How to Cope with Sibling Rivalry?

Sibling rivalry is a stressful yet a very natural phase that your children pass through. However, if not handled with care, it may turn into a serious matter of envy, which may have long-term consequences on their relationship.

There may be various reasons for sibling rivalry, from the insecurities of the older child to the rebellious nature of the younger child. Here are some ways you can deal with the sibling quarrels:-

#1. Never Compare

It is erroneous, on every level, to compare your children. You might end up aggravating the rivalry. It does not only complicate the issue, but your kids might also end up finding you unsupportive or someone who follows favoritism.

#2. Age Difference

Various studies and researches have observed that children with a lesser age gap are more likely to quarrel as compared to the children with a bigger age gap. When you let your older child grow up enough to be able to welcome the younger one, the possibilities of a rivalry minimizes.

#3. Let The Siblings Get Acquainted Before Birth

A prior preparation for sibling rivalry can be of great use. It is recommended that you let your elder child interact with their younger sibling even while the latter is still in the womb. Letting him/her talk to or pat the baby bump are some of the ways to set up a bond between your children.

#4. Do Not Punish One In Front Of The Other

While on the surface level it appears to be a pretty convenient thing to do. Punishing one child in front of the other is a good way of aggravating the difference between the two.

#5. Instill A Sense Of Responsibility 

Another smart way which may turn out to be fruitful in the long run is to hold both the children equally liable for their actions. This not only maintains equality but also inculcates a habit of introspection at a tender age.

#6. Give Them Their Space

Letting your children share their toys or other stuff may end up exaggerating the rivalry. You can minimize the scope of quarrel by giving your children a sense of personal space and identity. Making them in charge of their own stuff may make them responsible as well.

#7. Be Cautious With The Older Sibling

While the parents are busy taking care of the younger child in his/her initial phase, the older sibling often feels rejected and left out. It is equally important to give an equal share of attention to the older sibling. Use this time to instill a sense of responsibility in the older sibling by giving them a charge of minor household chores.

#8. Be Strict When Required

Do not be reluctant to set rules and boundaries. Parents are often afraid of losing their children’s confidence by adopting a rigorous approach. However, it is imperative to get your children well acquainted with the limits you have set for them.

#9. Know When To Step In

You should be aware when to intervene during a sibling rivalry. Children should be left on their own to deal with a milder rivalry. However, to avoid exaggeration, do set in the ground for peace whenever the conflict arises.

#10. Listen To Both Sides

Do not rush to conclusions at an instant. Even when one sibling appears to be at fault on the face of it, maintain a habit of listening to both the sides. The other sibling may have his reasons. This might be able to help you in resolving the conflict in a better manner.

#11. Promote Sensitivity

It is important that you make your children sensitive to the needs of each other. Instill in them a sense of respect for each other’s personal space. In the case of kids of opposite genders, gender sensitization is a must, right from the beginning.

If you have any interesting solutions on dealing with sibling rivalry, we would love to hear from you. Kindly use the comment box to share your thoughts and opinions with us.

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