Are You Dating A Commitment Phobic?

Falling in love with a commitment phobic partner is a task in itself. Not because it lacks love but for the air the uncertainty that hovers over the future of the relationship. So, does it mean that it is wrong to fall in love with those who fear commitment?

Certainly not! Loving a commitment phobic comes with its own set of challenges. However, if you look at it from a wider angle, it resembles the same as any other relation. But as a partner, you must be aware of certain brutal truths about dating a commitment phobic.

#1. Future Remains Bleak

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If your partner runs away from a conversation about the future, then you are dating a commitment phobic. The word ‘future’ repels them. They do not plan anything for the future.

#2. Loyalty Is A Trait Not Many Offer

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It’s all about living in the present for people who are commitment phobic. Hence, loyalty is not a guaranteed trait with such people. Since they have no inclination towards settling down with their respective partners, they are open to sexual rendezvous.

#3. A Sense of Disconnection With the Partner 

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There will always be a sense of disconnection with the partner as you will not be able to decipher what they are thinking and feeling at the moment. Since they do not open up much with their partners, you cannot comprehend the thought process of your pal.

#4. Do Not Expect PDA

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Couples engage in PDA (public display of affection) when they want the world to know that they are exclusive to each other. Since that’s one thing a commitment phobic would never want to declare, PDA moments with such partners are rare.

 #5. Your Family Doesn’t Interest Them

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Who doesn’t like to introduce their special ones to their family and friends! However, if your partner fears commitment, it’s better not to introduce them to your relatives as they are not interested in socializing with your extended relatives. They will never acknowledge their love for you in the open. Not because they don’t love you but to avoid the questions that may follow once things are over between the two. This may bother your family.

#6. Unpredictable

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With them, you never know what’s coming next. Commitment phobic people are extremely unpredictable in nature, leading to constant fears among their partner about their moods and feelings. They may be happy, sad, dejected, and lonely but on the face of it, they will be all smiling to convince that everything is fine and show the world that they do not leave anyone to handle them.

#7. Past Plays An Important Role

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Every commitment phobic person has a horrendous past that plays an important role in their current state of mind. Hence, as partners, you will have to provide constant support to your loved one to ensure them that the dark phase of their life is over and their present life is beautiful.

#8. Demand What You Deserve

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With people fearing commitment, you literally have to spell out your needs in order to tell them that this is what you expect from the relation. Else, they will never understand what they are lacking in. Thus, you will have to demand your personal time, affection and even concern to feel a little love.

#9. When It Comes To Emotions They Are Selfish

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In the process of not hurting their own emotions and feelings, commitment-phobic partners often hurt their loved ones. Hence, you must be selfless to complement their personality of being selfish in order to enjoy a healthy and a long relation, if that actually happens!

Are you dating a commitment phobic? What are your views on them? We would love to hear from you! Kindly use the comment box to share your thoughts and opinions with us. 

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