Starting a conversation is never easy as there are doubts about how your advances will be taken by the person you are interested in and this is why most people struggle to break the ice. The situation becomes more difficult when it comes to starting a conversation on a dating site where your main intention is to get people attracted towards you. Tinder is a location-based social search mobile app that allows users to hook up. So, when you start a conversation on Tinder there will not be any doubts about your motive and you can only start a conversation with the people who are your match.
Users on Tinder are growing. A single user can indulge in multiple conversations at a time looking for the one who ropes him or her in. Below are some tips on how you can start a tinder conversation that will set you apart from the crowd.
#1. Don’t Start With Sex
It is obvious that you want some form of intimacy, be it physical, emotional or both, as that is the reason that you have a Tinder account in the first place. However, it is not a good idea to start a conversation with sex right away. Since Tinder helps you interact with people whose interest matches with yours, you can talk about an eating joint which you really like or remark about a new event that just happened, etc. It can be anything as long as it is not about sex as Tinder is full of creeps who when get matched just text 'wanna have sex' and leave it at that. When you talk about other things, you stand out from other people. Start a conversation with something that you feel might interest the other person.
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#2. Compliment
The art of complimenting can never go out of fashion because men who compliment will always be chivalrous and women who modestly tell men they like them are all the more irresistible. Do not use sentences that directly convey lust like 'I like your ass' or 'what a good rack you have,' as they may come across as crude and not seductive. Women covet men who are good with words and use them to magnify a woman’s beauty. Such is the case with men. Focus the compliment on the person and tell them that ‘you look marvelous in that sweatshirt’ instead of saying that the ‘sweatshirt looks good on you’. It is always a good idea to spot something in their profile that you can compliment them about.
#3. Don’t Be Corny
It is hard to talk about something emotional without being corny but you cannot be too emotional right from the start as this will make the other person feel that you are desperate for some love. It’s never a good idea to show that you are helplessly needy in your first conversation as it can set the other person off and make them think that you are a liar. How can you get so attached to someone without knowing them? The truth is that you cannot, so don’t be corny and tag them in Instagram posts with 'hashtag love.' Do not hound them repeatedly with messages that 'I am missing you' and 'I cannot deal with this longing because there is only one thing that courses through my veins and it is love for you.' Instead be original and show them that you have the kind of maturity which can make the relationship robust instead of it fizzling out just after you have got laid. This can never backfire because if the person is only looking to get laid, then they will, however, if they are looking for something more they know you are an option for this as well.
#4. Stay Updated
The best way to start a conversation is to speak about a current event that is going on in the world. This can facilitate communication which can be a trust-building exercise that endears them to you and you to them taking out initial hesitation out of the picture. This can also act as an alternative to the awkward silences that people face when talking to others.
#5. Don’t Overshare
When conversations start, people are usually confused if it is going well or not. Indeed, we are worrying about a lot of stuff when we are looking to start a conversation so we can easily blurt something that we did not want the person to know and make a fool out of ourselves. It is important that you keep a still tongue so that you appear as a wise head and speak only about certain details which are necessary. However, if the person you are talking to does not talk too much, then you should not probe their feelings. Speak in a reserved manner about things telling them that you are saving your enthusiasm for later.
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#6. Combine Open-Ended Questions With Your Comments
You can always combine your comments with open-ended questions. This will help to open new avenues of communication. You can give a compliment such as 'I like your dress' or 'you make really good sketches' and add a follow-up question with your compliments such as 'where did you get the dress from 'or 'when did you learn to sketch and who inspired you?'
#7. Build A Sense Of Humour
If you shower your light jokes on them once in a while, then the chances of the liking you will increase. They will be smitten and floored by your ability. Ability to add humor will tell them that they won’t be able to have boring or sad times with you adding to your appeal. You can drop sending texts for a minute and use GIF to communicating in an amusing way that will never make talking dreary.
#8. Create An Inviting Profile
Creating an inviting profile not only makes people text you but helps the person who you have texted for the first time communicate more. Make your profile interesting. This will create your chances of having better communication with people. If you have a good profile, then more people will get attracted towards you.
#9. Flirt
You can start by guessing the other person's answers. After you have learned how his or her day is like, it won’t be difficult to introduce new elements that you have imagined and narrate as a story that amuses him or her. Add yourself to the story, and there you have a good flirting message ready. Flirt with them as it will make them feel good. This will increase your chances of having a good conversation.
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