Going out on a first date can be an exciting and yet a nerve wrecking experience. There are surely so many thoughts running down your head: Will he like you? Do you look good? Is there something stuck in your teeth?
Often, you don’t even know the guy you’re going out with and makes it a bigger challenge in itself. So if something goes wrong, you can be sure that there is never going to be a call after your date finishes. As heartbreaking as it may sound it is a reality indeed.
However, on many occasions, it just seems perfect. You just feel that your date is ‘the one’ and everything seems to be going well. But then, no phone calls, no texts, nothing! We’ve all faced it, and we understand that it is a difficult time to deal with. However, do not worry ladies; here are some possible reasons why he hasn’t called you back after your date. Take a look:
#1. He Lost Your Number
Let us begin things with a little practical approach. Perhaps your date did go extremely well, just like you thought it did. Maybe the chemistry and the bond were there. There is a chance that he either entered your number wrong on his phone, he accidentally deleted it, or if you wrote it down on a piece of paper, he lost that. Men can sadly be incredibly clumsy, like this, sometimes.
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#2. He Is Preoccupied With Something Or Someone
The chances are that the guy you went out on a date hasn’t been entirely upfront with you. Yes, it was an excellent date, but he obviously didn’t tell you everything going on in his head and heart. It is no surprise that in the dating world, people often date a lot of people before deciding to settle for someone (or not). And, this could very well be the reason he hasn’t called you back for many days. Or maybe he has something else going on in his life with work or family, and it's just not allowing him to make room for dating right now. There is nothing to worry about. Just remember that life can get weird and make someone busy at wrong times. The trick is just to be patient. If he never calls back, then he was never ‘the one.'
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#3. He Thinks You Are Not Interested
Perhaps you said something to him or some of your gestures just told him that you’re not super interested in him. If a guy thinks that you are not interested in him, he will always be reluctant to call you. Girls, remember; guys just like girls fear rejection. The best thing would be to wait and hope that he gathers the courage to call you back and ask you out on another date.
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#4. He Didn’t Feel The Challenge
Okay ladies, time to retrospect a bit. Did you come across as someone who is easily achievable? Are you like a no-challenge bargain for someone? Well, chances are that you let your entire life history in front of the guy on your first date. While you may argue that being honest is the best thing you can do, no one really wants to know everything about you before dating you furthermore. You have to accept that a little matter of mystery is always required for someone to be interested in you. So, if you’ve already told him everything about yourself, then he is probably not going to call because he already knows everything about you and there is going to be no fun at the next date. The advisable thing to do here would be to keep a filter on what you let out on your date. Try and keep the conversations light and fun and avoid eerie details about your life. Save that for the later ones.
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#5. He Was Just Polite
It's hard to tell someone at the end of a lovely evening that you enjoyed his or her company, but you don't feel a romantic connection. So you exchange numbers with no intention of remaking contact because you feel it's easier than being honest. You don't want to hurt that person's feelings. While it would be nice just to say, “I have enjoyed your company, but don't think I want to take it any further,” we often don't do this. Men are no different.
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#6. He’s The Shy Type
Guys too can be extremely shy at times. If he’s not calling you back, it could be because he wasn’t sure if you liked him on the first date. Maybe he’s scared that if he asks you out on a second date, you will say no. Nobody willingly seeks out rejection. If you suspect that he’s just the really shy type, you might want to send him a text message with a lot of flirty emojis or something that would let him know that you’re not going to reject a proposal for a second date.
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#7. He Is Not Interested
Okay, time to get a little disheartened, ladies. Chemistry is a tricky thing: it’s either there, or it isn’t. It can be hard to tell someone that he’s not feeling it directly through a phone call. So perhaps, to avoid hurting your feelings he just decided not to call you back. If you message him and he doesn’t respond, it’s probably likely that something like this is happening.
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#8. He Is Waiting For You To Make The First Move
This one isn’t as common, but it is possible that he wants you to make the first move. This could be the case if you are a girl who has a more dominant personality. Occasionally, the typical gender roles can get reversed. On the date, he may have gotten the impression that you’re the go-getter type who doesn’t mind making the first move.
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#9. He Broke Or Lost His Phone
What might sometimes feel as only convincing oneself, can be true! This could be another simple logistical reason why he hasn’t called you back. He may only have dropped his phone on the street and broken it. He may have gotten mugged on the street while constructing an entirely sweet text for you. But then again, he could always get it fixed or rely on social media to find you again.
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#10. He’s Just Not Ready For Commitment
Sometimes, guys will start dating before they are ready. If they have just gone through a bad breakup, or if they have been through some other hardship in their lives, they may not be emotionally ready to begin dating again. Sometimes, they may think they’re ready, but it only takes one experience in the dating world to tell them that they may need some more time.
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We understand that it is not a good space to be in. But sadly, there is nothing really we can do about it. On the flipside, it doesn’t mean the end of the road. There are so many people out there that you can meet and it is only a matter of time till you find the perfect guy to be with. So the next time you don’t get a call from your date, just remember that there can be many reasons for that. Also, don’t stop being powerful; be very powerful. More power to you ladies! If you’ve successfully come out of a similar situation, we would love to hear from you. Kindly use the comment box to share your thoughts and opinions with us.
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