Is your marriage in troubled waters? Are you looking for ways to save your marriage? After years of living together as a married couple, most relationships fall weak and are driven to the brink of collapse in the name of divorce. While many feel that divorce is an outcome of estrangement between the couple, it actually happens because the couple forgets how to show their love for each other, the way they did when they got married.
Marriage is a beautiful bond between two individuals that blossoms with love till it branches out in all directions in the form of family. While it may sound utopic and exciting, it deals with its own share of hardships to survive in the society. Once love grows old, it becomes important to adopt methods and ways to save your marriage from decay and termination.
#1. Flush Your Partner With Compliments
What is better than receiving a heartwarming compliment from your lover? Make your other half feel special by flushing them with compliments about their looks, their physique or their dress for the day. It makes the other person feel loved and noticed, encouraging them to dress up more to grab your attention.
#2. Steal Quick Moments To Show Love
In the hustle bustle of the busy life, couples have forgotten how to take out two minutes for each other and engage in a romantic rendezvous. In order to save your marriage, you must practice to steal those quick moments with each other and revive the lost spark between the two by evoking memories of your prime days when passion was at its peak.
#3. Share Passwords & Adopt Transparency
After years of marriage when love starts to fade out, trust sits on the driving seat of the relation and drives through the different hurdles in life. Thus, one must trust their partner. One of the ways to ensure that trust is maintained between the two is by sharing their passwords. It not only leads to transparency but even eliminates the fear of infidelity that breaks down most marriages in today’s date.
#4. Greet With A Kiss
This may be one of the highlights of your marriage in the initial days, however, as years pass by, this emotion of greeting your special one with a kiss gets lost among other chores. It’s time to re-introduce this in practice and make your loved one feel special on their return after a tiresome day. This will not take your partner by surprise but even want them to come home to be welcomed with a warm heart.
#5. Look For Time To Address Grave Issue
Instead of taking your partner by surprise and raising an issue of grave concern to them while demanding for a solution, seek for an appointment with your better half to talk on issues that need time and thought. This will allow the partner to be mentally prepared for what has to follow and will be able to provide better answers to the situation. If you practice this diligently, the reasons for fights will reduce on its own by 80%.
#6. Let Them Conquer Small Fights
There is no harm in losing to your loved ones! In the event of an argument, learn to take a back seat and let the other one win. This will not change anything between the two of you. But if you both act stubborn and try to strike each other out, it will dampen your relation and lead to conflicts, which may translate into a divorce if not resolved with time.
#7. Share A Meal
In our busy schedules, it’s really difficult to sit back with each other and relax over a cup of coffee. However, one can always adopt the policy of eating at least one meal with their partner. This way, a feeling of family is inculcated in both of them who look forward to that one meal of the day. You never know, this may even reduce the dinner outings of your partner with their colleagues and friends!
#8. Flush The Day With Positivism
Want to know how to save your marriage? Try not to subject your partner to negativity at home! It is important to ensure that you practice positive expressions and fill the atmosphere at home with positivity. After a hectic day at work, one loves to come back to a happy home. It drives away all the stress and makes you want to believe in the beauty of life. So try being positive and see the difference!
#9. Let Them Help
Time may have taught you to be self-sufficient, but it’s always better to let your partner know that you need them. These small efforts will make you realize each other’s worth in your lives and play on the note that suggests that you both still need each other’s company to survive on this planet. The feeling one derives from this gesture will definitely on this planet. The feeling one derives from this gesture will definitely save marriage from meeting a tragic end.
#10. Explore Your Partner
Did you know people develop new habits with time? Thus, there is no such defined time to explore a person and discover new things about them. So what if you are married for years, your partner may have developed certain habits that you may be completely oblivious to. Hence, pay a little extra attention to your lover and discover the new things.
#11. Keep Cracking Inside Jokes
One of the best ways to keep a relationship alive is by cracking inside jokes between the couple. It not only helps them build a rapport on a personal level but keeps their friendship alive, leading to a healthy relationship. It also enhances their understanding of each other and sparks their chemistry from the golden old days.
#12. Seek Advice
Even though you feel the other person may get angry with the problem you are involved in, you must seek advice from your loved one. This will replenish your relationship and restore faith in each other’s words. It’ll make your partner felt needed, a feeling that was long lost when things began to be taken for granted between the two.
