Love and relationships can be the two most enthralling things in the world, but unfortunately, it does not take too long for these to make a horrifying turn. Before you know it, your love becomes hate, and the abuse enters into the relationship. Nobody plans to enter into an abusive relationship, yet one in three women in the US become a victim of some form of physical abuse by an intimate partner during their lifetime. Furthermore, approximately 25 percent women become victims of severe physical injury due to domestic violence.
Are you in an abusive relationship where your partner is mentally, emotionally or physically abusing you? You may think that this is how you will have to spend the rest of your life, but that is not the case. Physical abuse is a decision; a decision that you make by choosing to stay with the person who does not think twice before hurting you. If you think that there is no way out of your situation there here is the story of Lisa Nichols for you.
Lisa never wanted to be in an abusive relationship, never even been in one before the person she was dating started to abuse her, psychologically and bodily. Her biggest mistake she recalls was saying yes when she wanted to say no. She did not think she was one of those women who silently suffer abuse from the hands of their partner. But before she knew it, she has already become one of them. There were days when she was in danger.
Getting out of the relationship wasn’t that easy either. It was not about no longer being with that person, but the guilt, anger, blame that she felt towards herself for letting it get to the stage it got to. And after that came the question of how to move ahead from that point? All the times that she put others in front of her, moments when she did not speak her mind, events when she said yes instead of no landed her in front of a doctor who was telling her she had clinical depression. She did not see that level of sadness coming in her life; it just crept up on her.
At 27 years of age, she had a child whose father was in prison. The turning point in her life was the moment when she realized that she could not even afford diapers for her baby. That was when she decided that she had hit rock bottom and she had to be her own rescue as nobody was going to come to save her.
The girl who grew up in South Los Angeles between two warring gangs, had about three fights a week to reach home from school, considered academic challenged and kicked out of college, and is still functionally dyslexic is an inspiration for all of us today. However, her story of inspiration truly lies in her method to eliminate the illness from the roots.
It was during this dark phase that Nichols began to suffer from Chronic Depression. When she first visited her Therapist, she was prescribed medical help to fight against the depression. However, she chose a different path to cure herself and emerge out of the black water with flying colors. In one month's time, Nichols witnessed a drastic change in her state of depression and impressed her therapist with her recovery. This puzzled the Therapist who wished to learn the secret to her recovery. Leading onto the question, what exactly did she practice to fight her chronic illness? Well, the answer may baffle you. When asked, Nichols responded to the question by stating 3 powerful lines that became her bible for that one month- I am proud of myself, I forgive myself and I commit to you. She scribbled these lines all over her place and kept reminding herself of the battle that is yet to win. That’s all. These three simple sentences changed the way she perceived herself and the way she treated herself.
Abuse from the hands of her partner and clinical depression that she went through could not keep her from finding success. She stands as an author or co-author of seven bestsellers, CEO of a multimillion-dollar business that touches 30 million people every year. If she can do all these amazing things even after going through all the things that she endured, then who says you cannot get out of your abusive relationship? Love goes out the door when abuse steps in, and then it’s everyone on their own because the person you love, or you thought loved you is adamant on hurting you whether it is physical or mental. It is your choice whether you want to let that person keep hurting you or walk out the door and start a new life for you. All we say is you do something that you won’t regret later in life.
Need some more inspiration? Here is one video by Lisa Nichols that you must check out:
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