Have you been pondering over the question of what’s good for your kid, a joint family or a nuclear family? If yes, we surely understand your dilemma.
Raising a child is not a cake walk until you decide what’s right for them. Bringing up your children in a nuclear family is as challenging as raising them in a joint family.
As a parent, you would obviously want the best for your kid and will, therefore, look for the best resources for their development and growth. However, there are times when too many options hamper your decisions.
There is nothing more important than your family and you need to teach the same to your kid. If joint family fills you up with unsolicited advises, a nuclear family gives you zero advice.
So what would you choose?
The debate of a Joint family vs a nuclear family is a never-ending one and there is probably no definite answer to this one. When it comes to deciding whether your toddler should be raised in a lively and supportive joint family or an independent nuclear family, it is up to the parents to decide. One cannot decide for sure among the two choices.
If you look at it, raising children in a joint family which is supportive and helpful is as good as raising them in a nuclear family which gives your child a path to become independent and confident. It all comes down to the company we live in and the people we are surrounded by.
With changing times, most families are opting for nuclear setups, but that does not mean that joint families are any less happy. Lucky are those kids who get to be pampered by their grandparents, play with their cousins and enjoy with their aunts and uncles. It’s always a festival when you live with your loved ones.
Here’s a list of advantages of raising your kid in a joint family and a nuclear family. Decide for yourself.
Living in a joint family keeps you surrounded with a bunch of people all the time; be it your cousins, your uncles or your aunts. Thanks to our Bollywood movies, they have showcased an almost honest picture of how joint families work as the learning ground for multiple interpersonal skills including sharing, cooperation, patience, adjustments, and endurance. Studies suggest that children who are brought up in joint families are more likely to be lively and engaging. Because they are used to living with a number of people together, they are socially more adaptive and responsive.
Joint families definitely have an advantage when it comes to learning interpersonal skills.
As good as it seems, living in a joint family can overshadow your child’s personality. Talking in Indian subcontext, the head of the family usually takes all the decisions which can hamper the evolution of your child. He/she might even lose their self-identity in complying with the family rules.
Joint families are often victims of conflicts relating to traditional ideologies and modern convictions.
If you wish to give your child an unrestricted growth, then staying in a joint family may not be the best idea. Nuclear families allow an atmosphere of uninhibited and unrestricted self-expression.
For some parents, independence is equal to loneliness, but for others, independence is a way of life. Being independent gives you the ability to wake up every morning and steer your own wheel of life. A child raised in a nuclear family is more likely to be independent and affirmative rather than the one raised in a joint family because they always have someone to make their decisions.
Kids brought up in nuclear families learn to take charge of their destiny and make their career choices quite early in life. But if both the partners are working, living in a nuclear family can make your child feel lonely rather than independent. You should rethink your decision if you do not want your child to end up in anxiety or depression.
Joint families are a great option when you want to provide your child with a solid support system; both financially and emotionally. Having a loving and supporting family, makes life pretty worth it. Raising your little one in a happy nest helps you create a spectrum of endless love and possibilities. Children learn to respect and value elders. Nothing teaches children more than the observational learning.
You should consider raising your child in a nuclear family if your morals and values do not collide with that of your family’s. With the times changing, parents wish to inflict modern learning in their parenting, which may not be accepted by the elderly people in the family.
If you are raising your child in a joint family, you are bound to receive a number of unsolicited advises from the family members.
When your kids are raised in a joint family, they will always be surrounded by similarly aged cousins who make great companions. If you wish your child to not feel lonely, raising them in a joint family is a great option.
While deciding between a joint family and a nuclear family, you might want to consider some more options too. Apart from a familiar atmosphere that can help your kid grow up as a happy child, it is important that they learn to be confident and independent too.
When it comes to the personal growth of your child, as a parent it is your responsibility to not compromise. You need to give them everything that they need to have a happy and memorable childhood.
Here’s a list of things that you can consider while you plan your child’s future.
Well, the personal growth of your kid will surely vary when raised in a joint family vs a nuclear family. Being brought up in an extended family will help them learn from their own and other’s experiences. They’ll always have someone to help and support them. Elder cousins can guide them in their schooling and help them with the necessary books as well. On the other hand, while growing up in a nuclear family, your child will learn to do it by them self. He/she will have no one to help and therefore, they’ll learn to become self-dependent.
#2. Learning To Give And Share
A child raised in an extended family is sure to learn the art of giving and sharing. When you live with a group of people, you get used to sharing your things, be it as little as your color pencils to your party dresses. Being able to share your things is an art which helps you grow into a good human. A child raised in a nuclear family is most likely used to not sharing their stuff because they don’t need to. Because of growing up in such an atmosphere, they’ll hesitate in giving and sharing in the future too.
Growing up in a joint family lets your child be aware of the difficulties that they might face in the future just as their elders do. You never get to understand the real world until you are living inside your protected shell. In a joint family, you do get exposed to all sorts of problems and obstacles that your child should be aware of. A nuclear family might not be able to provide such an exposure.
A nuclear family is sure to teach your child the importance of the parent-child relationship, but not teach them about family values like a joint family does. An extended family comprises of various generations which have their own beliefs and ideologies. Joint families are known to have their own traditions and culture which is inculcated in the child too. It helps them value the family culture and traditions.
If you are raising your children in a joint family, they are surely going to have millions of family memories. Joint families give you an extended hand in raising your kids. On the other hand, in a nuclear family, the kid either gets the attention of just the mother (in case she is the homemaker) or the kids end up growing up in day schools or through babysitters. They do not get enough love from their parents.
A kid is like a pack of clay which can be molded into anything the parents wish to. Growing up in a joint family has its own charms, but a nuclear family can do wonders to their personal growth. It is up to you to make the most of the situations.
Do you think raising your kid in a joint family is better than bringing them up in a nuclear family? Let us know in the comment section below.
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