Have you ever been played on? Did a person play with your emotions and left you? Does it happen too often? Do you think that people fool you easily? Do you wish to stop being played on? There are a lot of people who misuse other people’s emotions for their own benefit. These people who date frequently and deceive the other person in the trap of their love are called players.
The players lie to their dates, and they would give them all the attention in the world so that they start thinking that they are a good person. But when they get what they wanted, they move on to the next person. Such people play with the emotions and they get a lot of things done by the person. The people who are naive and fall into the trap of these people give up on everything, and they blindly follow what these people tell them to do. The person who has been played on is left alone.
But how are these people able to play with someone’s emotions? They can be dishonest only if the other person allows. Every person gives a subtle hint unintentionally that we fail to catch. Our conscience always informs us about the person’s intention, but we ignore it. A person should make themselves strong enough so that the other person cannot exploit them. It is very important to love yourself first. If one person can exploit you, it means that any other person also has the capability to do so. You are vulnerable, and you can be mistreated by anyone because you have made yourself a weak and sensitive person.
Every individual should have strong beliefs and control over their thoughts and actions. When you cannot take a stand for yourself, you depend on other people. Those people then have an opportunity to misguide you and take advantage of you. The bafflement caused by self-doubt and low self-esteem is one reason that people can take you for granted. Know your self-worth and know the importance of the other person in your life. When someone becomes a part of your life, you tend to do everything to make them comfortable. People start giving too much attention to the other person and make them their priority. The person who is receiving all the care will definitely make a profit out of it. Do you want to love someone whose sole purpose is to exploit you? Every person should recognize such players before they get into a relationship with them because then it will be too late and you will not realize that you are being played on. So, how to avoid being played on? How to deal with getting played? Let us give you some tips by which you can stop yourself from being played on.
#1. Decipher The Signs
Every person throws some hints when they are with you unknowingly. A person cannot be fake all the time. They will say something or do something that reflects their real self. You just have to be vigilant enough to catch those hints and decipher their meanings. If the person pays too much attention and becomes too sweet to digest, then know that something is wrong. They will talk to you all day and night so that you get used to the attention. When they withdraw, you will go crazy and you will be ready to do anything to get them back in your life. They will give you cute nicknames and they will praise you like you are the Picasso of the world. The world is artless without you. Appreciation is good but if a person overdoes it and does it too often, then know it is only to get into your good books. It is very easy to attract someone by giving them compliments. If a person asks you about your sex life on the first date or before you even meet then maybe they are curious to know how far can it go with you. The information about the number of people you have been with is not essential for the relationship.
#2. Focus On The Person’s Intentions
Try to analyze the intentions of the person. Their actions and words would tell you what they want from you. Do they tell you that you do not do anything for them even when you do all the possible thing to make them feel loved? If you are doing everything you can and they still complain that you don’t then understand that they have some other intentions. They want something else from you which has nothing to do with being loved. Either they are seeking physical pleasures from you, or they want to get something done by you. It could be anything so observe what they and do. You can always say no to something you do not like or which makes you uncomfortable.
#3. Do Not Be Vulnerable
What is the first thing that tells a player that you are an easy target? When you tell everything about your past life and how you have been hurt so badly in the past, it makes the person aware that you are vulnerable. They will know that you need a stable relationship and you will be easy to get if they do all the things that you missed in your relationship before. If you tell the person that you were not given attention, then they will not leave you alone for a minute. They will make you feel special through gifts and surprises too soon without an occasion. You will fall in love with a person who doesn't love you back. When you expose your weaknesses to the other person, they can always use them against you. You may tell everything about yourself out of respect, trust, and loyalty but you shouldn’t do it unless you are very sure of the person. Keep your personal life a secret until you know the person inside out.
#4. Be Responsible For Yourself
What you do and what other people do to you is your responsibility. If you allow people to hurt you, then they will. Draw line for the other people. Set restrictions so that nobody tries to cross their limits. Your restrictions should be such that even if someone tries to stretch them, it does not hurt you. Do not let someone talk to you impolitely or insult you. Do not allow a person to question your personal decisions or judge you for something that they have no idea about. When you stop other people from advancing negativity towards you, then nobody will be able to play with your emotions. Do not be double-faced yourself because you will attract what you possess. If you do something wrong to someone, they will hurt you back, or someone else will try to harm you. What you sow is what you reap.
#5. Do Not Let The Person Get Too Close
If you allow a person to get too close to you, then they may take advantage of it. Do not let a person get physically close at an early stage because they may be in for sex and if they get what they want they will leave you. You will regret your decision of getting intimate with the person. Do not get attached to someone without knowing where the relationship is headed. Ask them about what they think about the relationship. Either they will give you ambiguous answers or they will promise you marriage in the future, whichever thing they choose is a sign that they are playing with your emotion. Nobody will take such a huge decision to marry someone they have just known and if they still don’t know what they feel about you then also it means that they want to hook up. Maintain some distance from the person and see how they react. Ignore them for a day or two, and if they seek your attention back then it is good but if they don’t, know there was no feeling in their heart for you. They were just taking advantage of you.
#6. Talk About The Person To Someone
If you cannot decide if the person is right for you or not, then talk to someone who can help you in it. Contact your best friend and talk to them about all the things the person has been doing and saying and they will give you a fair opinion about the whole situation because they care for you and they do not want you to fall for someone not worthy. Let them know about all the dates and conversations you have had and your friend will help you through deciding what is right and wrong. Take them to meet the person you like so that they can judge the person better. If the person is ready to meet your friends, then it is a good thing, but if they hesitate, then there may be something fishy. You will know that they may be hiding something because of which they avoid interaction in public and meeting your friends.
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