How to Reject a Proposal without hurting anyone?

God has created women as beautiful as mermaids and men as strong as the Adam figure that people can't stop chasing each other for the obvious reasons. There is no denying the fact that men being the bees of the universe keep hovering around the Eve figure women and women can sometimes can't get over someone they like.  However, be it proposal, friendship, love or marriage for that matter, girls or boys will always have the dilemma of saying no without being rude. The personification of grace and beauty, the woman never wants to hurt anyone at least not intentionally. If a guy proposes to a girl and the girl does not like him, there will be a task ahead of her. She doesn’t want the relationship and she does not want to hurt them at the same time. Moreover, guy faces a bigger problem since saying 'No' for a man is even harder since girls tend to get hurt very easily. 

People usually are seen in the dilemma that either they should say no directly or should mold it in a way where the other person understands the situation without ending up getting hurt. Well, join the gang! You are not alone in this. This difficulty is faced by most people. Today, we will discuss the polite and tender ways to refuse a someone's proposal while avoiding obvious and overused excuses. Rejecting someone for a relationship can never be easy though. But if you can use the circumstances and lies properly, you can reject to be in a romantic relationship with them without ignoring them or be hurting their feelings. Try to use those situations where they and you both feel good about themselves. Of course, there are different people in the world and everyone will not react in the same way you will expect. However, the tactics we will discuss today will be useful in most cases. So if you want to say ‘No’ to someone’s proposal and can’t find the polite way to do it, then stick to us:

#1. Say You Have A Crush On Someone

The easiest way to say no to someone while being polite is saying you already have a crush on someone else. This will just give them the hand politely but directly that you can not develop feelings for them even if you try as you already have them for someone else. In this way, you will solve your problem without being rude. The best part of this lie is that one sentence will be enough. You won’t have to take any names as well. You can simply say that you haven’t told anyone so you do not want to reveal the name. The person is a crush for a reason, crush is obviously a secret. Therefore, no explanation, no worrying.

#2. Use Work Or Studies As An Excuse

To reject someone it is not always necessary to say that you like someone else. If you will give an excuse that you have something more important to focus on, then they will have no option but to understand. This is the safest excuse that you have to focus on your studies or work. You can say that your college studies are very crucial for you and they will decide your future so you can’t risk your future to get into a relationship. Even say that you don’t see yourself dating anyone in the future for some years. Either say your work is your passion and most important part of your life and you do not have time to develop or maintain a relationship. Be direct that you don’t want to provide false hopes to anyone and currently you are focusing on your career or studies more than anything else. This will be very clear and direct answer, so it won’t give the other person false hopes and they probably respect about your priority. Moreover, it can be a genuine reason for some woman. So you won’t even have to lie.

#3. Say You Are Still Not Over Your Past

Saying that you have just came out of a relationship and is not ready to date anymore for the time being secures you completely. This excuse will even make that other person feel sympathetic towards you. So there will be no signs of rudeness or ignorance. Politely turn down a date by saying you are not over your past yet and want to take a little time for yourself. If you say you don’t feel like seeing anyone for a couple of months, the other person will happily accept your decision. Nobody wants to be with someone who still has feelings for their ex. So more than you, the person who is facing the rejection will want you to take your time to collect yourself. This will even not give any false hopes to anyone because you have cleared yourself that you have no plans to date anyone anytime soon.

#4. Use The Most Common Excuse “I’m Already Committed”

This is the most common and cliche excuse but is extremely effective for everyone. Obviously, if you are already seeing someone, it is impossible for you to say yes to someone else. You won’t even have to explain yourself further. The other person will not feel bad about themselves if you will give such an excuse. You can assure them that there is nothing wrong with them, the only reason is that you already share a romantic relationship with someone else. This line actually works in a positive manner. Also, you can surely approach him to be friends if you want to. This will make them happy at the end as they are still friends with you. Also, in the long run, you never know he ends up being a very good friend to you. This actually happens in reality. So instead of losing a potential friend, be polite and ask him to be your friend. You never have enough friends. This is any day more sensible decision rather than being rude and rejecting a guy. This is also another way to say ‘No’.

#5. Give A Handwritten Note

If you don’t want to be rude to someone on their face, the safest option is to give a handwritten note depicting your reasons of why you can’t go out with him/her. This can serve your purpose in two ways. First of all, it will let the person know that you can not go out with them because of any reason you want to make and secondly it will be a very cute gesture to say no to someone. Do not turn it into a love letter form. Just write a couple of lines explaining your side so that the other person gets a clear idea that why you don't want to go out with them. The whole point of giving a handwritten note is that you can make the refusal very touching yet direct. It will become clear that you are not interested in going out with them and this will become certain that you don’t want to hurt them either. Also, if the person who proposed you is a friend of yours, this is a very good idea to make him feel touched and also being direct about your decision without giving them false hopes. Plus, it will avoid a face to face conversation which is the most difficult part.

#6. Say You Have Some Personal Matter

Lying about a personal problem is not a very habit though. But hurting the feelings of someone else is worse. You can say no because you are apparently having stress causing problems in your life and are not ready to go out with someone. Tell the other person that currently you want to solve the problems of your life first and then think about any romantic relationship. Clear then that even if you say yes, you won’t be able to develop feelings for them as you currently have enough to go through. Moreover, you want your life get back on the track before you even think about going out with someone. If the person proposing wants to know the problem for any reason just say you don’t want to talk about it to anyone as that is an extremely personal matter. Say discussing the problem with anyone will make the problem worse and that will not help you in any way. Say these things once and be direct so that the person proposing don’t feel bad that you rejected them because they are lacking somewhere.

Of course, there is no perfect way to say ‘No’ to someone or rejecting someone. This will hurt a little bit. But we can make efforts in order to make sure that they don’t feel bad about themselves. All you got to do is be nice and have a smile on your face. You can say directly or you can manipulate the person in such a way that they do not feel bad. The choice is yours. But never feel guilty that you turned down a date. Don’t start putting yourself into an emotional turmoil that you hurt somebody. This is a part of life. You can never keep everybody happy. If you will feel guilty, that will turn the situation into awkward. In order to avoid that awkwardness remove the trace of guilt from your mind.

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