Relationships are a very delicate part of our life, especially when it comes to dealing with things we don't want to even talk about. One needs to understand that a successful relationship bond also needs to be enjoyable.
The people involved need to let each other grow both individually and socially. So if you are mistreated in your relationship, if the other person cheats and you are left alone then opting out is the best alternative. However, if it's worth fighting and there are a little more goods than bads, then it's time to pay attention to the following.
No connection or human being can ever be perfect! Similarly, no person is comparable to the other. Just think about the time you disgustingly treated your partner because something reminded you of the past. Unfortunately, it's not even just about you, but a problem with a majority of people. It's the human nature to pass judgments based on how they've been treated in the yesteryears. Any abusive memory or dishonesty leads to somehow ruining the future potential as well. Our nature becomes defensive against everyone around us who tries to get closer. We choose to stay closed on four walls rather than opening up to people and giving them another chance.
But what we don't realize is the fact that bricks of failed relationships can never build an original foundation without being flawed or without eventually falling apart! Therefore, stop making bad associations of the past with the present. Take the time out to concentrate on how your current partner and relationship differs from that of the past. And always remember that none of your past wounds are indicative of the present or future possibilities.
The secret to sustaining and maintaining a healthy relationship is giving rise to a mental and spiritual connection rather than just picking the perfect one. The quest for the perfect one is an endless struggle where you miserably keep wandering seeking for true love or friendship. The entire process drives you crazy leaving you even more insecure and lifeless.
The fantasy of perfection starts to fade and you distant even the right ones. Yes, it does take a long time for you to dwell into yourself and grow on a personal level. But the early you realize that there's nothing so supreme the more you'll be able to give reality a chance. And for harmoniously selecting or carrying out great relationships there needs to be a check on your deep flaws too. Those define who you are and help you analyze where you lack.
Let there be a respectful relationship, let there be some connection particularly when you are not tolerating things but building together a foundation of love, care, and respect. Give a chance for the other person to balance the imperfections. And eventually, you realize that there are no perfect people! Rather than going through the same things over and over again, spring a connection like never before! Make space for love to enter and let there be an energy to derive strength because that feeling is rare, yet we need to conquer it!
The entire process of mind reading gets started when you pressurize your brain with external and social anxieties or other intricacies. These, in turn, happen due to poor communication issues or over assumptions. We tend to presuppose what the other person might be thinking and react in a predefined manner. This involves rapid guesswork leading to a route of uneasy feelings along with stress.
So you should realize that assuming the other way round only hampers the connection. Make sure not to conclude any negative connotations where there is silence. Don't assume ambiguous meanings of a particular sentence. Don’t create a situation where you start perceiving things without further clarifications. Give out the information that's missed. Stop expecting that your partner or friend knows even the unsaid.
You are on the path of self-sabotage when you start inventing troubles that might not even exist. It's a clear state of hallucination when you are deceiving yourself with anxious predictions and overlooking the real, plain and honest. On inventing problems in your head, you are giving way to making the relationship suffer. All your insecurities are the culprit and not realizing the self-worth is like passing on others the opportunity to do the same to you! All in total weighs you down, and you are left with nothing in hand. You feel out of control, keep believing that all of what is happening around is a sign of doom. You freak out with the visions created in the mind that just do not depict the realities.
Instead, take a moment to let all of these thoughts cool. Understand that you need to let them go and not assume anything of your own. Every relationship has its black and white sides. There are moments of affection as well as the moments of conflicts. And all of it is just so normal. Take it this way, always wanting to live the intimacy of your relationship is like wanting to be in a car that has no driver because he/she might someday lead the car to bash into a tree. It's almost being in a state of denial where you do not want to accept the truth but fight for something that doesn't even subsist.
Therefore, stop yourself right away and take a deep breath. Let yourself know that some of the problems are just in your head. Gradually you will understand to distinguish between the actuality and the imagination. Step forward with self-confidence and not self-doubt.
Just like how you need to stop self-sabotaging likewise is to stop focusing on the negatives. Be grateful for what you have. Count your blessings and endure the imperfections of your relationship. Keep things real, passionate and let not any difficulty hamper your everyday life. Meaningful relationships do not work flawlessly. But with each other's support, you can still make it feel magical. Appreciate the remarkable people in your life. Make things seem lighter, productive, satisfying and positive rather than making them negative, craving for more with destroyed harmony. This is how you create a nearly ideal relationship. But of course, you don't have to accept anyone and everyone who is willing to believe you with your flaws.
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