When a woman is abused, the way she chooses to react to it is the thing that determines her future and the way things are going to turn out for her. In case she decides to leave she will move on with her life and will be able to heal and regain the lost peace in her life. Staying in an abusive relationship will just further aggravate the pain and can make things worse for a woman and her mental health. However, leaving is also not less difficult than staying especially in the case of abusive relationships with your romantic partner or husband. It is this part, when you need to decide whether you want to stay or leave, is the one that is very difficult to make.
Sadly, there is no denying the fact that a lot of women stay in an abusive relationship despite being aware of the kind of impact it leaves on their mental and physical well-being. We often find women who are unable to leave the relationship and keep being the victim of abuse, and it leaves us wondering why anyone would do so?
What is important to understand is the fact that it is easy to look at people and chalk out what is the correct thing to do in a situation, but it is equally difficult to make sure that you are able to make these decisions and actually do the correct things. What is even more challenging is the fact that you may know what is correct to do and yet it seems impossible for you to implement it. One needs to realize that taking such a decision is surely difficult as a relationship has emotions involved in it. Sometimes when you are romantically involved with people, you cannot seem to look at those aspects of them that are negative. At times, we know what they are doing wrong but tend to overlook them and live in denial.
Ending a relationship is difficult. There is a clash between your knowledge of the right, your fears and all the circumstantial blocks which make it impossible for you to take the correct decision. Despite the struggle, it is never correct to tolerate any kind of abuse, physical or mental abuse. But, it is also not easy to get rid of emotional attachment, and it can take you a while to look at the reality of the matter. It is true that people going through abuse can figure out the right thing to do and yet they are so exhausted that it becomes impossible for them to do the right thing.
Women are always not in the position to leave the relationship the minute they wish to. Various emotional and circumstantial reasons keep them from quitting an abusive relationship. There are various attachments which make it impossible for them to get out of the relationship that is not honoring them the way they deserve to be. Here are a few reasons that make it impossible for women to leave a relationship that is getting increasingly abusive either physically, mentally or even both.
#1. The Emotional Attachment
Human beings are emotional beings. But this is a sad reality that due to being raised in a certain way, generally, women tend to be more emotional. They take decisions emotionally even when it comes to picking up a life partner or dealing with people. It is impossible for them to be completely practical and take hard decisions. Therefore, situations get complicated for them when someone they love becomes abusive towards them. Is something like this happens, they still keep looking for the good in that person until the time they are completely disappointed. Until the time, they try hard to undo the reality and wish that the man they love transform into the kind of person they wish to see them as.
When you are emotionally attached to someone accepting their evil side is extremely difficult. It becomes impossible for them to make concrete decisions regarding leaving them, which then bring a lot of grief. Being strong enough to take such decisions along with all the trauma of the abuse that they have gone through, is definitely a very difficult thing to do.
What women need to do in case they are trapped by the emotional attachment, is to ask one question to themselves, that is this person who is so negative in his behavior and harmful to her even deserve all the love that is keeping her from quitting?
#2.Fear Of Being Judged
There is always the fear of being judged by the society and the feeling of being the center of discussion in the lives of others, which also includes the ones who are close to them. The fear of not being able to face the parents and family can prove to be the cause of not being able to quit the relationships. In case of the relationships that are long-lasting, it is even more difficult to quit. A woman might feel that the sudden break up will bring a lot of shame to the family. Such thoughts make it impossible for women to take decisions to get out of abusive relationships.
What is important to be done here is to make it a point to understand the fact that it is none of the world's concern if you choose to be abused or not, their judgment is not going to last forever, but those physical and mental bruises are going to last forever. At the end of the day, you are the one who will have to bear the consequences of not being able to take your power back and be strong enough to rescue yourself. You will be the one who is going to live in hell. So decide for yourself and not for people.
#3. Not In The State To Take The Correct Decision
In some cases, the abuse is such that it has a massive negative impact on the physical and mental state of the victim and they are no more in the state to decide to get out of an abusive relationship. Fighting abuse in some cases can require a huge amount of strength from the victim. But, in most cases either they are so emotionally and mentally exhausted that they are not in the state to take any decision and action steps for themselves, or they are not in the state to recognize the correct decisions anymore.
#4. Other Attachments
In many cases, there are familial ties and then there are children. If a couple has children together it becomes impossible for the mother to make a decision to leave the child and go away. She is not sure if she is going to get the custody of the child and then there are woes of being a single parent. All of this makes it impossible for her to take the decision of leaving the relationship.
#5. Dependence
In some cases, it is emotional dependence and in most cases financial dependence, that makes it impossible for them to take such a decision. When women are financially dependent on their partner, they cannot imagine their lives without the presence of the breadwinner. In the cases where the women have been dependent for a really long period of time, they really feel like it is the end of the world in case they will have to leave the relationship. This is one of the major reasons because of which women tend to continue to stay in abusive relationships.
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