being judged or some criticism is going to come your way. The person you share this special relationship with also has a different smile on their face which only comes when you are around. It takes mentioning to believe that the connection you have is a winner really. Once you show them this, it will be easier for you tell that all of this is because you love him/her.

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