#13. Talk About Your Problems
Communication is one of the most effective ways to resolve an issue and clear the misunderstandings. Thus, as a partner, you must engage in constant conversations to discuss the problems that may be bothering either of the two. Communication clears the air between the couples and reduces changes of separation by more than 70%, saving the marriage from divorce.
#14. Avoid Exaggeration
Exaggeration- an expression to blow things out of proportion, must be used the least when addressing an issue with your better half. Try to project things as they are and seek an advice to the query. This will not only help the partner believe in your words but also understand the situation as it may be. By exaggerating about a particular thing, people usually lose the authenticity to the problem, making it feel insignificant and blown out of proportion.
#15. Have Your Alone Time
It is important for a couple to spend some time by themselves to re-live those memorable moments of togetherness and create new ones. In today’s hectic lifestyle, most couples have stopped spending quality time that ideally they must spend together to strengthen their relationship. Instead, outing with friends and colleagues have taken priority over the couple spending time by themselves.
#16. Leave Your Gadgets Aside
In the era of digitization and technology advancement, individuals are glued to the screen of their smartphones, least realizing that emotional human relations are more important than the ones made with gadgets. So try abandoning your handset and other gadgets and focus on the relationship you built with your loved one and see how beautiful life can get!
#17. Acknowledge Each Other’s Efforts
Over the years of marriage, most couples begin to take each other for granted and forget to acknowledge one another for the sacrifices and the hard work each puts in to run the household, financially or manually. This should be abolished. Instead, go back to those days when expressions like ‘thank you’ and ‘ How thoughtful of you’ topped your manner of speech and endorse them once again to make your partner feel that you are noticing the effort put in by them to comfort you.
#18. Indulge In Intimate Moments
The word ‘support’ may have a different meaning for men and women. While women seek emotional support from men, men look up for sexual support as the basis of their relationship and marriage. Hence, one must comfort each other by providing likewise support and strengthen their bond of matrimony. This will not only bring the two of you closer as a couple but will diminish the chances of infidelity among couples.
#19. Keep Practicing Romantic Gestures
Apart from engaging in intimate moments, one must also endorse romantic gestures as a part of their lifestyle. Thus ‘a flying kiss’, kiss on the hand’, romantic expressions like ‘honey', ‘ baby’ must be used instead of using old boring ways to address each other. That’s the way you renew the bond as a married couple and add the flavor of spice back to your life.
#20. Learn To Put Your Opinion Forward
After a point in time, men value women who have an opinion. This makes them treat you like equals. Hence, learn to put your opinion forward than just subjugating to the decisions made by the patriarch. Opinionated women are fantasized by men and often looked upon by the other gender. Thus, make yourself stronger as a woman and express what you feel.
#21. Do Not Invade Their Privacy
One of the steps to save a marriage includes the couples necessity to learn to respect the privacy of an individual. If they wish to share anything, they would seek time with you and share what is going on in their mind. Thus, do not stoop down to levels where you browse through the chat history of your spouse and check who he/she was messaging to. This will only infuriate them and shake their foundation of trust on you.
#22. Partners Come Before Children
One of the most common mistakes made by every couple is that when they expand their family, they give their children the priority, swiftly sliding their spouse to the pedestal lower than that. This leads to a distance between the couple who do everything to keep their children happy. But in that attempt, they lose the spark they once shared. You must give priority to your better half and understand that the family you have made is a collective effort.
#23. Address Each Other With Nicknames
Try resorting to those mushy names that you once used to address each other! It will not only flush you with the nostalgia of the time when passion drove you as a couple, it may also ignite those feelings towards each other. These sweet little things can save your marriage from destruction and prevent the couple from filing for a divorce.
#24. Avoid Sarcasm
The poison that kills every relation is sarcasm. Hence, it must be handled with care. Avoid using sarcasm in words that may annoy your loved one and make things turn worse between the two of you. That tone of expression will not only lead to greater conflicts but even turn the situation unfavorable, leading to a divorce in most cases. So, if you value your relation, avoid the use of sarcasm in your tone in all cases.
#25. Give Them Their Space
Space is the most treasured values of an individual that must not be tampered with under any circumstances. As much as your spouse loves you it requires its personal space to lead his own life as well. Thus, as a partner, try letting your spouse exercise their space and trust them. If an individual is granted ample space to acknowledge their life as an individual, the frustration levels go down, leading to harmony in relationships and a happier marriage.
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