Have you ever felt affectionate towards someone you never dated? What was it like? Was it one sided? Have you tried dealing with it? Or are you looking for tips to get over someone you have never dated?
If your answer is positive, then let us help you.
#1. Accept Your Feelings
You already know that this person has become an object of your affection and no matter how hard you try; you’ll not be able to deny it. You will need to accept and admit about how strong your feelings are before getting over them. Do not make the mistake of ignoring your enemy’s strength, which in this case is your affection towards someone you never dated.
You might not have dated this person, but you surely have invested a lot of time, energy, and emotions into this person. Getting over someone you have never dated becomes more difficult when you have emotionally invested in that person.
Also, you need to resist the urge of brushing this off as a silly little crush because you know things have gone way far than that. Admitting to your feelings may knock your pride down a peg or two, but eventually, it will turn out to be more helpful than living in denial.
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#2. The Truth Will Come Out
No matter how much you try to hide it, or you keep denying it, the truth will come out; today or tomorrow. You need to accept the reality that your feelings are one-sided and that you are not the only one dealing with them, there are a lot more who have suffered the same. And the worst part is that you know it all and yet it is so difficult to come to terms with the reality. You might want to believe that something can happen between the two of you, but the fact of the matter is that your feelings are not mutual and it’s all in your head.
There are both good and bad news for you in this situation. Good news is that you are not alone in this situation, there’s definitely a way of coming out of it. You will survive this too. The bad news is that you might think that you can make the other person fall for you, but this rarely happens in real life. Happy endings are only real in fiction.
#3. Is It Even Worth It?
Being head-over-heels in love with someone may feel good to you, but if the feelings are one-sided, they’ll only give you pain and not pleasure. Letting go of the feeling is the only way that can make you a happier person in the long run. Just ask yourself if the person you are almost obsessed with worth all the pain and heartbreak? If you really want to get over someone you have never dated, the best thing to do is move on to make yourself happy again.
#4. Don’t Try To Read The Unsaid
The person that you are trying to get over is your piece of adoration and everything they say or do seem just right to you. But, there could be situations when they say or do something that is actually misleading or maybe you let the misleading thoughts come to your head because you still hope for things to happen. If an action does not express affection on the surface, do not tell yourself that it does deep down the surface. If they do not respond to your feelings in kind, then they are probably not interested.
#5. Go Back To History
If you are into someone that you have never dated, then you two probably share a history. A history of interaction, and some sweet moments. That time you might have let yourself believe that the interaction was possibly an indication of some spark between the two of you, but now is the time to be honest and tell yourself that the spark never existed. Treat your memories with the same objective eye you have begun to use now when you have finally got in touch with the reality.
#6. Your Obsession Will Take You Nowhere
If you have chosen to stay in touch with the person that you have never dated and are still talking to them, then just make sure that does not allow your thoughts to linger around. Think straight. If you really wish to get over someone you never dated, then do not let a brush against your hand, a smile in your direction, or a kind greeting distract you. Anything that gets you obsessing over him/her should be immediately taken off your attention.
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#7. Maintain Some Distance
The closer you stay, the more difficult it’ll be for you to get over someone you have never dated. You do not need to sever ties with this person permanently but do it until you find enough space for yourself to let go of them. Things can get a little tricky if that person is a classmate, a fellow employ or someone you see on a regular basis. You may not be able to completely cut off all ties in such a situation, so start distancing yourself at the least. If you were till now, passing by a particular staircase or went for coffee at a specific time just to see or talk to them, stop doing it. Avoid walking the road which won’t take you to your destination.
#8. Your World Cannot Revolve Around Them Anymore
Cease from aligning yourself with that person’s interests and routine. Return back to how things used to be before they became a significant part of your life. Start doing things that you want to and the ones you have always liked doing. Stop rearranging your schedule to keep the possibilities of seeing or talking to them open.
#9. Have An Objective View Of Things
It is basic human nature to find everything correct and nice about the ones they like. You have done it too and now it’s enough because you are trying to get over that person. When you want to get over someone that you have never dated, you need to start looking at their actions objectively. Be honest about their faults and flaws to yourself and admit the fact that they aren’t as perfect as you thought they were. We obviously do not mean that you should start hating them especially if they are really decent and nice. But yes, you need to delve into your feelings.
#10. This Relationship Will Be A Deliberate Mistake
Yes, you like the person and want to be with them, but what if it’s not the right decision? He or she might be a really good person but what if you two are not right for each other? You’ll have to convince yourself that such a relationship will be a big and deliberate mistake that you should avoid.
Point out the reasons that can end the relationship. This can be especially helpful if you are close friends with the other person.
#11. Distract Yourself
Now that you have made an effort to detach yourself from the person that you have never dated, you’ll surely miss them. So what you need to do is to distract yourself from thinking about them by indulging yourself in things you like and fills your mind with good and different thoughts. Physical activities and exercising are great ways to distract you. Also, when you exercise your body automatically gets tired enough to be unable to make time for thinking anything.
#12. Boost Your Self-Esteem
When you try to get over someone you have never dated, you’ll surely suffer from low self-esteem. To boost the self-esteem, you can do things that make you feel good about yourself. Ending a relationship that never started can be damaging to your self-esteem because it makes you feel that you were not worth it.
If you have had body image issues, take the opportunity to start a healthy diet-and-exercise routine. Your self-esteem will get a boost as soon as you start feeling better about your body.
Now that you have successfully managed to get over someone you never dated, let yourself crush on someone else. Your feelings do not need to be as serious, but letting yourself view someone else as a desirable person will help you keep your thoughts sorted.
Have you ever fallen for someone you never dated? How did you get over that person? Was it painful to get over a one-sided affection? Let us know in the comment section below.