When a relationship isn’t meant to be, it isn’t meant to be. No matter how much you try, you can never make it work. The only option you have then is to end it. However, no matter how much you prepare yourself for the breakup, it can become overwhelming and cause grief and sorrow.
When we go through a breakup, everybody comes to our aid in letting us know how we can get over it and what we should do during this vulnerable time in our life. But nobody tells us about the things that we shouldn’t do after we break up with somebody. Well, that is what we are here for today. And trust us, things you shouldn’t do after you break up with someone are just as crucial as the ones you do. So, let us not waste any more time and get straight to these.
#1. Do Not Assign Blame
It probably was your ex’s mistake that the relationship did not last long. Or, it probably was yours, who is to say who was worse. Experts say that if you blame your ex, there is a high chance that you will turn this blame on yourself at some point. For that very reason, we suggest you refrain from assigning blame on anyone. The relationship ended because it was meant to. Keep your focus on getting through this difficult time in your life and divert your attention towards succeeding in other aspects of your life.
#2. Do Not Isolate Yourself
Some people have the habit of isolating themselves from the world whenever they are going through a tough period in their life. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to be alone for some time to process your feelings, staying isolated for a long period can have drastic impacts on your psyche. Be alone for some time but after that, be sure to keep up the social appearances. Hang out with your friends and other people with whom you love to spend time. Just being in the company of friends and family is sometimes enough to help you get over your breakup.
#3. Do Not Get Into Another Relationship Soon
Getting into another relationship is on the top of your list of things to never do after a breakup. You may be hurt and dating someone else might seem like an easy way to cope up with your situation, but you need some time off from the dating game to heal and reconnect with yourself as an individual. It is also highly likely that the thought going out with someone new in order to make your ex jealous will cross your mind. But by doing this, you are allowing your ex to dictate how you live your life instead to doing it on your own terms.
#4. Do Not Stalk Them On Social Media
It starts with simply checking out what your ex is up to in their life through social media and ends with sleepless nights, thinking about them all the time and stalking them on all social media platforms. This day of Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram is making it almost impossible to move on from a relationship. You can simply take a break from the social media till you feel like you are ready to control your emotions. If you can’t control yourself, then we would even suggest you to deactivate your accounts temporarily.
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#5. Do Not Stop Taking Care Of Yourself
It is often seen that people let go of everything when they are going through a breakup, including themselves. And that is one of the most important things you should do when you break up with someone. Heading to the gym or cooking a delicious meal for yourself might seem too much of a task but you must not stop caring for yourself and pamper yourself during this volatile time of your life. Taking care of yourself can go a long way in making you feel better.
#6. Do Not Pretend That You Are Okay
If you are not okay, then you are not okay. This is a crucial time in your life and there is no shame in admitting that you need someone’s help to get over this. Some people like to hide their emotions, put up a fake smile to show people that their breakup is not something that they can’t handle. However, it is unhealthy. You need to process your emotions. Confide in a friend about how you feel and this will, in all likeliness, be enough to make you feel better.
#7. Do Not Get Back In Contact Soon After
Once you have broken up with someone, you need your time to adjust to your life as a single again and so do they. Justifiably so, it may be itching you to talk to your ex for one last time to tell them how you are doing and ask them about their situation but that is only going to do more damage than good. It is better to wait till you are over your ex and have understood why the two of you can never be together in a healthy relationship.
#8. Do Not Seek Comfort In Drugs And Alcohol
Drugs and booze are the first things that most heartbrokens turn towards. But the comforts these provide are only temporary and as soon as the high wears off, you continue feeling miserable like you did before, but this time, more. So, rather than these unhealthy coping mechanisms, you should seek to a better way to vent out your frustration. For instance, you can start writing a journal.
#9. Do Not Become Too Dramatic
You were in a relationship with someone which you thought was going to last forever but now it is over. So what? It does not mean that your life has ended. There might be somebody even better waiting for you out there. You should try to look at the bright side of things. This breakup could be an opportunity to add some freshness or excitement to your life. You can stop being the person who was always upset due to a fight with their partner and be a positive person who is always laughing and having fun.
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#10. Do Not Feel Guilty
There is a good chance that you feel guilty after the breakup. It may be because you were the one who initiated the separation or you think that you made the mistakes that led to where you are today. However, this is not true. The relationship ended because the two of you weren’t good for each other, so there is really no reason to feel guilty about it.
Thus, these are the things you should not do when you break-up with someone. Share your thoughts about the article through your comments in the box below. Also, tell us what you think are the things one shouldn’t do when they break-up.
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