Sex is the very origin of life. We all have come through this. Without it, there is no life. But the tragedy is that it has been probably the most unaccepted thing in the civil societies all over the world. It has been condemned. It has been the basic parameter to estimate one’s character and moral level. And this attitude to ignore and condemn has given birth to many perversions and even crimes.
Why this fear?
What is the prime cause for this non-acceptance?
No matter how much we speak against sex, it has been there and would be there. So what is the reason this hypocrisy continues?
All the civil institutions, all the preachers and all our leaders have been unanimous at this very point. It is the point of no conflict!
The reason is straightforward. Sex is the fundamental energy of life and accepting this means accepting the freedom of the human race. If one is sexually satisfied, one would not be interested in battles and wars, nor in meaningless lobbies and constant politics, nor in making huge money with no genuine reason. There is no sense. One would rather sing and compose poetry. Probably one would just like to sit quietly, but not to march for some biassed demand being a part of a procession.This is what the psychologists all over the world are saying. It may seem unrelated, though it is not so.
Dr.Freud says that sexuality has its roots in the early childhood. This is so basic. But gradually the child learns how to modify the sexual urge and also how to suppress it.It is necessary as humans are social beings and a society cannot accept the freedom of sexuality. So a child learns how to hide this attitude, how to reshape it into other constructive things like singing for e.g. and how to suppress this so that it goes behind a veil. But in this process, many psychological problems are probable to occur, some of them could be serious. Freud talks about all this in much detail and suggests remedies too, though his remedies are actually means to reduce the volume of the problem. His well-known book, “Drei Abhandlungen Zur Sexualtheorie”, also called as “Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality”, published in 1905, covers the topic under three major aspects: sexual perversions; childhood sexuality; and puberty.
The Hindus have been very liberal and open-minded about sexuality and desire. Most amazingly, the Hindus have even used desire as a means of liberation. There is a detailed discussion between lord Shiva and his wife Devi Parvati regarding how this desire could be used as a means of practicing he well-acclaimed faculty of the Tantra. Actually, the fundamental vision is that anything that helps in the invocation of a state of no-mind, can be a means of liberation. Sex leaves the couples in a state of no-mind for some moments and those moments could be used to have a glimpse of the other world and those moments could be elongated, too But the reason is spiritual. But it is not easy. There are many strict rules and one has to follow that, as the Tantra says. And all over the world, there are numerous practitioners of the vision.
Such an important subject and the tragedy is that most of the school going students are grown up with no formal teaching of sexuality. It is a taboo to talk about it publicly. Recently, it has been a hot topic whether the students should be offered sex education or not. But so far no substantial work has been done. Sex is not about postures only, nor about how to prevent sexually spread diseases. Sooner or later our education system must acknowledge this fact and then would start a separate and detailed teaching of sexuality in our schools.
It is because of the lack of sex education and the lack of proper understanding of sexuality that many unsocial industries have grown up around sexuality. Be it prostitution or pornography, at the root, it is just knowing the tip of the iceberg that gives reason to carry such things on and make money. Sex-related crimes have become a potential threat all over the world. And we cannot expect that only the rulings are going to control everything.
Sex and humankind are interrelated. It is the time when we should start to analyze and understand it. It is the time when we should start to culture a vision for it. Otherwise, it is just like fire, it can cook our food, it could burn us too. It is neither good, nor bad, it is just there and would be ever. It is up to us, whether we use it or whether we are used by it. There is no third way!