We do not realize that most of our relationships end because of something we do. We do not even realize this, but our small actions keep on sabotaging our relationship. And when we do finally become aware, it is too late and there is nothing we can do about it now.
We are here today to put that time behind you. The days when you killed your every happy relationship is going to be a thing of the past as we are telling you what exactly you are doing wrong. So, are you ready to learn how you could be sabotaging your relationship without even realizing it? Here you go:
#1. You Cancel Plans Or Show Up Late
Being on time is a way to show that you respect someone and when you are late, you indicate that you have none, neither for the person concerned nor for their time. Sometimes you cannot help being late but you have made a habit of canceling plans with your partner at the last moment or showing up late, right? You could be testing your partner’s patience. Change your attitude before your partner has had enough.
#2. You See The Glass Half Empty
Every relationship has some great sides and some dull ones, and you just can’t seem to appreciate what you have. You always see the glass half empty and keep on criticizing your partner. There could not be a worse way for you to sabotage your relationship. If you maintain the same attitude, there will come a time when your partner will realize that no matter how much they try, they can’t seem to make you happy. So, the best thing for them would be to end the relationship once and for all.
#3. You Take Things Personally
You understand that everything is not about you, but you still go about taking things personally and starting a fight whenever you get the chance. A comment your partner passed in humor seems to be pointing at you, and then there is another argument for the two of you to handle. Does that happen to you quite often?
#4. You Prioritize Other Things
Everyone has ambitions, things that they plan to achieve in their life, family, friends, and several other responsibilities. We admit that these too need to be prioritized sometimes. However, that should not be the case all the time. Your partner needs to know that they are one of your primary priorities and you are ready to put them first whenever the need be. So, start making them feel loved and stop sabotaging your own relationship from this point forward.
#5. You Can’t Get Over The Past
Everybody has a past; so does your partner and we are sure you do too. Your thoughts about your past keep you from enjoying what you have right now. Things surely were one way at some point but change is the only constant law in life. You cannot keep things from changing. What you can do is stop pondering how things used to be and start thinking about how they are and what you can do to improve. Your zero interest in the present is sabotaging your relationship’s future prospects.
Read More: How To Leave The Past Behind And Move On With Life?
#6. You Compare
Some people never find happiness in being with someone because they keep on comparing their partner or relationship with one that they have had in the past or the one that someone else enjoys. Keep dwelling on it and it won’t take too long for your partner to realize how you are still living in the old days and they should ditch you and move on. This comparison is not only making you feel bad about your current situation but also sabotaging your relationship, one blow at a time. So, you should start to understand that there was a reason why your glorious relationship that you do not seem to move on from and why you should start working on this one to make it work.
#7. Sarcasm Is The Third Wheel In Your Relationship
Are you only moderately sarcastic but it overflows when you are having a discussion with your partner? Then let us tell you that this sarcasm that makes you feel so smart is a sword that is injuring your relationship. You need to think about why the two of you are unable to have a serious discussion or conversation with being sarcastic. You need to realize that your witty sarcasm is making your partner feel unappreciated, unloved and worthless, and slowly driving them away from this relationship. So, take it down a notch, especially when you are with your partner, discussing something significant.
#8. You Seek Perfection
You expect a lot. No relationship is perfect, and neither is any person on this planet. But you still look for flaws in your partner and your relationship and feel like nothing good is ever going to happen. The feeling that you have here of the two of you not being perfect for each other is going to turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. You believe that your relationship will never be great and you just stop trying after a point. You have to understand that no relationship in this world is perfect; you just have to work on it to make it better and better with time. Seeking the perfect relationship or the partner is only going to making you hate this relationship and give up on it.
#9. You Hide Things From Your Partner
Do you think that there are some things that your partner should not know? Do you think that it is okay if you hide a few things from your partner, all the while demanding your partner to share everything with you? Then that is another way you are sabotaging your own relationship. Trust and confidence are the two pillars on which every healthy relationship rests, and if you are not someone your partner believes can be trusted, then your relationship, sorry to say this, but probably won’t last too long. In a relationship, you need to be open to your partner about everything. They might not like some decisions that you make or things that you do, but if this relationship truly means something, then they will understand you and support you no matter what.
#10. You Wish To Control Your Partner
Do you ever feel like your partner should tell you everything that is going on in their life and discuss with you before they do anything? Then don’t you think that you are sabotaging your relationship by being a little too controlling? Just like you, your partner is also a human being and can have opinions, thoughts, beliefs, and preferences of their own. They can make their own choices. Though your opinion should matter it is not to be the bottom line that your partner has to adhere to every time. Trust us; this controlling behavior is keeping you and your partner from being as happy as you can be in the relationship and slowly sabotaging your relationship.
#11. You Want The Best Of Both Worlds
Are you never satisfied with what you have? You like being in a relationship with your partner but still do not want to compromise even just a little on the freedom and space that you enjoyed while you were single? If that is the case, then you, friend, are on the wrong path. You need to understand that you cannot have the best of both worlds. Either you can be in a committed relationship, or you can be single. There is no middle road here. If you are unhappy with the way things are going in your relationship, then talk to your partner, and maybe the two of you can find an apt solution for it.
#12. Winning An Argument Is The Most Important Thing To You
Think about it; what could be a better way to sabotage your own relationship than always striving to prove your partner wrong. Some people have the habit of never admitting their defeat in an argument, and they stretch it till their opponent, who in your case is your partner, admits defeat just because they do not have any energy left to keep on going. You can’t possibly always be right and even if you are, what is the harm in letting the person you love believe that they are right?
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