What should you do with a child who has very bad behavior?

If your child shows socially, culturally and developmentally appropriate behavior, it can be described as normal behavior. On the other hand; some children show abnormal behavior that is cultural, socially and developmentally inappropriate and as a parent, you should make and sincere and committed efforts to change it as early as possible. Some parents often consider it as a serious mistake and they keep on scolding and punishing their children to change their behavior. Such a method of approach is not going to deliver the expected results and your efforts may backfire to generate opposite results. How to deal with a child who has very bad behavior?

Stop punishing

First of all, you need to stop your punishing methods to make them good guys. A child should never be blamed for his/her bad behavior because it is not something that he/she asked for. Keep on punishing children makes them insecure and they often will start feeling terrible about themselves. Moreover, the recovery process gets delayed and your punishment shuts down their thinking capacity as well.

Try to find out the underlying problem

If your child does not follow your directions, you should not think that he/she is ignoring you on purpose. Sometimes, your child may find it difficult to follow your directions and he/she may cover up this problem by ignoring your directions. Some children also ignore the directions of the parents when they find the parental guidelines much more than they can handle. As the parent, you should identify the cause of the problem before arriving at a conclusion about the behavior of the child.

Talk to your child openly and make them feel loved

If you make efforts to talk to your children with an open mind, they may be immediate tell you what is bothering them. You need to make them feel safe, close and loved and when you listen to him without judgment or interruption; your child reacts in a positive manner. After some time; they become more attentive to your advice and the process of changing their bad behavior becomes hassle free.

Make it a habit of spending some quality time with your child

You can help children in their studies and offer help for their project works and extracurricular activities as well. When you keep on spending some quality time with your children every day, they feel secure and comfortable in your company and they will start sharing their problems that contributed to their bad behavior.

Be consistent

Children always need consistency. Many parents react to their children’s bad behavior in one way at one occasion and in a different manner at a different occasion and, this type of behavior is going to make the children thoroughly confused. They will also start displaying unpredictable behavior and over a period, they become prisoners of extremely bad behavior.

Offer rewards

Whenever your child behaves well, you can reward him/her by offering their most favorite toy or chocolate or anything that they like most. You need to be specific in your actions and words and when the child behaves well; you can also tell him/her how pleased you are. All these little steps help you change the bad behavior of your child.

If you find the behavior of your child highly intolerable, you should seek professional help and the best option available is to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist.