Marriage is one of the most beautiful relationships in life, with two individuals coming together to share their lives as one, till death does them apart. No matter how rosy the happy ending picture may look like, it is utopian with individual elements like cheating missing from the scene.
While men cheating on their significant halves is a topic many have spoken about, new statistics published by the Associated Press and the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy in late 2016 reveal that 14% of the women have admitted to straying while being married. These figures are alarming and raise the issue of cuckoldry for debate.
So, how will you handle your wife if you found out she is cheating on you? Will you abandon her or seek healing therapies to save the marriage? Here are some tips on how to handle the situation without causing harm to anyone:
#1. Do Not Rush Into Taking Any Decision
Although the discovery of this startling fact may be devastating, compelling you to ponder upon the past and wonder where you went wrong, making a decision in a hurry is not the solution. Decisions made in the heat of the moment often backfire, with many regretting the call. Hence, wait for the situation to cool down, analyze the scene before you make up your mind with a direction in the head.
#2. Forming Judgments May Not be Healthy
Instead of forming a judgment about her character, it would be advisable to take time out and talk to her about the infidelity. Communication plays a crucial role in this situation; it can either make a relation or break an existing one. Thus, be transparent about your feelings on her affair with an estranged man, while respecting her dignity as a woman.
#3. Exploring Options
Wife cheating is probably the worst nightmare of a man. However, in the event of the same, reacting ridiculously will only worsen the situation between the couple. Thus, the best is to calm down and explore the options available. It is important to know whether the wife wishes to continue staying with the man as his legally wedded wife or does she want to keep her affair with the estranged man. Clarity on the above will ascertain the options that are available. In case the lady regrets her act of infidelity and apologizes to the husband, a counseling session to save their marriage must be sought. However, if the woman wants to break this relation to nurture the other one, it’s time to let her go!
#4. Taking Some Time Out
Distance is probably the best medicine to heal wounds. Thus, after speaking with her on the issue of infidelity, it’s best to take some time out to seek answers to pertinent questions looming in your head. However, the principal question that must be answered before we proceed further is if you will be able to forgive her for her act of cuckoldry. It’s is extremely difficult to forget one’s past, let alone her act of infidelity. Thus, enough time must be invested in the thought process to ensure justice is done to the relation.
#5. Embracing The Change
Life will not remain the same post the cheating episode. The relationship between the couple will get affected severely, with trust becoming the weakest link in the marriage. No matter what the decision may be, it will lead to a plethora of changes in the relationship. The man must be prepared to accept these changes and not taunt about the same in future. Depending on the option chosen, the nature of the changes may vary. However, change is inevitable, and the couple must be ready to embrace it.
So, this is how you deal with a cheating wife. Liked what you read? Share your thoughts about the article through your comments below. Also, tell us what you think a man should do when his wife cheats on him.