What are strong relationships made of? Most of you would say, love, some would say trust. But, have you ever wondered how much of a role introspection plays in a relationship? We’d say a lot. Introspection is what makes two people understand each other better, and that is when the magic happens.
But why do you need to introspect? Naturally, to reflect on where you stand in the grand scheme of things, and to know the type of person you have become in your relationship while figuring out your flaws. No one is perfect. We all have some flaws. But, what is more important is to be able to acknowledge those shortcomings and communicate about them with your partner effectively.
But, often times, it is hard for one to understand his/her flaws. For instance, what if someone has become extremely possessive of their partner? While one might feel that it is extreme love, the other might end up feeling claustrophobic. If that is the case with you, then you have to address this issue instantly. If your partner is extremely possessive of you, you have to make them understand that they don’t have to be human band-aids all the time. But, how can you do that?
Relationships are complicated, and jealousy and possessiveness can complicate them further. Being in a possessive relationship might not be what most people are looking for today. Everyone wants their personal space where they can meet other people and hang out with friends. If your partner doesn’t allow you to do all that or if you have big fights each time you meet a friend, then you’re definitely in a possessive relationship. Naturally, you would be hoping to get some space. Here’s how you can stop your partner from being possessive, without hurting them.
#1. Talk To Them
There is no problem in the world which can’t be solved by having an honest conversation. In relationships, most of the issues can be fixed if the people involved in it just talk to each other. It is important that you understand your possessive partner’s opinion as well. Listen to what they have to say. Try to figure out the factors that stem their insecurities. And once you know that, keep your opinion and try aligning the two.
Your possessive partner might be extremely insecure. If that is indeed the case, tell them that you’re not going anywhere. At the end of the day, it is your relationship, and you have to make it better. If you want things to change for the good, there must be parity in the thoughts of you and your partner. So, just talk to them, listen to them and try to fix the problem.
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#2. Past Experiences
A lot about a person is defined by the experiences that he/she has endured in the past. People who are possessive in their relationships are mostly people with a terrible past relationship where their partner dumped them for someone else. If your partner has had a similar miserable past, then it is only natural that they’re extremely possessive of you. They don’t want to let go of you for a moment only because of their insecurities.
It becomes not only your duty but your responsibility to help your partner in recovering from a miserable past. Everyone has a past, and a lot of our present-day psychology is shaped up by it, but via good memories, a lot can be changed. Love your partner and give them beautiful memories that will stay with them even when you don't. Eventually, you’ll see a positive change in the behavior of your possessive partner to the point where they are no longer possessive.
#3. Make Them Meet Your Friends
So, you fight whenever you go out to meet your college friends? And things get worse when you meet a particular person from the opposite gender? If most of the times you guys fight due to these reasons, then the perfect discourse would be to make your partner meet all your friends. In fact, you should hang out with your friends along with your partner more often.
As time goes on and as your possessive partner starts to gel up with your friends, you’ll see a notable difference in your partner. When they know all of your friends and understand them, there is a high chance they won’t make them insecure if you go out and meet them. As a added bonus, you can even meet their friends and get to know more people in life.
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#4. Go Out On Dates
You guys might go on dates, or you might not, but has that helped you in changing your partner? Most probably not. So, what is it that you can do differently so that your partner leaves his/her insecurity behind? Well, the answer lies in what kind of dates do you people go to. Is it the usual after-work meet where you wine and dine in the local restaurant? If that is the case, then that is the problem. It is easy to slip in the monotony of life as your relationship gets older.
Try going out on more date nights where the two of you dress up and have a nice dinner near the candles. The setting of a place can have a huge impact on your relationship. Don’t just spend time with your partner, but make every moment worthwhile. Remember how you should give a lot of good memories to your partner? This here is one of the ways to do just that. Try keeping your partner happy, make an effort to make them feel special and we can assure it to you that your efforts won’t go unnoticed. Your partner will certainly make a note of them and will soon understand that you do care for them and will never leave them behind.
#5. Introspect
And to end it, if you’re the possessive partner yourself reading this, then this point is for you. Have complete faith in your relationship and your partner. Trust and acknowledge the love that you have for each other. Your partner loves you dearly, but do you really have to make their life tough by breathing at their neck all the time? Reflect on your position in the relationship and understand that you don’t have to be insecure for your partner. Moreover, what has to go will go, irrespective of how much you try to hold onto it.
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Introspection makes you a better person and allows you to be yourself in a relationship without having to worry about it.
So, there you have it. Being in a possessive relationship might sound like a claustrophobic concept, but you can always make it work. Every person can change. You just have to help your partner overcome their insecurity. If you found this article informative, let us know in the comments below.
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